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11-06-2006, 06:08 PM | #1 |
My Best Friend Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: oklahoma
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| Ever feel this way? Ever feel like giving up? I feel this way right now. I'm just so tired of doing it all by myself. I'm tired of trying to raise 4 kids alone. I never thought my life would be this way. I'm so lonely and depressed with my husband being gone. I had to have surgery by myself and deal with 4 kids that don't respect or mind me by myself. (And the topper is those kids are mine not my husbands.) I just don't know where I went wrong. I just don't enjoy life or find any happiness anymore. I'm sorry for coming on here and moaning. I'm sure that that others have it far worse than me.
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11-06-2006, 06:16 PM | #2 |
Loved by Layla Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Canada
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| it doen'st matter "how much worse" someone else might have it. These are your problems and for you they are real and important. Have you talked to someone about this? Earlier this week someone posted something along these lines.. and the general responses were.. you can't do this alone... i'm a "kid" well 23.. but i live at home still.. and i know i haven't been perfect... but know that your kids love you more than you will ever know... how old are they? and if you were to leave them... they would be lost... even though they may never show you that... but you should think about seeing someone... i did... it helped me so much... i'm sure our "problems" differ from eachother.. but talking to someone was the smartest thing i could have done. we are here for you! "God is great, but sometimes life ain’t good, and when I pray..it don’t always turn out like I think it should…but I do it anyway, I do it anyway" i'm not an overly religious person.. but i thought his might help |
11-06-2006, 06:21 PM | #3 |
Little Bit & Buttons Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: US
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| Saying a prayer for you I wish I could give you a big hug. Some day those smart mouthed kids will show their love & respect. It is all worth it, just keep keeping on. We do appreciate your sacrifices and know that my words can't really help but God can. |
11-06-2006, 06:27 PM | #4 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Central Texas
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| I think you should talk to someone - or get involved with a support group. Is your husband in the military? It's just too hard these days to go it alone - you need some support. I hope you can find it!
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11-06-2006, 06:29 PM | #5 |
My Best Friend Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: oklahoma
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| Yes my husband is in the military... but we don't live on base or anything. My family all live in another state except my 1 sister and I don't have any friends around here. I'm just so lonely all the time.
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11-06-2006, 06:29 PM | #6 |
Dogs Rule Cats Drool! Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Tennessee
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| How old are your kids....Girl I raised two by myself(my exhusband started another family didn't have time for ours) but it's really hard...especially if they are teenagers....I just know that something got into both of mine from the age or 14 to 18 a demon or body snatcher... because there is no way that they are my kids with there attitude and mouths...but it will get easier when they get older..Mine will be 22 and 21 and God help me but I wish they where back home and 14 &15 again....Hang in there, just vent all you need to and we will help....Way I see it, its the body snatchers against the moms...
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11-06-2006, 06:31 PM | #7 |
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11-06-2006, 06:40 PM | #8 |
My Best Friend Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: oklahoma
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| My oldest is 11 and all of a sudden he has an attitude that won't end! I just really can't take him being so mean and hateful to his brothers and sister. And of course me. I have given up so much for him. His bio father left us when he was 4 mos. old and me pregnant with my second. (He's 10) Then I have a 7 year old boy that has behavioral problems that just don't end. It's a struggle everyday with that one. He's in the first grade and he's been kicked off the bus, banned from going on any and all feild trips. I spent most of the last school year at the school picking him up for one thing or another. He was kicked out of the first school he attended in Pre-kindergarten so we had to move to find another school. My daughter is 6. She's so sweet and kind but is learning her brothers behaviors. I just never planned on raising kids on my own. I love them don't get me wrong. My life evolves around them. I just have been so down lately and they don't help when they won't mind me. I've been running a high fever for the last 2 weeks due to an infection I got after my surgery. I'm now on the second course of antibiotics and am also taking blood pressure meds. I've never in my life had high blood pressure until recently. (I'm not that old either or over weight. I'm going to be 32 at the end of this month.) And then on top of it all I think I broke the puppy's leg tonight and am waiting on my vet to call me back. (I posted a thread under sick/emergency about it.) I wonder what else will happen tonight.
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11-06-2006, 06:48 PM | #9 |
Dogs Rule Cats Drool! Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Tennessee
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| Do you know of anyone that will keep them for a night or a few hours, you need some time off, a little me time....try to find someone, or hire a babysitter....get out and go shopping or something....My heart goes out to you....
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11-06-2006, 06:49 PM | #10 |
My Sun Shine's bright Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Georiga
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| I'm so sorry you are going thru all this.... You will be in my praryers. I hope you feel better soon. Have you talk to your dr about these feeling? Best Wishes.
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11-06-2006, 06:49 PM | #11 |
Donating Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Las Vegas.
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| you need a sitter Get a sitter and take the night off soak in a tub witha bottle of champange or window shop sit in the park look at the sky just take some time for yourself |
11-06-2006, 06:50 PM | #12 |
My Best Friend Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: oklahoma
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| I don't know anyone except my sister and she has been sick and she has 5 kids of her own. I have advertised looking for a sitter but I haven't found anyone.
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11-06-2006, 06:52 PM | #13 |
My Best Friend Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: oklahoma
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| Yes, I've talked with my doctor and she wants to put me on anti depressents but my insurance doesn't take effect until next month so we are waiting. She was nice enough to give me a 2 mo supply of the blood pressure meds from samples she had.
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11-06-2006, 07:00 PM | #14 |
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| The saying God never puts no more on us than we can bear is true. Just keep holding on and asking him to give you the strength to make it and he will. We all have times in our lives where we feel like giving up. But we must not! First thing is to read a scripture in the bible and just meditate on it. Something that lifts you and encourage you. Make sure to take time and do things that you enjoy. If it is extra time to get a good book and lay in the tub and not move for a while do it. If it is going to the park and sitting on a bench and staring at the flowers just do it. Make time for yourself. It's important. I will be praying and believing that God gives you the strength to hold on and meet all of your needs.
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11-06-2006, 07:10 PM | #15 |
My Best Friend Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: oklahoma
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| It's just that I feel that I've been fighting for my life my entire life and I'm so tired of doing it. I was born premature (3lbs.) I stayed in the hospital for the first month of my life in an incabator and with feeding tubes because I lost weight if I nursed. I've been through 2 abusive marriages and 1 very abusive relationship that put me in intensive care. I survived a car crash in January. (I don't know how the kids and I made it out of that one.) The only explanation I have for it is that good took the wheel and delivered us unharmed. My van flipped and we rolled several times before landing on the passanger side. It caught fire and we were trapped inside due to the fact I had the child saftey locks engaged and couldn't open the back door from the inside. Some how I found the strength to break the window and help the kids out. It was really peaceful during the whole wreck and that is how I know GOD was there. (I know my gaurdian angles have probably plucked all the feathers out of their wings by now. lol) I just wish every day wasn't such a big struggle.
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