Who here is married without kids?

[Roemchen]

Ha funny...I get this all time. We have no kids, but we have furry people.
My answer is always the same.
Yes I do have children but they have 4 legs
You should see their faces LOL...I just love it.

[Krystee]

Originally Posted by BaxtersMommy

Married Dec 05, dont have kids and completely happy without them.

I got my man and my furkids. Good enough for me! If God blesses me with a baby so be it, I havent been on birth control for 3 years. If I dont, I am content. It doesnt consume my thoughts because I am happy where I am.

On another note, it completely ANNOYS me when people automatically think I should have kids. YES, I am 37 and I dont have kids. SO WHAT!!!!

I wish I could have your positive thinking. Unfortunately, I do think about it a lot. DH and I have been married for 5 years (6 yrs. this sept) and I am going to be 29 in June. I guess it's gotten worse since I am approaching 30 and I always imagined I would be a mom by then. We just have had some set backs thrown at us and we haven't been able to get financially secure enough to have a baby yet. I've just wanted to be a mom as long as I can remember... if I didn't have my furbabies I think I would really struggle with it.

[mizzwanned]

I just turned 23 and I've been with my bf for about 4 years now, but I'm not even married and I STILL get that question LOL It annoys me because they know I'm not even married or thinking about it(usually older ppl ask) and it's like no I don't want a kid right now, thank you very much! Just cause i've been with someone for a while doesn't mean I should have a kid

[GnIndy]

I'm 26 and have been married for almost two years and there's some people that always ask, "So...any news yet?" No! I love my life as it is with my husband and pup. I don't want kids, and don't understand how other people won't understand/believe that.

[PANAMA69]

I'm happily married without any skinkids I like it that way and so my hubby

[alisonJ]

I never wanted children. It is not because I dislike kids. I just felt that it was a huge responsibility that I was not willing to take on. IMO, many more people should opt not to have kids. So many people have children without thinking it through, and then these kids are neglected. That should never happen.

I asked my father once if it bothered him that I never wanted kids. He said, "Heck no! We aren't animals for breeding!" He is right.

There are too many people in the world right now. We are stressing the planet's resources. Experts have said that one of the most effective things you can do to help the plant is to NOT HAVE KIDS. I realize that if no one had kids, we would be extinct in 100 years. But we do need to stem population growth.

[2girls]

I'm almost 42 and I have been engaged for almost 11 years. No skin kids & 3 furbutts that keep me very busy. I answer honestly......my female parts just don't work.........then I get

[DerbyLayne]

Originally Posted by Krystee

I was just curious who here is married and doesn't have any skinkids? Do you ever get tired of people asking you if you have kids or why you don't have kids? I work in child care and I get that question ALL the time. As soon as people find out that I'm 28 and married, they automatically ask that question and are shocked that we don't. I very much want children but DH and I haven't yet been financially stable enough where I feel comfortable with it. Anyone else ever annoyed by these questions?

This could basically be my answer.

I'm 30, work in child care, and am married without children. We cannot afford one, plain and simple.

We get asked all the time, and any little inkling of weight gain and it's the "omg, are you pregnant?" questions. I gain all my weight in my belly so it's very annoying. Not only am I sensitive about my belly weight, I hate people assuming I'm big enough to carry a child!

While I do work, I take school on the side. He just graduated University (he's 30 as well, was a welder prior) and is going back to College this fall to get a Diploma. It'll only take a year and it's his fall-back because he didn't get into Teacher's College. I, on the hand, have a Diploma in similar field, but need a different Diploma to get a full time position so I'm working on it! I already work in the field, but need that peice of paper to apply for permanent positions.

So once we're done school for good, we plan on moving back to my hometown so we can live comfortably, get jobs, and start the baby train! That'll still be a few years though!!

I can't live on this kind of salary in Toronto, have a child or two, and live comfortably. Ya right. Neither can he, since we'll both be in child care.

[DerbyLayne]

Originally Posted by 2girls

I'm almost 42 and I have been engaged for almost 11 years.

11 years? have you ever wondered why you've been engaged that long? Do you want to get married? or is the engagement just as far as he'd go, and you just wanted the ring? Sorry I'm being intrusive, but if I was engaged for 11 years I'd be asking myself what the hold up was!

Wedding's don't have to cost alot! it can be a small intimate gathering at City Hall, or backyard wedding, or however you like. There's also the no wedding option. You're already considered married as far as the government is concerned- so I guess I don't understand an 11 year engagement. Either you're getting married, or you're not?

Sorry I'm so nosy! I'm really curious, and can't help but ask.

[SophieKatesMom]

No children and probably past the age I should consider having them. I get asked all the time if the reason is I don't like, not the case at all I do like children -it just isn't the right choice for me (In my opinion).

I have Sophie Kate and Avery, they are my children and a ton if nieces and nephews.

[shodanusmc]

Married for 37 years and people still ask me "Why did I have kids"! 50 of this, 1/2 dozen of that.

[RachelandSadie]

i'm married and 22, almost been a year married on May 23. We are not planning on having children for quite some time. i worked in a daycare much like yourself and not a day went by that a parent didn't ask me about when we were planning. i always just said oh 5 years or so. even though it may be next year, it may be 8 years who knows!! i don't plan my life. i don't want to put a date on children. they will come when they come when life is not complete and we want something more. right now Sadie is our child. i get tired of people telling me that she's just a dog and not our child, but to me, she's what i need, fulfills the place in my life that needed filled.

i'm also waiting to have kids until i'm no longer a kid myself. that may not happen for 10 more years. i have so much i want to do, i love just being married to Mike and letting our life take us for a ride. planning things out to the exact date of "when are we going to have children" that's no fun. let life go for awhile and see what happens.

anyways, i'm with you all. i understand totally. and for those of you that cannot have children, don't let anyone ever make you feel like you are not a complete woman living a complete and perfect life just because you were not, can not be, or did not want to be a mom. motherhood is not for everyone and i personally think more people need to realize that not every woman in this day and age lives her whole life just to have children...we have our own dreams and goals now, and that's ok. we don't have to all be domestic little Jude Cleavers anymore. i think it's wonderful that women know themselves well enough to know that they would prefer NOT to be a mom. that's so much better than having kids because it's expected of you and then living your whole life unhappy.

for the women who wanted children but were not blessed with them. i know it must be so hard when you find out that you cannot produce children, but you are still wonderful women living wonderful lives and changing the world around you. some of you adopt and that is such an amazing thing that you are doing. some of you have fur kids and save and raise up beautiful animals that need you just as much as a child does. don't let anyone make you feel bad or hurt you with their stupid thoughless questions and words. you are all amazing and God has HUGE plans for your lives even when we can't understand what's happening and why, someday when we meet the Lord in Heaven, we'll see the bigger picture and understand it all.

hold your heads up high ladies, no matter where you are in life, you are there for a reason and other people should never make you feel like crap because they are too nosy or rude. we're all amazing and have amazing stories!!! Keep it up!

[RachelandSadie]

Originally Posted by DerbyLayne

This could basically be my answer.

I'm 30, work in child care, and am married without children. We cannot afford one, plain and simple.

We get asked all the time, and any little inkling of weight gain and it's the "omg, are you pregnant?" questions. I gain all my weight in my belly so it's very annoying. Not only am I sensitive about my belly weight, I hate people assuming I'm big enough to carry a child!

While I do work, I take school on the side. He just graduated University (he's 30 as well, was a welder prior) and is going back to College this fall to get a Diploma. It'll only take a year and it's his fall-back because he didn't get into Teacher's College. I, on the hand, have a Diploma in similar field, but need a different Diploma to get a full time position so I'm working on it! I already work in the field, but need that peice of paper to apply for permanent positions.

So once we're done school for good, we plan on moving back to my hometown so we can live comfortably, get jobs, and start the baby train! That'll still be a few years though!!

I can't live on this kind of salary in Toronto, have a child or two, and live comfortably. Ya right. Neither can he, since we'll both be in child care.

i've had a similar issue. not about weight gain, but everytime i have a sensitive nose and something smells this lady at work would say, "maybe you're pregnant" she did this about everything. when i was a little sick feeling, tired, hungry, ext...it got OLD FAST. i'm not trying to get pregnant and i don't appreciate being told that i am so many times a day.

[DerbyLayne]

Originally Posted by RachelandSadie

for the women who wanted children but were not blessed with them. i know it must be so hard when you find out that you cannot produce children, but you are still wonderful women living wonderful lives and changing the world around you.

I always worry if, when we finally try, if my baby making parts will even work. I heard that if you had pre-cancerous cells that if it makes it more difficult and I had quite the battle with that.

I guess we'll find out then...

[RachelandSadie]

Originally Posted by DerbyLayne

I always worry if, when we finally try, if my baby making parts will even work. I heard that if you had pre-cancerous cells that if it makes it more difficult and I had quite the battle with that.

I guess we'll find out then...

well i don't know what your beliefs are, but I feel like if a virgin can bear the Christ child...then if it's God's will for you to have a child, He'll make it happen for you. and i sure hope and pray that He does!!