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Originally Posted by Mueyinter I'm so frustrated about this whole situation. My fiance & I have been together for 6years. We are getting married next year (still in the middle of wedding planning). And we just moved in together in the beginning of this year. I just don't understand men's need to oggle and look at half naked women. Be it in a Maxim, FHM magazine or looking at Import models on the net. It makes me feel so inadequate.  I know I'm definetly not 5'7" 110lbs with ginormous DD's. I can't help but feel that if THAT is what he longs for & wants. I know it's definetly not me. It just hurts that he looks at other women. My guy friends say "all guys do it" blah blah blah, "it's just a fantasy", but ummm hello? Aren't I supposed to me 'The One'?! I just don't get it. I don't go drooling over other men. It just hurts me so that he still does.  |
Aww I'm sorry you are feeling frustrated. I think we all get frustrated with our men, and probably them with us. My boyfriend and I have talked about this so much. We're both so super honest with each other. I have asked him before if he likes looking in those kinds of magazines and such, and he feels like it's an immaturity thing. That if you have the comfort and security in a good relationship, that you really don't need that kind of thing. I always say yea right, and he's like well you don't have to believe me, but if I was interested in that I wouldn't be ashamed in admitting it, because for some people it's pleasure-some, but for me it's just pictures. Though when I have asked other men, I always get the answer "all men do it". I don't have any advice and I've had previous b/f that have done, and let's just say they are no longer my b/f because I needed someone more mature. But maybe if you tell him how you honestly feel, without worrying about sounding jealous or insecure (because your points are totally valid), he might listen. You just never know. Instead of arguing about it or getting frustrated, just have a heart to heart talk with him about how it makes you feel. He might see it differently.