I do not have any idea whether my hubby looks at xrated material on the internet or not. I know for a fact that he has never brought a playboy, Maxim, or any other type magazine in our house. I guess it would depend no how our relationship is at the time whether or not I would care if he brought these materials in our home. As for the Internet stuff, as long as he makes me feel beautiful and secure in our relationship, then I'm not going to go snooping on his computer to find out whether or not he's looking at that stuff. I've never caught him looking at it.
We are both so open and honest and secure with each other. We tell each other when we see other "hot" people. We know that we both find each other attractive, but let's be honest, just because you find someone else attractive does not mean that you don't love your spouse. It doesn't bother me at all when he tells me that other women are hot. 99.9% of the time, they are HOTT!!!!!!! If he doesn't say it outloud, he'll be saying it in his head. I'd rather him just say it, and then I can either agree, or say, "Nope, she's a skank!"
Strip clubs are another issue. Hubby has never gone to one since we've been together. I have a huge problem with strip clubs. I have warned him of this, too!