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01-03-2011, 12:17 PM | #31 | |
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and stayed with him from 4-10 pm. My other brother never came or called and my dad would always ask for him. I don't know how he lives with himself but he does.[/QUOTE] My husband had a situation like that when his mother lived in an adult home. He had 5 siblings who did not want to be bothered. The social worker always called us when there was a need or problem. When his mother passed away, he called his sister and the first words out of her mouth were, I have no money. Thankfully my Dad helped pay for the funeral. I don't know how people sleep at night after doing things like that. | |
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01-17-2011, 03:05 PM | #32 |
YT 2000 Club Donating Member | i just heard some very sad news on the radio driving home today. A 66 year old woman, was found this morning at about 6am, she was rushed to the hospital, but did not make it. She died of hypothermia. Now this woman had alzheimers, and was found about a 5 minute walk from her house, in a nice quiet suburban neighbourhood. Apparently many of these neighbours where she was found heard various screams/cries for help at around 2am in the morning and NOT one of the 17 people called 911 It's a sad and tragic tale. And I wonder how could so many folks turn their backs on cries for help? Humanity here sure needs a whole lot of "human" put back into folks.
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01-18-2011, 05:53 PM | #33 |
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| I watched this happen with my grandmother and fully anticipate that within the next 20 years it will happen to my mother. My grandmother began to show signs of dementia and age 65, so it could be sooner, like the next 5 years. I am very very worried about what is going to happen. It was incredibly taxing on my mother, my parents' marraige and our family as a whole to care for my grandmother. Her behavior turned very violent and my grandfather refused to consider a facility so my mother essentially had to quit her job, spend 10 to 15 hours a day caring for her, getting physically attacked, etc. Often she missed important events in both my life and my father's and only after my mother hurt herself to the point she could not physically provide all the care did my grandfather hire anyone to help. I feel like I am a bad or heartless person when I read over this thread, because as an only child, business owner, someone just now thinking about having children of my own. I know that I will not be able to provide that level of care myself. As a result I pretty much insisted that my parents purchase long term care insurance and keep their residence close to mine. I know that in ways my parents resent the fact that I want to make sure they have adequately prepared themselves for these things, but with the way the economy has been there is just no way that I can anticipate being able to quit working at anytime before I myself am retirement age and as a result do not think I could provide home care or meaningful financial support to them. In turn I pray everyday that my mom does not develop dementia it is a horrible and frightening disease. Much admiration for those who provide care for these patients.
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01-18-2011, 09:12 PM | #34 |
YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Dallas, Texas
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| It has to be one of the hardest things anyone does is to take care of a parent with dementia. We took care of my mom for 8yrs. SHe had Parkinson's and later dementia that was horrible to say the least. She thought people were living in the walls. SHe thought she seen rats and all kinds of things. SHe slept during the day and was up all nite. The meds caused alot of that. She would let out blood curdling screams sometimes. My health is completely gone. Would I do it again?? Absolutely. I loved my mom and it was the hardest thing in the world to see her fade away into her own little world. Whats hard too, is they pull you in that world if you are not careful. I was in worst shape than she was when she passed away. Dementia has got to be the pits. Now one of my little furbabies has it. Will love her anyway until she takes her last breath. Life can really be hard and they call it our Golden Years!!!!!!!! |
01-23-2011, 06:32 PM | #35 |
YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: canton ohio us
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| I have to say as someone who works in a nursing home dementia patents are among the hardest to care for and normally have the most demanding families. I had a lady swing at me because her moms lunch was 10 min late, we had to call a ambulance for another resident so all hallway activity was stopped. In my facility we would never not give medication because it would be cheaper or put adult diapers on a resident who did not need them. All of you that have elderly parents/family in a nursing home If you have a problem and need to yell at someone ask for a nurse. The people running around and giving meds and food are normally STNAs (like me) and have no say in what is going on if they do not do as they are told they will get fired in a heartbeat. also if you have the choice try and find a home that accepts pets mine just started doing this and it is soo nice we have 2 cats 3 birds and a cute little shih tzu the pets make all the residents more at ease. (and now I can bring Gatsby to work 2 days a week)
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