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Originally Posted by mh357  My boyfriend found out how much I spent on the Juicy carrier and saw me in the process of trying to spend more $$ on 3 more carriers, and he absolutely flipped out at me. (In the end I wasn't allowed to buy the 3 carriers and I was so embarrassed that I had to tell this really nice person I couldn't do it...so ashamed  ). It completely blew up into this GINORMOUS argument about how I don't even have this dog yet, and how he doesn't even want me to get my yorkie!! He's so seriously adamant about hating little dogs and not wanting me to get my baby. I mean this was like a serious all-out fight--all about me not getting this dog, and THEN it turned into how I'm a frivolous buyer/spender and I buy things that aren't necessary or things I don't need. It was so hurtful and so I was ashamed for him thinking these things of me, and then ashamed that I had to tell this other person I couldn't send her the money. I felt so bad, you have no idea. And now I feel even worse because I don't know how to convince him that I should have my yorkie. He says that since we live together and will be getting married soon, he should have a say in the dog buying. What do you guys think? He knows I've wanted one for so long and all he can say is that he doesn't "want a little rat". I'm just so upset over this |
Sorry to hear about this!
I think most guys don't understand how much women in general really enjoy shopping, not even for ourselves, but for the ones we really love and care about. I know I go crazy shopping for my two babies but I've never had any fights or problems over money. I do work and the way I see it, it is my money and I will spend it how I choose. In my opinion, no man has any say over what you want to do with your money.
You worked for it you should spend it however you want to. Now, if it is his money, unfortunately, he does have some say in it. Maybe you could try sitting down and talking to him calmy and explaining that yes these some things are expensive, like carriers etc., but these are things you really want to have for your new pup and if he loves you, he should understand that. Maybe you could even agree not to have anniversary presents or birthday gifts but instead save that money to use on your new puppy. You could also try to explain to him that initially owning a pup is VERY expensive. You have to get everything that you need, carriers, blankets, crates, beds, etc. However, once you have all these things, the upkeep really isn't all that expensive, and trust me hun, once you bring that baby home and it gets all over him and starts to give him kisses his whole outlook will change
Best of luck to you! Keep us updated!
