7am Text Message

[MissLola]

What a coward! You are obviously way too good for a guy like that. I'm sorry it happened when you've been together for so long, but you can do better.

[Kelz]

wow.. what a loser.. he couldn't even tell you face to face..he had to send a text message...

[SweetUp&Down]

My boyfriend and I are in a long distant relationship
I live in New Jersey he lives in Tennessee this whole
time we have been back and forth. He comes to NJ
for three months goes back to Tennessee comes
two months later..And vice versa

In November we sat down when I was in Tennessee
and I told him that I liked it there and could see myself
living there.

I love New Jersey and have lived here all my life,
but Im willing to compromise, things are much
cheaper in Tennessee and a lot quieter.

Our apartment has been paid for since December
one that we both picked out and agreed upon.

I started to pack my things, I gave my job
two weeks. And everything was set.

He sent me a valentines card a week ago
with the sweetest message ever. As of
last night things were still fine, we werent
arguing or anything.

He was excited that pepe mint picked up
Kobe and he couldnt wait to meet him/us

All i asked was if he would mind getting
up a bit early on friday morning before
work so I could take Kobe to the vet
to follow up with his boosters.

He followed up his text message
grumbling something about money.
he doesnt have it, he rather live alone.

Everyone is broke, everyone makes it
and works things out. Hopefully he is
just stressed but if its over then its
over i guess.

I told him he didnt have to pay
for anything for my dog, I knew I wanted
a dog awhile back so I started to prepare
and bought toys, food, etc..

And have the $ for his boosters

[sweetr72]

Sounds very strange!! Was that the last message he sent..did you reply to it?? He kind of left you high and dry if you are all packed up and ready to move!!! OMG..!!!!

Dawn

[txshopper73]

Something doesn't sound right. But to be honest, it's better that this happen now than later. Obviously this guy has a lot of growing up to do. Don't blame yourself for anything. He's the one with issues that he needs to work through.

[Thorsmomma]

I'm so sorry. If you need to talk, feel free. Men can be such jerks!! Hang in there.

[yorkiepip]

Im sorry you are going thru this, keep your chin up you are worth more than this!

[jp4m2]

Sweetup&down, I'm going on some assumptions here..the only thing I can offer as a outsider is you need a final conversation w/ him . No crying..no guilt.. just a frank & honest talk... I think you two are very young & if he has not been on his own before or lived w/ you before, the reality of what's about to happen could be to much for him to handle.Just maybe he's afraid of the big "C" word (commitment).Life as you two know it will change...bills, responsibility, accountability to each other, sacrifices,
& a loss of some privacy.. etc.etc...That's some pretty scary stuff.

I'm not excusing his behavior, that text was not the way to end a relationship.
But you do need some clarification so you can at least have a better understanding of what went on....Some times these things happen..but it still hurts like h*ll. Good luck

[TyraandMrJ]

use his phone or whatever he's texing with and do that? I've seen it happen with emails? why not that? Girl I know broke it off with her fiance because of a email. that his roommates sister sent in his name because she wanted him??? I'd say call and make sure. Tyty

[SweetUp&Down]

Originally Posted by jp4m2

Sweetup&down, I'm going on some assumptions here..the only thing I can offer as a outsider is you need a final conversation w/ him . No crying..no guilt.. just a frank & honest talk... I think you two are very young & if he has not been on his own before or lived w/ you before, the reality of what's about to happen could be to much for him to handle.Just maybe he's afraid of the big "C" word (commitment).Life as you two know it will change...bills, responsibility, accountability to each other, sacrifices,
& a loss of some privacy.. etc.etc...That's some pretty scary stuff.

I'm not excusing his behavior, that text was not the way to end a relationship.
But you do need some clarification so you can at least have a better understanding of what went on....Some times these things happen..but it still hurts like h*ll. Good luck

I know..I was hoping that he was just scared of "the reality of whats about to happen" Only my boyfriend and I arent the same age, he is 42 i would have hoped that he realized what he wants by now.

We did talk a bit while he was on his break and he didnt say much other than he wont leave me high and dry, he will help me with bills and stuff until I get settled. I asked him was he cheating and he said of course not. We will still be together and go out and do stuff..

And I said well you wont be there at night, and he said that he will come over and bring bullet...his dog and we will all sleep in the bed like we always do.

He said that he loves me, even though I told him not to even go there. And he ended it with I will talk to you later on tonight.

...So I will post tommorow what he said

[daisy mae06]

Oh jenn I am so sorry all of this is happening. Your Boat is so full already You need to be worring about getting better and your move. And now this??? Well If you deside to move to Nashville at least you know you have lots of YT friends to be there now. I really don't know what else to tell you hun. You can give me a call any time you wanna vent or just talk. I am so sorry this is happening.

[Saleswman]

he must have taken pointers from Britney Spears....LOL.........the using the text message thing.....instead of face to face.....

Anyway, all laughing aside......I think I read that he wants to come and bring the dog by to see you, and that he would not leave you high and dry???? And that he would come and sleep??????????

What is the HECK....is he THINKING????......."having his cake and eat it too".....and he is OVER 40?????? I say.......and I can tell you this from experience......put his stuff in boxes....label them, tell him to come and get them.....PERIOD........I promise....if you grovel......it won't work...and he will do this same thing to you for the rest of your life.....yes, he may have a commitment problem.....well.........you don't......

I am a huge believer of........"if a relationship is difficult....then it is NOT the right one.......

Hang in there......but, don't be a door mat.....

[Txgurl06]

dont be at his beckin call (is that how you say it) he will run all over you. be careful and just play hard to get like. if thats how you feel i respect your decision


even tho i would probably be histerical right now lol!

[LunasMomma]

OH GIRL! He is WAY too old to be playing games like this. How old are you, if you don't mind me asking? I only ask cuz I think he may be trying to play you and keep you on a string, while he's free to do whatever. You deserve to be NUMBER ONE in your man's life, and he obviously isn't going to give you that.

If it was me, I'd move on,but I know it's easy for me to say that. Keep talking to us, we all can help you navigate this stuff,k?

[Grayson's mom]

Is there anyway to get your job back?

RUN while you can, and tell him he can't have his cake and eat it too!