i'm married and 22, almost been a year married on May 23. We are not planning on having children for quite some time. i worked in a daycare much like yourself and not a day went by that a parent didn't ask me about when we were planning. i always just said oh 5 years or so. even though it may be next year, it may be 8 years who knows!! i don't plan my life. i don't want to put a date on children. they will come when they come when life is not complete and we want something more. right now Sadie is our child. i get tired of people telling me that she's just a dog and not our child, but to me, she's what i need, fulfills the place in my life that needed filled.
i'm also waiting to have kids until i'm no longer a kid myself. that may not happen for 10 more years. i have so much i want to do, i love just being married to Mike and letting our life take us for a ride. planning things out to the exact date of "when are we going to have children" that's no fun. let life go for awhile and see what happens.
anyways, i'm with you all. i understand totally. and for those of you that cannot have children, don't let anyone ever make you feel like you are not a complete woman living a complete and perfect life just because you were not, can not be, or did not want to be a mom. motherhood is not for everyone and i personally think more people need to realize that not every woman in this day and age lives her whole life just to have children...we have our own dreams and goals now, and that's ok. we don't have to all be domestic little Jude Cleavers anymore. i think it's wonderful that women know themselves well enough to know that they would prefer NOT to be a mom. that's so much better than having kids because it's expected of you and then living your whole life unhappy.
for the women who wanted children but were not blessed with them. i know it must be so hard when you find out that you cannot produce children, but you are still wonderful women living wonderful lives and changing the world around you. some of you adopt and that is such an amazing thing that you are doing. some of you have fur kids and save and raise up beautiful animals that need you just as much as a child does. don't let anyone make you feel bad or hurt you with their stupid thoughless questions and words. you are all amazing and God has HUGE plans for your lives even when we can't understand what's happening and why, someday when we meet the Lord in Heaven, we'll see the bigger picture and understand it all.
hold your heads up high ladies, no matter where you are in life, you are there for a reason and other people should never make you feel like crap because they are too nosy or rude. we're all amazing and have amazing stories!!! Keep it up! |