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|07-31-2006, 10:58 PM||#1|
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As the school year is approaching us quickly, I'm so hesitant with my 16 yr old going to the High School. I have heard so many people tell me horror stories of this school. The kids are all labled by the kids and teachers. If you don't have money and dress nice, then you are ridiculed. This school looks more like a prison then a school. So my question to you is, does anyone else home school there children and how did you get started?
My husband and I both have agreed this is something we may want to check into.
|08-01-2006, 12:38 AM||#2|
Mom to 6 Beautiful Furkids
Join Date: Apr 2006
I just want to give you a look from someone else's point of view.
I am so glad I was not home schooled. I admit, high school was not always easy, people have their own cliches (sp?) and then you have teachers and homework and exams and so much other stuff. You had your rich and spoiled kids and alot of people looked down on you for not being rich or having nice clothes or expensive cars. It was really hard and some days seemed impossible to get through, but I woulden't have even for a minute trade it in for home schooling.
I did have alot of home schooled friends though. High school gives kids alot of things that home schooling can never give them. Socializing and experiencing new environments, situations and just alot of other stuff that you can't get from home schooling. It prepares you for the real world. My friends who were home schooled missed out on all of this stuff and alot of them had a hard time dealing. They were many times sheltered from the real world so when it came time to be out their on their own in the real world, many of them just were not prepared for it. I was actually home schooled for a year due to illness and I hated it. I missed out on so much and realized you have to take the good with the bad to experience it all. I was also hard for me to be motivated to do the homework, it seemed like since I was in my home environment and things were more relaxed, it became harder to get motivated to do the work. Now that I think of it, alot of my friends had the same problem, you tend to slack more when you are being home schooled.
Have you talked it over with your daughter, what does she think??
I am not saying home schooling is a bad thing, just that there is alot to consider. You are such a great mom to consider home schooling for the reasons you listed, alot of parents would not take anything in consideration. I know my mom would never have home schooled us, she just would not be able to handle it. What ever you decide, I am sure you will make the best choice;any choice you make will be great since you really care about your daughter!!
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|08-01-2006, 01:00 AM||#3|
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If you and your husband feel this is something you want to look further into and your daughter is wanting to do this, I can't see any reason why you shouldn't. We never home schooled, but our daughter did and she now has a son in college and her daughter will be starting next year, her kids are very well educated and have no problem in socializing, but through all the years doing this they would have get togethers with other home schooling parents and students. They are very active in their church. The two oldest have had no problem getting part time jobs and Her oldest daughter is planning to major in music, so talented excellent in playing piano and she gives lessons. Her other daughter plays violin. I really can't say they have missed out on anything by not attending the public schools. It is a shame the public schools are in the dilema that they are, and I can honestly see why many parents are home schooling now. I really couldn't see it back when our daughter started but I never said anything, and it has all been great for them. I know you and your husband have best interest at heart for your daughter and this is good, your daughter is very fortunate to have caring parents such as yourselves, wishing you each the best upon whatever decision you make. Patti
|08-01-2006, 01:58 AM||#4|
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Join Date: Feb 2006
I have heard both the good and bad with homeschooling. My MIL is now homeschooling hubbys younger sister and she loves it. My sister in law is very shy so this was perfect for her. I was a little hesitant on agreeing with it at first, but she does go on field trips and such with other homeschooled kids. Hubbys close friend was also homeschooled and they are very smart. I think it just depends upon the child. I had some homeschooled friends that struggled. I think the reason why is because they thought it was all fun and games. Then when their parents couldn't catch them back up and they were put in public school and they never could get back with their grade level. The public school system where I live is horrible! You have to play sports to fit in here. All throughout elementary I went to a private school. I LOVED it!! That is the route we are choosing for our kids. I don't know your religious status (that is none of my business) but I would suggest considering that also.
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|08-01-2006, 03:44 AM||#5|
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Join Date: Jun 2006
I was not home schooled, but at college I had some friends that were. I wish I had been home schooled. Yes, your kid may be considered sheltered compared to some, but consider why? Because your child would not be traumatized by the imbalanced kids who have no control over the way their hormones are ruling them. I have never seen an environment like my high school again. In the real world, my peers were actually nice, and I quickly realized that no one can yell at me for making mistakes the way my teachers did. Everyone may have traumatizing experiences in life, but the way to prepare your child is not to let them get traumatized early in life.
As for discipline, yes you do need to be very very strict about when your child is going to study, and about homework too. At the same time, you can have as many field trips as you like and hold classes in more educationally stimulating environments. Home schooling is what you make of it. If you believe you can provide a better (and fun) environment for your child to learn and mature in, then you should home school. If you will approach it as a chore, both you and your child may end up being miserable about the process.
|08-01-2006, 04:20 AM||#6|
Join Date: Aug 2005
I think we have the best of both worlds here where I live.
First of all the public school here is THE BEST. The onlything that keeps me here living where I do is the schooling for my children. It ACTUALLY is like a throwback to the old days the schools are so good here. No worries about fights and knives and guns and all the crazy stuff you here now adays . Nobod even uses LOCKS on the lockers. It just isn't like that here. they have $2 school dances for all the grades and provide punch and games and music for free . It's REALLY like astep back and I LOVE IT!
Home schooling is ALSO very popular here. Lots and Lots of families have this here too and don't do it because the schools are bad but mostly believe it or not.. like a religious thing is he best way I can explain it. Lots of big families here and the Moms homeschool or a group from the same church gets together for group homeschooling. The kids are WELL socialized with the other regular schools through activites and even participate in any things like sports or math or whatever compitions with the regular school when ther are special contests.
I think the key to home schooling is you have to be very STRICT with actually doing for the children on a schedule and really making a SCHOOL TIME... and also involving the kids in lots of public activities or church activities. You can usually find other homeschooling groups to hook up with.
One more thing.....Home schooling supplies and curriculum tend to be pricey, so I suggest looking online or somewhere else for used books and things for this. It's funny because around here you can't swing a cat at a yardsale without coming across a few grades of homeschooling materials that someone is finished with
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|08-01-2006, 04:56 AM||#7|
I Love My Yorkies
Join Date: Feb 2005
Location: Indianapolis, Indiana
The Public School in our area is really bad. I considered home schooling but ended up getting my Daughter in a Charter School. It is year round and they wear uniforms. Just do what you feel is best. I know what it is like to worry about the School your child will be attending.
|08-01-2006, 05:55 AM||#8|
Join Date: Mar 2006
Just another opinion : )
We are currently homeschooling our 3 daughters. Our oldest is 16 & I have homeschooled her since 2nd grade. We ALL absolutely LOVE IT ! ! ! I can honestly say they do not have ANY problems with socialization. My 10yo is probably more socialized than myself & that is saying alot
Here locally we have many co-ops that are open to homeschoolers. They even have programs at the schools if the girls want to attend those. If they want to be on the basketball team they can, same with any other sports.
"Socialization" is probably one of the biggest hangups people have about homeschooling. We choose not to have our kids in public school because of the "socialization" that they would get there. We can teach our kids about drugs, sex, etc. instead of someone "offering" them drugs, sex, etc. at school. Peer pressure right now is absolutely rediculous. Our kids still get it even being homeschooled ! ! ! So there is no way you can avoid it completely, but when they are home I know what they are doing & who they are with.
As far as being "sheltered", maybe they are sheltered from public school but that's about it. There is nothing that we all cannot & do not talk about. They know everything of the world & I consider them all to be very bright intelligent children.
When they were smaller we used to go places & people would always compliment on how well behaved they were. Now as a young adult my oldest daughter has received many job offers because of her known work ethic. There are alot of businesses that would hire a homeschooled child because of they have been homeschooled. They know the discipline behind it & know that they are usually someone they can count on.
We asked our girls last year if they would want to go to public school. All 3 replied " NO WAY"
I do want to say that this is only my opinion, I'm sure there are some good public schools out there. This is just what we choose to do because it makes us happy & happy is a wonderful thing to be
Feel free to pm me if you have any ? ?
Good luck with your decision
|08-01-2006, 06:03 AM||#9|
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I don't have kids of my own. Thought I should start out with that b/c things/opinions definately change when you have kids, I'm sure. Anyway I've seen the good and bad side of homeschooling. When I was in high school, 7 years ago there were a few kids that hung around with some of my friends, so I knew of them. They were actually behind. One of them had a brother in my school who was doing wonderfully, I don't know why he was home schooled but he wasn't doing so well.
Then when I got to college there was a boy who was majoring in the same thing as I and he graduated college when he was 19, then on to grad school right after that. He was incredibly smart and self-diciplined. The only thing that I saw a problem with, and this may have been his own personality not the fact that he was homeschooled but he could not talk to people nor could he work in groups. Again I don't know if it was just his personality or the fact that he lacked socialization skills. One time I saw him working with one of his group memebers on a project. He was just sitting there doing all the work and not really even talking to his partner, then later on he told his friend that he was going to have to do it all on his own because his group wasn't giong to be much help, that they didn't want to do anything. It was completely untrue. And we are in the computer field, so basically anything he does with his major he's going to be working with people.
Anyway I went to a high school where we didn't have fights, the teachers were great, and pretty much we (students) didn't pick on each other, well not a lot. I wasn't a rich pretty popular gal either. But with that I am kinda partial to public school but like I said I didn't see really the bad side of high school.
Somebody mentioned that it depends on the kid. I really think it depends on the parents. I mean, I know you know you have to be comitted but I seen and heard so many people jump into it and aren't. I think it can be wonderful with the right discipline and socialization. I also believe that home schooling is getting better and better all the time. I don't know if the parents are becoming more educated on it or if more opportunities and activities are opening up for them but either way they are getting better.
Good luck with what you decide.
|08-01-2006, 08:17 AM||#10|
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I have a son that for what ever reason up to the 7th. grade was fine in school.Then in the 8th. the problems of going to school started. It was a battle to get him there. In the 9th. school started and and I could'nt get him there. It was really bad . I was at a loss as to what to do . I new NOTHING about home schooling but I figured I had about a week to stall the scool before they started asking where he was. I was so overwhelmed by the information and procedures I needed to do and fill out, I thought theres no way I can do this in this short amount of time. Then I stumbled upon a home schooling of sorts that was online schooling or electronic schooling. That was an answer to my prayers. I just enrolled him and they e-mail all his homework, he does it at his own pace, and he e-mails it back for correction. If it wasn't for this alternative he would have dropped out of school. Now at least it aloud him to graduate. It worked out wonderful in our situation, he always did his work and I never had to ask " Did you do your homework today?" It was always done because he was so relieved to be home and away from the school that he was stressed to be in. He recieved c's and d's in school and a's and b's online. I really admire the mom's that are able to home school their kids by themselves, doing all the curriculum is a lot of work.My hats off to ya.
|08-01-2006, 08:33 AM||#11|
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Location: Bay Area, California
Most districts have a curriculum preset for homeschooling. I think that as long as you'd be able to meet up and do activities with other kids who are doing home schooling the situation will work out fine... especially if your home school is as horrible as it sounds.
|08-01-2006, 09:33 AM||#12|
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Thank you all for your wonderfull opinions. I will tell you that my daughter is all for this, she is a more shy person, but she does have a job and a boy friend. She is envolved with church. So I wouldnt say she does not socialize, I dont think I would have any worries on that part.
RRRJeep861 would you mind sharing the website you use for your son?
Or if anyone knows where I should go to get started? Should I contact the highschool? For now I think I just want to try this on my 16 yr old, I have 2 other children in elementary, so I think I will leave them be for now lol
Thank you all so much!
|08-01-2006, 01:54 PM||#13|
Join Date: Jul 2006
I honestly believe that for most kids (although there are exceptions), home schooling isn't the best idea. Especially if your daughter is shy, high school may help her meet different types of people - it may help her fight her own barrier and break out of her shell. Home school may do the opposite.
She doesn't have to attend a regular public school. I am seventeen, and when I was fifteen I was an exchange student to France. I attended an arts & academics magnet school. And now I'm going to start up an accelerated college program early. There are so many schooling options beyond regular public school and homeschooling. You may also want to check private schools, many offer financial aid.
High school may not be easy, but it will help her adapt to different situations as she grows up. She may have to deal with people she does not like (or maybe not - I think the bad high school situations are grossly exaggerated in the media), but she will also encounter that in her future work. I think it will prepare her for her future not only socially, but academically. Learning how to manage her time properly and employ good work habits.
Chances are, she will have to deal with rudeness and snobbiness at some point in her life, and though I'm sure she will rarely encounter these attitudes, perhaps being in such an environment will help her learn how to manage it and grow stronger.
You may also want to think about college and how they will view the different school settings. If she doesn't believe high school gives her enough of an academic challenge, she can speak with a school counselor and she may be able to foster her talents through school or other outlets.
There are LOTS of options. Good luck!
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|08-01-2006, 03:23 PM||#15|
Join Date: Feb 2006
Location: Steeler Town
You could try online I know that the ones I've looked into and they are free and it seems like it's better that way because they are still getting the work done it's just at home in their comfort zone!!