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08-28-2006, 12:39 PM | #1 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Queens, NY
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| Arghh... men I'm so frustrated about this whole situation. My fiance & I have been together for 6years. We are getting married next year (still in the middle of wedding planning). And we just moved in together in the beginning of this year. I just don't understand men's need to oggle and look at half naked women. Be it in a Maxim, FHM magazine or looking at Import models on the net. It makes me feel so inadequate. I know I'm definetly not 5'7" 110lbs with ginormous DD's. I can't help but feel that if THAT is what he longs for & wants. I know it's definetly not me. It just hurts that he looks at other women. My guy friends say "all guys do it" blah blah blah, "it's just a fantasy", but ummm hello? Aren't I supposed to me 'The One'?! I just don't get it. I don't go drooling over other men. It just hurts me so that he still does.
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08-28-2006, 12:45 PM | #2 |
Always In My Heart Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: The Lone Star State
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| I know how you feel.. hubby and I got into a MAJOR fight because I caught him looking at x rated stuff on my laptop! I was pissed... it makes you feel like less than a woman .. and to TOP IT OFF he denied it when I caught him... that just makes it worse.... I don't get it... thats just gross! |
08-28-2006, 12:46 PM | #3 | |
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08-28-2006, 01:02 PM | #4 |
BANNED FOR NOT MAILING PRODUCTS PURCHASED | HA! I sure don't get it myself and I sure wish I did! Men are notorious for this sort of behavior! I have asked my husband why he looks, and he tells me, a lot of the time he don't even realize he's doing it, it's just an instinct, and he says he looks at the mags for the articles! HAHAHA call me dumb, but baby I aint got the word stupid a$$ wrote across my forhead! I really wish I could understand this more, maybe we all need to find a male forum and research this!!! here is the thread I started on this awhile back! http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/showthread.php?t=46796 |
08-28-2006, 01:19 PM | #5 |
Yorkie Kisses are the Best! Donating Member | When I married my first husband he bought a mag into the house - right after I had my son....After giving it some thought and I didn't want to sound all insecure - I just went out and bought a Playgirl and left it in MY bathroom - and that was the last time he did that.... |
08-28-2006, 01:27 PM | #6 |
I heart Hootie & Hobbs Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: USA
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| I do not have any idea whether my hubby looks at xrated material on the internet or not. I know for a fact that he has never brought a playboy, Maxim, or any other type magazine in our house. I guess it would depend no how our relationship is at the time whether or not I would care if he brought these materials in our home. As for the Internet stuff, as long as he makes me feel beautiful and secure in our relationship, then I'm not going to go snooping on his computer to find out whether or not he's looking at that stuff. I've never caught him looking at it. We are both so open and honest and secure with each other. We tell each other when we see other "hot" people. We know that we both find each other attractive, but let's be honest, just because you find someone else attractive does not mean that you don't love your spouse. It doesn't bother me at all when he tells me that other women are hot. 99.9% of the time, they are HOTT!!!!!!! If he doesn't say it outloud, he'll be saying it in his head. I'd rather him just say it, and then I can either agree, or say, "Nope, she's a skank!" Strip clubs are another issue. Hubby has never gone to one since we've been together. I have a huge problem with strip clubs. I have warned him of this, too! |
08-28-2006, 03:00 PM | #7 |
Lovin' Lucy & Rebel Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Georgia
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| devoted to Lucy! My husband and I talked about this one time and he told me that if he couldn't look at something in front of me he wasn't going to do it behind my back. He didn't have anything like that in his things when I went thru them after he died.
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08-28-2006, 03:39 PM | #8 |
Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Al
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| they all do it .just do it back and show him how it feels ,most likely he will get jealous and see how it makes you feel. hey what's good for the goose..... but also when you get older it won't bother you as much that's what happened with me anyways.
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08-29-2006, 06:52 AM | #9 |
Gina, (Lexi's Mommy) Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: LONG ISLAND,NY
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| men will be men... thats all i can say..
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08-29-2006, 07:53 AM | #10 |
BANNED FOR NOT MAILING PRODUCTS PURCHASED | My husband and I had ANOTHER debate about this last night and he told me he don't care, ALL men do it and if there telling there wives there not, then there lying. He asked me why it mattered and I said I just dont feel my husband or any husband should look at that trash, he says there pictures, and if thats the case then we have to get rid of anything that is sex related, my romance novels, he said when I read them, dont they put a mental sex picture in your head? I said.. well yeah, he said Cosmo, we have to get rid of them, the TV has so much sex on it now that we will have to get rid of cable. See what I have to put up with !!!! LOL MEN!!!! they just dont get it!!!!!!!! |
08-29-2006, 01:48 PM | #11 | |
Lovin' Lucy & Rebel Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Georgia
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08-29-2006, 02:25 PM | #12 |
YT 6000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: CA
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| I dont' think men lie about it if they say they don't do it. I think some men feel secure enough to just say, hey that doesn't turn me on, or I'm not into that. Some men are into it and some prefer the live version But I think it's bull when people say "all men do it, and if they say they don't they're lying", because I think people try to make it like everyone does it so it doesn't make them look as bad or as pervy. Cause if that were the case, then all stereotypes would be true right? If ALL men look at this stuff, then all women are emotional and bitchy during PMS, and ALL men cheat, and ALL women like being housewives...you get the picture. I've never been one to give into excuses like "men will be men" or "kids will be kids". There is a limit to everything, including fantasy,sex and perversion.
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08-29-2006, 02:53 PM | #13 |
My furkids Donating Member | I hate to say this because I do love my hubby very much but..... men are dogs! (except my Dad!)This is my second marriage (7yrs in Nov)and I am 49 years old. We lived together for a year before we got married...He was on the internet ALL THE TIME! I can't say he was on nudie sites the entire time but more than half...What would P*$$me of is that I would get these sites flashing on my screen when I would go onto the computer...He told me that he DOES NOT go to those sites...I had caught him several times...Men just like looking at women...It used to bother me so much and I told him...I am not a huge person, for being 49 I still have an ok shape and I have the DD's! So what more could he ask for!!!!?? This went on for a while and eventually he stopped....I call it growing up...He has NEVER brought one of those mags home...I do know that he looks at them at work...I just don't care anymore! like I said....men are DOGS! but, what would we do with out them.
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08-29-2006, 02:56 PM | #14 | |
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08-29-2006, 04:47 PM | #15 |
I heart Hootie & Hobbs Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: USA
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| Different strokes for different folks. Some men like looking at nudy pics and some don't. Personally, I don't care WHAT my hubby looks at as long as I feel that he thinks I am beautiful and I feel loved and secure in my relationship. |
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