What would you do?

[Peters]

i think one carrier would be enough and unless its his money and hes paying for everything its really none of his buisness on what your buying as long as your bills are payed

[BLowry]

Originally Posted by mustangbee

I have a yorkie and a Rottie. Princess and Mandy are best friends. Mandy is 100 pounds of pure love. She thinks she's a Yorkie. I will admit not all big and small furbabies get along well, but it's all in the way they are brought up. No furbaby is born mean, they act the way they are treated. Mandy is our second Rottie, with a yorkie. Roxanne was the same way, pure love, she was 12 when she passed away. That's why we looked for another one, because Princess missed her so much. They were best friends.

Sophie, my breeders Rottie, thought she was a Yorkie too! In the matter of fact when I went to pick out my first yorkie she looked like a tiny Rottie!! LOL...she had the same markings. Sophie will watch over the yorkie puppies like they are hers...she is wonderful with them.

[SJK1113]

When I decided to buy my yorkie, my husband wasn't exactly thrilled about it. He prefers bigger dogs. We didn't have any kind of argument about it, but he did say several times that he didn't want me to get a yorkie. I got my yorkie (and all those necessary accessories that they HAVE to have lol), and now my husband loves little Jake just as much as me.

I know your situation is different, and I wish you the best!

[mh357]

Originally Posted by SJK1113

When I decided to buy my yorkie, my husband wasn't exactly thrilled about it. He prefers bigger dogs. We didn't have any kind of argument about it, but he did say several times that he didn't want me to get a yorkie. I got my yorkie (and all those necessary accessories that they HAVE to have lol), and now my husband loves little Jake just as much as me.

I know your situation is different, and I wish you the best!

Thanks!! I think it must be some kind of guy thing...I think he feels like big dogs are more macho *eyeroll*. But great news! He felt absolutely terrible, and we've been talking about it, and he said he realizes how important this is to me (and he knows I don't take pet ownership lightly) so he wants to buy me my yorkie when the time is right. He wants to come with me to see the babies, research breeders, etc.! I can hardly believe it, but that's the kind of guy he is sometimes. I posted this in another thread, but I'm glad we're doing it together because some yorkies can be SO expensive, and he doesn't know anything about the non-teacup rule or anything, so without me he'd be a little lost. I'm just so glad that things have resolved themselves. One of the reasons why I love this relationship is that no matter in the world is too big to work out with some talking. And trust me, we've been through a lot! We can always work things out. It seems to trivial to argue about a dog in my mind, but he was seeing something completely different (all the responsibilities and costs). Which is a good balance. I think I'm the dreamer and he's the more practical of the both of us. I need that sometimes I think. lol! I still think he needs some work on thinking that they're "RATS" but that all comes in due time I guess. He's not going to change his mind about them being rats overnight!

[joy and bella]

when i bought my yorkie my boyfriend wasnt thrilled at all!!! he said i never payed attention to anythign but the dog and also thought it was a little rat. i didnt care...i wanted it and loved it. NOW bella is his daughter. she has daddys girl shirts which he insists on her wearing, they snuggle, he babysits when i cant be home etc. he adores her. i would just get it bc you want it, and if he is a good man like you say he will get over it and start loving the yorkie!!

as for the carriers...try and look a it from his persepctive. 4 carriers is kind of a lot for a dog you havent even gotten yet ( granted it is your money and you can do with it what you please) but you have to understand no man will understand that. my bf thinks i spend insane amounts of money on bella, which i do!! but i explain to him that it makes me happy and whether or not she needs it, i love her and i love getting thiings for her. then he just laughs and says "oookkkkkkkkk joy"...lol

good luck with everything...i am sure it will work out!!!!!

ps. good job planning in advance.....yay for you!!!!

[joy and bella]

i just read your post, i am soo excited he came around!! wow!! its great you guys can work things out like that....maybe now that he will be included in all of it he will be more open to loving the yorkie from the start...good luck with everything, and with picking out your baby!!!!!

[Rae Rae]

Are you paying your bills and everything else that needs to be paid? If you are, then sweetie get your yorkie and get as many carriers as you want for him! If it's YOUR money, NO ONE has the right to tell you how you can spend it.

I'm sure once you get your baby your bf will fall in love with him, and he'll be wanting more yorkies!

[stedmansmommy]

Well, I have to admit that my husband has gotten p!ssed at me MORE THAN ONCE for going overboard with buying things for my babies, but honestly...his frustration is TOTALLY understandable - because I'm not going to lie, I spend ALOT. And yes, 99% of it is UNNECESSARY. But - I have cut back alot on buying things for myself - and we don't have any children, so My babies are just extremely special to me and I WANT to spoil them. I think he understands it more NOW, than he used to. I really haven't been "chewed out" in quite a while for spending too much actually...it's been nice lol. So I'm kinda just waiting for the day to come, ya know LOL.

Anyway, I have to be honest, I see both of your sides. I COMPLETELY understand your wanting to shop, shop, shop for your baby, because I am EXACTLY the same way. And I totally understand you wanting a Yorkie because, well...WHO WOULDN'T But I also understand his side as to not wanting you to "get out of control" with the spending - because if he feels that you guys don't really have the money for it, or that it could be put towards other important things or whatever the case may be, well then...it's his money too and he DOES have say so in it (it sucks, I know LOL). However, I DON'T agree with him if he has ALREADY said that bringing another Yorkie into your home is ok with him, and now he is going back on his word. Because that would TOTALLY just p!ss me off, lol!

To say yes, and then NO...and get your hopes up like that is just NOT right or fair AT ALL.

But you do have to respect his opinions (even though you may not like them, or may not agree with them ) and honestly, if you are going to be with this man - you are going to have to come to some sort of an agreement as to what you can and cannot spend if it ISN'T solely your money, and your money ALONE. Because I can tell you that fighting about money can get HUGE (bad, if you know what I mean..) and can lead to lots of serious relationship problems. A friend of mine literally got a divorce because all her and her husband did was fight about money. He basically didn't want her to spend money on anything that wasn't necessary and she was a serious SHOPPER (like myself ) and it just got really bad and totally out of control.... which lead to divorce. I'm not trying to scare you or anything (and I know you aren't even MARRIED to this man yet), but just really watch yourself and don't go overboard with buying things if you know he is going to blow a fuse over it.

And can I just also add that as far as him not liking Yorkies - you just wait honey, lol! My hubby did NOT want a Yorkie (in fact he claimed he hated the breed before we got Stedman!) because they were little and yappy. Now of course, he is completely IN LOVE with our two (indeed little, but not yappy AT ALL! ) and he wouldn't trade them for ANYTHING in the WORLD! I guarantee you, once you get your baby....his whole view on them will change completely

[JESSY_RN2B]

Originally Posted by mh357

Thanks!! I think it must be some kind of guy thing...I think he feels like big dogs are more macho *eyeroll*. But great news! He felt absolutely terrible, and we've been talking about it, and he said he realizes how important this is to me (and he knows I don't take pet ownership lightly) so he wants to buy me my yorkie when the time is right. He wants to come with me to see the babies, research breeders, etc.! I can hardly believe it, but that's the kind of guy he is sometimes. I posted this in another thread, but I'm glad we're doing it together because some yorkies can be SO expensive, and he doesn't know anything about the non-teacup rule or anything, so without me he'd be a little lost. I'm just so glad that things have resolved themselves. One of the reasons why I love this relationship is that no matter in the world is too big to work out with some talking. And trust me, we've been through a lot! We can always work things out. It seems to trivial to argue about a dog in my mind, but he was seeing something completely different (all the responsibilities and costs). Which is a good balance. I think I'm the dreamer and he's the more practical of the both of us. I need that sometimes I think. lol! I still think he needs some work on thinking that they're "RATS" but that all comes in due time I guess. He's not going to change his mind about them being rats overnight!

Great news!

[BlondieGirl87]

Originally Posted by mh357

My boyfriend found out how much I spent on the Juicy carrier and saw me in the process of trying to spend more $$ on 3 more carriers, and he absolutely flipped out at me. (In the end I wasn't allowed to buy the 3 carriers and I was so embarrassed that I had to tell this really nice person I couldn't do it...so ashamed ). It completely blew up into this GINORMOUS argument about how I don't even have this dog yet, and how he doesn't even want me to get my yorkie!! He's so seriously adamant about hating little dogs and not wanting me to get my baby. I mean this was like a serious all-out fight--all about me not getting this dog, and THEN it turned into how I'm a frivolous buyer/spender and I buy things that aren't necessary or things I don't need. It was so hurtful and so I was ashamed for him thinking these things of me, and then ashamed that I had to tell this other person I couldn't send her the money. I felt so bad, you have no idea. And now I feel even worse because I don't know how to convince him that I should have my yorkie. He says that since we live together and will be getting married soon, he should have a say in the dog buying. What do you guys think? He knows I've wanted one for so long and all he can say is that he doesn't "want a little rat". I'm just so upset over this

Sorry to hear about this! I think most guys don't understand how much women in general really enjoy shopping, not even for ourselves, but for the ones we really love and care about. I know I go crazy shopping for my two babies but I've never had any fights or problems over money. I do work and the way I see it, it is my money and I will spend it how I choose. In my opinion, no man has any say over what you want to do with your money. You worked for it you should spend it however you want to. Now, if it is his money, unfortunately, he does have some say in it. Maybe you could try sitting down and talking to him calmy and explaining that yes these some things are expensive, like carriers etc., but these are things you really want to have for your new pup and if he loves you, he should understand that. Maybe you could even agree not to have anniversary presents or birthday gifts but instead save that money to use on your new puppy. You could also try to explain to him that initially owning a pup is VERY expensive. You have to get everything that you need, carriers, blankets, crates, beds, etc. However, once you have all these things, the upkeep really isn't all that expensive, and trust me hun, once you bring that baby home and it gets all over him and starts to give him kisses his whole outlook will change

Best of luck to you! Keep us updated!

[cockerduchess]

Originally Posted by yougetthesmiles

I agree! and also if he wants a Rott, I would never have a Yorkie with a Rott!!!!

I would just like to say that I have a Rott and a Mastiff/Pit mix and they are both large dog and I kinda worried when I first got my little girl but they just love her they are both so sweet with her they romp and play with her and let her crawl all over them I have to get on to Emma and tell her to calm down but the big babies have never hurt her and they stand at the door just waiting for her to come out and play!

[kelkiss5]

Im so glad you guys have resolved it. But I suppose you have to understand were he is coming from. If you are getting married he,s probably thinking that you could be spending your money on better things than 2 unessescery carriers, especialy when you dont even have the dog yet.
Anyway we all no what men think of toy dogs, it is def a macho thing. When I wanted a yorkie my hubby says aye right. Well what do you no, I have 2 girls now, missy had her first litter, we are kepping a girl, and he also wants me to keep the boy, It was me that had to say NO.
So it just goes to show that they can fall in love with the breed as well.
Good luck in your coming marriage I hope you have a lot of Yorkie years together. lol