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bornnygurl · 02-28-2007, 11:16 AM

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Originally Posted by JESSY_RN2B

Well, you have a TON of new friends on here; starting with me.

Awe, thanks! That's really sweet!

BlondieGirl87 · 02-28-2007, 11:17 AM

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Originally Posted by ARCHIE

You guys are a hard act to follow

I was so happy to accidently find this site. I hung in the background
for awhile seeing how everyone knew each other. I saw a thread
I felt compelled to post on and almost got in a cyber space cat
fight

Yes, it was one that I totally disagreed with. Then I thought
do I want to get involved with these kind of people who would think
this way? Someone PM'ed me and said it's only a few, to hang in there
and get more acquainted. I am sooooooooooooo very happy I did.
Thank you all for being my YT friend and making me feel so at home now.
Your all very special people and of course Yorkies rule.

Carol & Buddy

LOL Oh Carol, you KNOW you and Buddy are loved here!! Jaden, Jewelina and I are SO happy you decided to stick around here too!

abbie's mom · 02-28-2007, 11:18 AM

I guess when I ordered Abbie's first harness from Connie, and she was so sweet to write on days with just chit-chat. Then, I began reaching out to offer avatars to some (I can't resist a cute Yorkie face!) and felt more a part, when I would see them around the board.

Then, participating in the Gift Exchange did a little more to help me feel a part of the community.

Of course, there are some days, I still feel disconnected.

jp4m2 · 02-28-2007, 11:40 AM

I've been on here a while & I'm not feeling it yet....The people that I remember are the ones that have some drama (i.e. as in a lost or very ill yorkie, or a family in crisis) going on that I come to know a bit better & remember....A lot of people are known by their real names also & not their screen names...that helps on a more personal level...& the thread that puts a face to a name really adds that extra touch.....I realized that I've never posted a pic. or added my name to my signature & I've started posts but didn't stick around to interact w/ the people posting...entirely my fault....So if maybe we're not feeling included ask ourselves what can we do different.

bornnygurl · 02-28-2007, 12:30 PM

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Originally Posted by jp4m2

I've been on here a while & I'm not feeling it yet....The people that I remember are the ones that have some drama (i.e. as in a lost or very ill yorkie, or a family in crisis) going on that I come to know a bit better & remember....A lot of people are known by their real names also & not their screen names...that helps on a more personal level...& the thread that puts a face to a name really adds that extra touch.....I realized that I've never posted a pic. or added my name to my signature & I've started posts but didn't stick around to interact w/ the people posting...entirely my fault....So if maybe we're not feeling included ask ourselves what can we do different.

I don't know. I mean granted it's nice to feel like you belong but I was never one to try hard to fit in. If I fit I do, if I don't; I don't. Eventually if I don't feel like I belong I move on. So far I have not felt completely alienated from this site though.

FlDebra · 02-28-2007, 12:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Grayson's mom

I guess it was shortly after I got a wonderful offer to have my new puppy Grayson have a avatar made!!

V was so sweet or rather is.........

Isn't that the truth! I wonder how many people have had their day made when Villette PM's? I have not taken her up on the generous avatar offer but I will when I finally get a good pic of all mine. It is just a very nice welcoming gesture and I hope she knows we appreciate her!!! Are you reading V?

I have felt fairly welcome from the beginning. I actually felt this was a very non-cliquish site. Sure some have known each other a long time and have history -- but the ones that have been here the longest also seem to be the ones to reach out to new folks. I think it is normal in any group that the new people think they are not at the hub of things. Try moving to a small town!

We have been here for 16 years and are still the "new folks." But I did find out that even the "new folks" can initiate the first conversation and make great friends.

red98vett · 02-28-2007, 01:14 PM

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Originally Posted by FlDebra

Isn't that the truth! I wonder how many people have had their day made when Villette PM's? I have not taken her up on the generous avatar offer but I will when I finally get a good pic of all mine. It is just a very nice welcoming gesture and I hope she knows we appreciate her!!! Are you reading V?

I have felt fairly welcome from the beginning. I actually felt this was a very non-cliquish site. Sure some have known each other a long time and have history -- but the ones that have been here the longest also seem to be the ones to reach out to new folks. I think it is normal in any group that the new people think they are not at the hub of things. Try moving to a small town!

We have been here for 16 years and are still the "new folks." But I did find out that even the "new folks" can initiate the first conversation and make great friends.

yup I'm reading & thank you

(and thanks to the others who posted here in this thread)

I agree with your post - for a big site like this I don't really think it's clickish either - of course there are people who may post back and forth, but in general everyone gets fair play I think.....The best way for a new person to get noticed is to just jump in with both feet. This is now a VERY big site...it's hard keeping up with everyone but the more your name is on the site the better chance people have of getting to know you....

For those who are REALLY new - same applies lol - it used to be where we could welcome every new member but it's close to impossible now... so if you feel a little shy - Start a thread or post some pictures. If you need help - ask !!

KiKiPie · 02-28-2007, 07:55 PM

LOL I am just thinking about how many times I have asked Villette to help with my avatar or signature. She is so helpful and sweet.

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Originally Posted by red98vett

yup I'm reading & thank you

(and thanks to the others who posted here in this thread)

I agree with your post - for a big site like this I don't really think it's clickish either - of course there are people who may post back and forth, but in general everyone gets fair play I think.....The best way for a new person to get noticed is to just jump in with both feet. This is now a VERY big site...it's hard keeping up with everyone but the more your name is on the site the better chance people have of getting to know you....

For those who are REALLY new - same applies lol - it used to be where we could welcome every new member but it's close to impossible now... so if you feel a little shy - Start a thread or post some pictures. If you need help - ask !!

TootiesMom · 02-28-2007, 08:21 PM

not sure if I "fit" but I have never felt like anyone was anything but nice to me here on YT!

Thanks to YT, I found my precious Hope and have met some really great people...
During the time that I thought I wouldnt be able to get my baby, everyone here was very supportive.
ys, I am often a thread killer and have posts that no one replies to; but the ones that do make up for all that!

I have received great advice and lots of information here...

sometimes I think I am out of the "click" but then again, is there even a click?

all I can say is, loved or not, I LOVE it here and enjoy everyone's pics and information...

OH, forgot to mention the GREAT products I have found here.... my American Express thanks YT!
d

bornnygurl · 02-28-2007, 08:39 PM

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Originally Posted by TootiesMom

OH, forgot to mention the GREAT products I have found here.... my American Express thanks YT!
d

That is for sure. I don't think my girl would have half the stuff she has had it not been for this site

AngieDoogles · 02-28-2007, 10:01 PM

I'm still not to the "I belong here" point yet. I tend to read a lot more than I post, but I'm trying to do better! I think tonight has been my best YT night so far because I've had lots of PMs and been involved in the threads much more than I ever have before.

But even if I don't feel like I'm necessarily a part of this community, I'm SO glad it's here because anytime I have any questions at all about Marty, the answer is already here. All I have to do is search for it. So thanks YT! You guys are awesome!

Syl- · 02-28-2007, 10:59 PM

I have been here since October and feel way out in left field. I posted saying I was new but didnt get the welcome(oh well), everyone got so just kept trying, then realized I needed pictures but only got 6 oohs and awes(oh well) so kept trying. Now tonight I posted a thread and didnt realize I posted in wrong forum and they moved it now I feel like leaving the field. but I will cheer on. Sorry admin. I dont PM but one member because I dont want to intrude, and feel I am intruding then. I have hard time making friends
and lost my only friend in Nov. very unexpectedly
and I live in small town and live way out of town so I just enjoy my animals and my hubby of 35 years.

Syl- · 02-28-2007, 11:06 PM

I have been here since October and feel way out in left field. I posted saying I was new but didnt get the welcome(oh well), everyone got so just kept trying, then realized I needed pictures but only got 6 oohs and awes(oh well) so kept trying. Now tonight I posted a thread and didnt realize I posted in wrong forum and they moved it now I feel like leaving the field. but I will cheer on. Sorry admin. I dont PM but one member because I dont want to intrude, and feel I am intruding then. I have hard time making friends
and lost my only friend in Nov. very unexpectedly
and I live in small town and live way out of town so I just enjoy my animals and my hubby of 35 years. I do enjoy seeing people from my home state of Washington and saw someone here from Riverbank California where my inlaws lived, talk about a small town, but I loved it. Maybe someday I will feel like I belong, maybe not, who knows.

Syl- · 02-28-2007, 11:13 PM

Sorry double post. Dont know how that happened. How do you cancel when that happens. Sorry again. I think its time for bed.

Gizmo's Mom · 03-01-2007, 03:52 AM

I sit up with my daughter most nights and while she can sleep I search the internet for information and support for her disability. One night a couple of years ago trying to stay awake I came across YT. It was so informative and friendly and had something I didn't have that much of..interaction with people..even if it were online. While I don't talk much about the homelife I have not had a problem talking about Gizmo and his health problems. When I have a question or he is having a spell with the HGE or Pancreatitis people have come out of the woodwork with kind wishes, suggestions and inquiries. This is when I first felt I belonged, even tho I don't post that much I am here most times just lurking.

Thank you all for being there.

02-28-2007, 11:18 AM	#48
abbie's mom Lovin' 2 Girls Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: VA Posts: 3,593 Blog Entries: 4	I guess when I ordered Abbie's first harness from Connie, and she was so sweet to write on days with just chit-chat. Then, I began reaching out to offer avatars to some (I can't resist a cute Yorkie face!) and felt more a part, when I would see them around the board. Then, participating in the Gift Exchange did a little more to help me feel a part of the community. Of course, there are some days, I still feel disconnected. __________________ Ask Abi

02-28-2007, 11:40 AM	#49
jp4m2 Love my Boys Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: w/ my boys Posts: 5,056	I've been on here a while & I'm not feeling it yet....The people that I remember are the ones that have some drama (i.e. as in a lost or very ill yorkie, or a family in crisis) going on that I come to know a bit better & remember....A lot of people are known by their real names also & not their screen names...that helps on a more personal level...& the thread that puts a face to a name really adds that extra touch.....I realized that I've never posted a pic. or added my name to my signature & I've started posts but didn't stick around to interact w/ the people posting...entirely my fault....So if maybe we're not feeling included ask ourselves what can we do different. __________________ B.J.mom to : Jake J.J. Jack & Joey, momma misses you..... The joy found in the companionship of a pet is a blessing not given to everyone. The two most powerful words when we’re in struggle: me too..

02-28-2007, 08:21 PM	#54
TootiesMom and Hopeys Mom Too Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Louisiana Posts: 4,109	fitting in... not sure if I "fit" but I have never felt like anyone was anything but nice to me here on YT! Thanks to YT, I found my precious Hope and have met some really great people... During the time that I thought I wouldnt be able to get my baby, everyone here was very supportive. ys, I am often a thread killer and have posts that no one replies to; but the ones that do make up for all that! I have received great advice and lots of information here... sometimes I think I am out of the "click" but then again, is there even a click? all I can say is, loved or not, I LOVE it here and enjoy everyone's pics and information... OH, forgot to mention the GREAT products I have found here.... my American Express thanks YT! d __________________ Donna's little herd.... Tooties Dogster http://www.dogster.com/?271687 Hopeys Dogster http://www.dogster.com/?448723 and Tinker, TBone(RIP) Laci .. OH, and Me-Kitty(RIP)

02-28-2007, 10:01 PM	#56
AngieDoogles Mom to Marty & Maddie Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: TN Posts: 2,995 Blog Entries: 1	I'm still not to the "I belong here" point yet. I tend to read a lot more than I post, but I'm trying to do better! I think tonight has been my best YT night so far because I've had lots of PMs and been involved in the threads much more than I ever have before. But even if I don't feel like I'm necessarily a part of this community, I'm SO glad it's here because anytime I have any questions at all about Marty, the answer is already here. All I have to do is search for it. So thanks YT! You guys are awesome! __________________ Marty Maddie

02-28-2007, 10:59 PM	#57
Syl- Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: New Mexico Posts: 74	I have been here since October and feel way out in left field. I posted saying I was new but didnt get the welcome(oh well), everyone got so just kept trying, then realized I needed pictures but only got 6 oohs and awes(oh well) so kept trying. Now tonight I posted a thread and didnt realize I posted in wrong forum and they moved it now I feel like leaving the field. but I will cheer on. Sorry admin. I dont PM but one member because I dont want to intrude, and feel I am intruding then. I have hard time making friends and lost my only friend in Nov. very unexpectedly and I live in small town and live way out of town so I just enjoy my animals and my hubby of 35 years.

02-28-2007, 11:06 PM	#58
Syl- Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: New Mexico Posts: 74	I have been here since October and feel way out in left field. I posted saying I was new but didnt get the welcome(oh well), everyone got so just kept trying, then realized I needed pictures but only got 6 oohs and awes(oh well) so kept trying. Now tonight I posted a thread and didnt realize I posted in wrong forum and they moved it now I feel like leaving the field. but I will cheer on. Sorry admin. I dont PM but one member because I dont want to intrude, and feel I am intruding then. I have hard time making friends and lost my only friend in Nov. very unexpectedly and I live in small town and live way out of town so I just enjoy my animals and my hubby of 35 years. I do enjoy seeing people from my home state of Washington and saw someone here from Riverbank California where my inlaws lived, talk about a small town, but I loved it. Maybe someday I will feel like I belong, maybe not, who knows.

02-28-2007, 11:13 PM	#59
Syl- Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: New Mexico Posts: 74	Sorry double post. Dont know how that happened. How do you cancel when that happens. Sorry again. I think its time for bed.

03-01-2007, 03:52 AM	#60
Gizmo's Mom No Longer a Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Texas Posts: 1,490 Blog Entries: 7	I sit up with my daughter most nights and while she can sleep I search the internet for information and support for her disability. One night a couple of years ago trying to stay awake I came across YT. It was so informative and friendly and had something I didn't have that much of..interaction with people..even if it were online. While I don't talk much about the homelife I have not had a problem talking about Gizmo and his health problems. When I have a question or he is having a spell with the HGE or Pancreatitis people have come out of the woodwork with kind wishes, suggestions and inquiries. This is when I first felt I belonged, even tho I don't post that much I am here most times just lurking. Thank you all for being there.