Very upset with a message from a YT member!

[MyFairLacy]

I was really expecting to read something completely different than the PM sent to you. I thought his PM was well-intentioned...sometimes people overlook things which could potentially be dangerous situations, and wouldn't you rather someone let you know than just ignore it and one of your babies possibly get hurt? I didn't think he was rude at all, but I think your response back was honestly...he was in no way accusing you of harming your dogs and you seemed to be overly sensitive and acted like he was. Anyway, I've seen plenty of rudeness on here before and his PM to you was not rude in my opinion

[speleogirl37]

Originally Posted by hartygirl

Are we allowed to post pm's like that?

Sorry ot, but I don't know if I would agree with it. It seems a little unfair to "John".

[bchgirl]

Originally Posted by hartygirl

Are we allowed to post pm's like that?

Sorry ot, but I don't know if I would agree with it. It seems a little unfair to "John".

I think a good rule of thumb is don't send something via pm that you wouldn't post publically.

[hartygirl]

Originally Posted by bchgirl

I think a good rule of thumb is don't send something via pm that you wouldn't post publicly.

I agree, but I think John sent this via pm so he could avoid something like this happening. I'm not John and I don't know if that was really his intention. If he were to have posted that publicly then I feel that it would have gotten the same response as it is getting now.

Are we allowed to post pm's?

[chachi]

Are we allowed to post pm's?[/QUOTE]
Im not sure but people have did it before and their post didnt get deleted. Oh and if you can believe it someone once posted admins pm they didnt agree with and it didnt get deleted

[stedmansmommy]

I have to agree with everyone else. When reading your initial post, I thought his PM to you was going to be pretty harsh, or a PM that was totally slamming you or chewing you our for something. But when I read his PM to you, I actually didn't see anything wrong with it at all. I thought he worded it very nicely and it seems to me that the only reason he sent you that PM was because he CARED and was concerned about your babies. If you *really* sit and think about it, maybe you can see this too? I think it is actually NICE that he cared so much to sit down and take the time to PM you about it - really, I think it was sweet of him And I also agree that he was being very considerate to PM you privately and not post his message publicly on the board like so many others do - and harsh ones at that - ones that end up actually having to be deleted.

All in all I think his PM was absolutely fine and I don't think that he was trying to say that you were a bad doggie mommy at all I also don't think that he was trying to insinuate that you are not properly taking care of your babies. It's just something that he noticed in the video that stood out to HIM and maybe he wasn't sure if you ever even noticed it. He just wanted to bring it to your attention and I don't think that there is anything wrong with that at all

[hugz4all4]

Originally Posted by scoobymom

While his intentions might have been good, I can fully understand how it might be taken as questioning how you care for your babies. Sometimes people on this forum can become very critical and downright harsh so I often find myself reading with that thought in my head. I think that people need to realize that when you question how someone raises or handles thier Yorkies you are basically questioning thier skills as a parent and I am sure that no one would appreciatte that very much. I have noticed several times that some members can be downright degrading to others and it has had me thinking of getting out, but there are also some wonderful people here who are not judgemental in the least and they are why I stay.

[hugz4all4]

Originally Posted by hartygirl

Are we allowed to post pm's like that?

Sorry ot, but I don't know if I would agree with it. It seems a little unfair to "John".

yeah I think so. Ive had one YT memember post one of my pm's that I sent to her and nothing was said. I dont think its right, because PM's are meant to be private. I certainly do think twice now when I send someone a pm

[CHRISTINAM28]

I dont think they really meant anything by it just being concerned that all

[CHRISTINAM28]

by the way your yorkie is beautiful

[MollysMum54]

Unfortunately however safe we think our homes are, there is always danger lurking for toddlers and small pets. When my son was only 4, he fell and caught his face on the corner of what i would have thought was a completely safe coffee table. It caused a split just above his eye, and he ended up having several stitches. Needless to say, the coffee table went on the bonfire the following week! Low tables like that with square corners can be harmful.
Hopefully John was just expressing concern and wasnt being malicious by posting.

[MyFairLacy]

Originally Posted by MollysMum54

Unfortunately however safe we think our homes are, there is always danger lurking for toddlers and small pets. When my son was only 4, he fell and caught his face on the corner of what i would have thought was a completely safe coffee table. It caused a split just above his eye, and he ended up having several stitches. Needless to say, the coffee table went on the bonfire the following week! Low tables like that with square corners can be harmful.
Hopefully John was just expressing concern and wasnt being malicious by posting.

That happened to me when I was three...fell off the couch and hit the corner of the coffee table and got a large cut above my left eye

[LolaLove]

The problem with all these new and improved ways of communication, it's hard to tell frame of reference when someone is typing via text message/email/etc. It can be completely misinterpreted, and seem like someone is criticizing when they are just trying to help. I think this may have happened in this case.

The problem with not hearing the tone of the person is, the person receiving the message can interpret it however they want, and it might not be the way it was intended. For some reason, this guy really upset you, and struck something that hit a nerve. I don't think he meant to upset you at all, but just wanted to voice his concern (whether you accepted it or not). I have to praise him for this because it's important that we protect the lives of all the little animals in the world .

[hartygirl]

Originally Posted by MollysMum54

Unfortunately however safe we think our homes are, there is always danger lurking for toddlers and small pets. When my son was only 4, he fell and caught his face on the corner of what i would have thought was a completely safe coffee table. It caused a split just above his eye, and he ended up having several stitches. Needless to say, the coffee table went on the bonfire the following week! Low tables like that with square corners can be harmful.
Hopefully John was just expressing concern and wasnt being malicious by posting.

I just posted in another thread about this topic that I just replaced my coffee table similar to the one in question with an outtoman.
Addy shakes her toys violently and I could just see her smacking into the old table and really hurting herself.
Not everyone would replace furniture, but they can move it.
Accidents happen, maybe John had to suffer through his yorkie having a trauma and wanted to prevent another one.

[dlross]

Just a concern person, as you know with these little furbabies all they need to do is land wrong on their feet (paws) whatever and fractures can happen, but a wonderful person like you who has taken 19 animals in obviously knows what you doing. Thanks for having a big heart and opening your home to them. Don’t let it bother you, you know what your doing.