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Old 02-21-2007, 05:37 AM   #1
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I am so upset with my mother-in-law!!

As most of you already know I am having a boy and his name is going to be Pedro Nieves. Well My MOther in law is calling the baby. The Taco Bell Baby and telling every one he has a taco bell name. Which is PI$$ING ME OFF!!

I am half hispanic and half white..and my name is hispanic (OLIVIA) so dose this make me her taco bell daughter in law!?!!

And what is making me MORE Pi$$ed , is she is joking around dis-owning him,if we name him Pedro Nieves. Which I already told her, go ahead I dont give a crap. My mom will spoil him enough for the booth of y'all. Plus!! NO ONE, I mean NO ONE is going to try to tell me what to name MY kid. I am the one who has to push him out and go through all the labor pain. So me, my self and I (which is already 3 people!!) are going to name him. NO ONE ELSE.

It's really pi$$ing me off . The only reason she dose not like the name is BC in English it means Pet and thats my hubbies, late dads name. And she HEATS him with a passion. Which his dad is not the ONLY person I am naming him after. Also my dads, dad( who I never got to meet), my uncle (who passed away a few yrs ago)and then the middle name is my dads other brothers name (who never got married or had any kids)

(In case any one is wondering, my mother-in-law is white...)

Sorry I just need to vent... I know when I go back home in March for a visit and when its time to head up to see her...if she start this crap, then I might need someone to bell me out of jail lol.
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I am sorry she is being so disrespectful of you. She seems to be a very insensitive person and I would just ignore her and take the high road and not get dragged into fighting at her level. Hopefully once she see her new grandchild she will stop talking like that.
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Thats horrible!!!! I hate my MIL with a passion so i know how hard it is when they are being difficult! Your right it is your chioce. BTW I'll come Bail you out lol
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I don't blame you for being upset. There is no excuse for her immature and disrespectful conduct. I can't really offer advice just encouragement to rise above and enjoy your pregnancy and your child -- named as you and your husband decide!

Pedro means "a rock" -- good name for a strong young man with a sound, stable foundation!
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My Dear Olivia,
I am so sorry that you are having to put up with her insensitivity. No one deserves this type of disrespect. You are not only responsible for naming your son but are responsible for his life. Obviously she doesn't realize that comments such as this carry a hurt that lasts a long time. I wish that you were my daughter-in-law (I have 2 and a son-in-law) there's always room in my heart for one more. My dear, I'll pray for peace for that place in your heart that she has hurt so much and for your family. This should be a time of great joy, not a time of hurt feelings and jealousy (I suspect she's having a bit of a fit). Hugs and good wishes to you.
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I am sorry she is being so disrespectful of you. She seems to be a very insensitive person and I would just ignore her and take the high road and not get dragged into fighting at her level. Hopefully once she see her new grandchild she will stop talking like that.
Excellent advice, beautifully worded. I'm sorry you're going through all this. You don't need the stress while you're pregnant. I'm sure things will get better for you. Just keep positive and ignore the negativity.
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Could your husband maybe talk to her privately about how she is hurting your feelings? I am sorry about your experience. I have had similar experiences because I am a foreigner, people asking if we have electricity "over there" and whether I rode a camel to school. You try to say, "well it just shows your ignorance/intolerance" but it hurts.
I hope things will get better for you.
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Olivia, don't let it bother you. I went through a similiar situation with my mother in law. Both of my boys are adopted and were born in Guatemala. My oldest son is has more typical coloring of the country (Spanish/Olive) and my younger son is very white. When my oldest came home, my mother in law was forever putting sunblock on him and keeping him covered so he wouldn't get any darker. AND, when my youngest arrived, she made no bones about who her favorite was by saying "Oh Nicky is so much cuter." Well it wasn't that he was so much cuter, it was he was so much whiter. Let it roll off your back. BTW, my oldest is now 13 and has more girls after him. LOL. My youngest is only ten so he's not interested in girls yet. LOL. Elaine
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Thats horrible!!!! I hate my MIL with a passion so i know how hard it is when they are being difficult! Your right it is your chioce. BTW I'll come Bail you out lol
Thanks, I might need you too lol

I just dont know whats wrong with her?? Today I got a email telling me what all she got the baby and what all I STILL NEED to BUY... What the HECK? When did she start telling me when I need to buy this and this for the baby!? I didnt even reply to the email. I would have broke my key bored if I did.

I know its her 1st grandkid.. as it is for my mom and dad too! but there not acting like this!

My Hubby just tells me dont take what she says to heart. Half the time she is talking out her you know where.... BUT STILL, if she didnt mean it...she would not say it.... At lest that how I feel.

I wish there was a place to trade bad mother-in-laws in somewhere!
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Aww Olivia! I understand, my mom is mexican & my dad is black. Hey i'll come bail you out of jail if you need me to.
I like Pedro, it's adorable! Don't let her get to you, he's your little bundle of joy, not hers.

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Aww Olivia! I understand, my mom is mexican & my dad is black. Hey i'll come bail you out of jail if you need me to.
I like Pedro, it's adorable! Don't let her get to you, he's your little bundle of joy, not hers.

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I am so sorry you have such a MIL. I think that is an absolute terrible thing to say!! I cannot imagine ANY grandmother saying such a horrible thing. It is obvious she is only concerned with herself. She is only thinking about how she believes it is going to make her look. And all that says is that she is a very insecure woman. Since she is insecure ..... this may be her way of getting attention from your husband, since you are pregant I am sure you have been getting all of his attention lately, maybe she is just jealous. You know what they say....negative attention is better than no attention at all! Good grief, what a wanch! DO NOT let her upset you, she is not worth it!!! Sounds like she is trying to push your buttons .... don't give her the satification.
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Oh poor Olivia! I know exactly what you are going through...my MIL is the same way. She's been trying to be nice to me because we're having a baby, but what she thinks is helpful (like telling me what I can and can't eat, what I can and can't do) is super irritating. And as for the name thing...if we were having a boy, we were going to name him Luka. Well my MIL claims that's a girls name and was refusing to call him that. And then she claimed she was going to call the baby Tre because it will be her third grandchild. Now since it's a girl she's been calling the baby Diane (her name) and telling everyone we're naming the baby after her. Which she knows is a lie, so I ended up making a deal with her...She'll be the first to know the baby's name as long as she stops calling the baby Diane and basically leaves us alone. (It's pretty easy to ignore her too since she lives far away from us, we just silence the phones). But you might want to tell your MIL that it's bothering you and that if she wants a good relationship with her grandson she's going to have to respect his name. Her calling him a taco bell kid is horrible and would make your son self-conscious of his name (if his own grandmother is making fun of it).
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I wish there was a place to trade bad mother-in-laws in somewhere!
HMM.. i google it and see if we can take both our MIL there lol hahahahaha. I have tried for 7 years to win over my MIL and she hates me and i hate her (very very long story) But i just don't care anymore we don't really talk to her much now so it's nice. They gave me a really hard time with my first baby i wanted to name him Dakota Dallas but they wouldn't have it so i made up the name Trieden(Tree-den) and i love it but they hated it so i told them where they could stick there opinion and i named him that anyway. Well my second baby i wanted to name Sebastion well my mom had a cow becaus it was the crabs name on the little mermaid lol so i named him Kaleb Sebastion( i wanted the Kaleb to) so i settled mostly because my hubby didn't like it either. You name that baby what you want because like you said YOU HAVE TO PUSH HIM OUT NOT THEM! If i find a MIL trade in center i will call you lol
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Olivia -- I thought more about this and decided to amend my earlier suggestion to just rise above. She is not just insulting a name choice, she is trying to insult your heritage and that just cannot be tolerated. Not now, not ever. I think it is important that you and your husband approach her as a united front and just tell her that neither of you will tolerate that sort of behavior. You want it to stop now and ensure your son is never subjected to her cruelty. She may react badly, but you both need to stand firm. She either straightens up or she does not get to be a part of your family.
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