Marital S_E_X

[J_is_my_initial]

Originally Posted by shodanusmc

and remember, nothing will kill the mood faster than asking him "is it in yet"!

Or (as I have been guilty of asking in the past) "Are you done yet?"

I am diabetic and have had a hysterectomy so I have several issues that cause problems. Hubby and I have been married 27 years, and sex has never been an important part of my life though for him it is different. One of the issues is also they way we were raised. Sex was a taboo issue in my family and in his, anything went. We compromise. We try to never go so long without sex. Now he has issue too due to meds. (tmi I know) but we have good times. He cares if I am happy and because he knows how I feel will sacrifice his "completion" saying he is happy if I am happy. I love him so much but I am just no into sex, and he seems to finally understand it.

[TwoforFun]

Originally Posted by DerbyLayne

I don't want the IUD, it kind of scares me? convince me!

The nuvaring made me dry and it was so painful down there. it burned. I think I was allergic.

the patch made me spot forever and ever.

condoms are great, but not fool proof.

pull-out method is the stupidest thing I've ever heard. lol

Why would the IUD scare you? I have the one for ten years with NO hormones. I'm going on my fourth year and have no complications what so ever. Best thing that ever happen to me, if it wasn't for the IUD my tubes would have been tied by now.
As far as sex goes, you need to wake up one morning and say I'm gonna do it. Take a nice hot shower eat something light, and make yourself feel pretty for the day. And tell him get to it, do it right or you won't get any. Last chance for the day. He has to work for it if he wants a happy ending. You just sit back, relax and enjoy the show If you don't get any atleast you'll get a laugh at him trying.

[ladyjane]

Originally Posted by shodanusmc

and remember, nothing will kill the mood faster than asking him "is it in yet"!

Are you saying that due to personal experience?


Oh...and another one:

Or him asking, "Did you c** yet?"

[shodanusmc]

You are asking the opinion of a former Marine....the answer is yes. After a month in the bush, a Water Buffalo looks slightly appealing. And no, I never.........

[shodanusmc]

Originally Posted by ladyjane

Are you saying that due to personal experience?


Oh...and another one:

Or him asking, "Did you c** yet?"

Never, it is more like, OMG.......

[ladyjane]

Originally Posted by shodanusmc

Never, it is more like, OMG.......

hahah I expected THAT remark

I have yet to see a guy admit it is pencil sized.

[manolos mom]

Originally Posted by shodanusmc

Never, it is more like, OMG.......

Sure.... thats what they all say.

[shodanusmc]

Originally Posted by ladyjane

hahah I expected THAT remark

I have yet to see a guy admit it is pencil sized.

And you never will. On the internet, we are all hung like horses, not like field mice.

[ladyjane]

Originally Posted by manolos mom

Sure.... thats what they all say.

Finally getting brave, eh? You ARE the one who put me up to messing with your favorite marine.

[ladyjane]

Originally Posted by shodanusmc

And you never will. On the internet, we are all hung like horses, not like field mice.

Oh, I know...just like all of the chickies who are built like Barbie dolls.

[DerbyLayne]

Originally Posted by TwoforFun

Why would the IUD scare you? I have the one for ten years with NO hormones. I'm going on my fourth year and have no complications what so ever. Best thing that ever happen to me, if it wasn't for the IUD my tubes would have been tied by now. .

Do you have the copper one, or the other one?

Do you still have a period every month? (is it bad?) what about cramps, and migraines? (if you get them, cuz I do like HELL)

When can I take it out? Can I take it out in 3 years?

what's the deal with this....

[DerbyLayne]

Originally Posted by shodanusmc

You are asking the opinion of a former Marine....the answer is yes. After a month in the bush, a Water Buffalo looks slightly appealing. And no, I never.........

My post got deleted, but that's funny! and thanks for replying

[shodanusmc]

Originally Posted by DerbyLayne

My post got deleted, but that's funny! and thanks for replying

Welcome

[TwoforFun]

Originally Posted by DerbyLayne

Do you have the copper one, or the other one?

Do you still have a period every month? (is it bad?) what about cramps, and migraines? (if you get them, cuz I do like HELL)

When can I take it out? Can I take it out in 3 years?

what's the deal with this....

I have the copper one

Yes, my periods do come every month. You might get an extra day of ovaries dropping but thats it. No cramps or headaches, remember it does not contain any hormones.
You can go to the doctor and take it out whenever you please.
Every other contraceptive method because of the hormones made me feel like if I was pregnant (which is the point). I will get cramps, nausea headaches, ect. With this type of IUD no symptoms, cheaper than paying for pills every month or three when you add it up. I don't have to worry about getting pregnant in ten years I have three kids, 1st one just used the old rubber, 2nd i was on the pill and 3rd I was on that shot. I'm very fertile so I know the IUD works.
You will probably cramp for the 1st couple of weeks but that's just your body saying there's an object in there. But it's not bad. Highly recommend it.

[kdreamson]

Originally Posted by LuvMyPuppE

the only time i ever want to have sex is if i've had a few drinks! sad, but true!

i blame it on having 2 small kids and my husband is basically a 3rd kid - always having to clean up after them all day long. when they finally go to bed, i just want to be left ALONE!

i don't really mind having sex, but i don't initiate it cus i just have no desire. i was honest with my husband and told him just what i said here. i think he was relieved actually cus now when he wants to have sex he just tells me and we can cut right to the chase. he's exhausted by the end of the day anyway so knowing i don't care for a marathon is fine with him!

Yep this is me too! To the op... Girl, maybe it's not you at all! Maybe it's him that is just not getting you goin anymore! Why do we always blame ourselves!? I just have trouble getting in the mood with dh after i have to wash his nasty underwear or stepping into a big wet puddle in front of the toilet(in my socks of course!) We girls sometimes can't forget all that crap we have to put up with! Men are different...they can have sex with a woman they dislike just to have sex. I know we have needs but we also need to feel apprechiated & loved. So ask yourself...What has HE done for me lately?