Friendships

[Brooklynn]

I know I never post here or on YT alot these days. I just had to say that Friendships made should last forever and a life time! When you find that special friend it should be special. I am always saddened when a good friendship is broken.
Friendship to me means you take the good with the bad and accept a friend for who they are and understand that we are all different and have different ideas, opinions and can agree to disagree but a true friendship can work past their differences! I guess that is why I have always said I'd rather have my yorkies or animals as friends over any person any day because pets accept you for who you are and love you unconditionally. It saddens me that people can't take our pets loyalty and appy it to our personal lives as humans. When it's all said and done life is too short to take friendships for granted. Remember it's not all about one person it takes two to tango as the phrase goes and it takes to to work on friendships and relationships. Communication is key! Even I make mistakes but I hope I learn from them and I've actually learned alot in the past several years and I hope to gain a lot more compassion with what I've learned. I still believe I trust my yorkies and animals over humans any day but I'm hoping that will change in the New Year!
Remember we all have feelings and will not always agree but "TRUE" friendships work through problems not abandon them Cherish your friendships, Don't Destroy them

Thanks for listening

Donna Bird
Brooklynn's Yorkshire Terriers

[Tcarnagie]

I have to agree with you....true friendship means you get the good with the bad. I have been lucky to have a best friend since high school. We have raised are kids and now our grandkids together. Yes, we have had bad times but we have had many good times also. I think of her as my sister and I would always be there for her.

In life, we don't always get the opportunity to have some one special in our lives and we should never take friendship for granted.

[Brooklynn]

Originally Posted by Tcarnagie

I have to agree with you....true friendship means you get the good with the bad. I have been lucky to have a best friend since high school. We have raised are kids and now our grandkids together. Yes, we have had bad times but we have had many good times also. I think of her as my sister and I would always be there for her.

In life, we don't always get the opportunity to have some one special in our lives and we should never take friendship for granted.

I totally agree! I have a couple of best friends, one that lives far away and I met her actually online and there are alot we disagree on but that has NEVER compromised our friendship. We accept each other for who we are and love each other as sisters even long distance! I have another one that lives in the same town and went to school together and we see each other maybe once or twice a year, actually we see each other more now but when it wasn't like that and we got together again it's like we never missed a beat!
I know I'm not perfect and neither are my best friends but I'm sooooooo grateful that they and I accept each other the way we are and see past our differences and I love them so much and glad we have mutal respect. I think that is the key to a great friendship is respect even through the disagreements

[MeganS]

What a great post!

I am lucky to have my very best friend in the whole world. I love her like a sister. I even call her mom "mom" sometimes haha. My kids will call her aunt, and her's will call me aunt. we are SO close.

we've been friends since I guess 3rd grade or so. We were forced into a playdate and the rest is history. we've had bad times...but for every bad time there have been 100 amazing memories. She is the greatest friend I could ever ask for and I am very blessed to have her in my life.

and of course I also love my other best friend. The three of us are the 3 amigos lol.

[Brooklynn]

Originally Posted by MeganS

What a great post!

I am lucky to have my very best friend in the whole world. I love her like a sister. I even call her mom "mom" sometimes haha. My kids will call her aunt, and her's will call me aunt. we are SO close.

we've been friends since I guess 3rd grade or so. We were forced into a playdate and the rest is history. we've had bad times...but for every bad time there have been 100 amazing memories. She is the greatest friend I could ever ask for and I am very blessed to have her in my life.

and of course I also love my other best friend. The three of us are the 3 amigos lol.

I have about 4 best friends and we are as close as anyone can be, of course each of the ones I have don't know each other but each one will always have a special place in my heart because we all understand and accept each other for who we are! Even when my bestest friend chews me out for something I know she's doing it out of love even tho I happen to disagree with what she might say we move on and continue to laugh, cry and laugh and cry again with each other when something good or bad happens in our lives! She's my rock after my husband of course! True friends ROCK! Wish more people were like that!

[cj125]

Great time to bring this up Donna. It's the New Year. Never wait to tell someone how you feel about them. You might not get another chance. I tell my close friends "Love You" at the end of each phone call - just like I do my family. What's that saying... Friends are family we choose.

[chloesMama]

My best friend and I met in High school...we HATED each other , but were forced together for "lunch detention"...we were basically egging each other on to see who would snap and go after the other first ( so much for the private school manners mother wanted to install ) I said something to someone else that she agreed with and we started up a hesitant conversation.....and by the end of the week....we were inseparable ...we hated all the same people ( we were so goofy)

We were and still are EXACT opposites in almost every way..but it works somehow...though no one , not even us knows why... We keep each other straight ( most of the time ) and I would never turn my back on her and know she would always stand up for me.

True friendship is rare. I have lots of people I like ....but only two real friends...her and my husband.

[Brooklynn]

Originally Posted by chloesMama

My best friend and I met in High school...we HATED each other , but were forced together for "lunch detention"...we were basically egging each other on to see who would snap and go after the other first ( so much for the private school manners mother wanted to install ) I said something to someone else that she agreed with and we started up a hesitant conversation.....and by the end of the week....we were inseparable ...we hated all the same people ( we were so goofy)

We were and still are EXACT opposites in almost every way..but it works somehow...though no one , not even us knows why... We keep each other straight ( most of the time ) and I would never turn my back on her and know she would always stand up for me.

True friendship is rare. I have lots of people I like ....but only two real friends...her and my husband.

I can honestly say I have about 1 best friend but 4 come very close behind her! All of us are totally opposite most of the time but somehow we have found something in common with each other and we just click and keep each other grounded! I've had two really really close friends cross a line that should have never been crossed but am thankful for the ones I have in my life I can call sisters and stand behind me and love and accept me and I the same with them. Friendships for me are hard to come by but I do have some I would trust with my life besides my husband. That is why it's hard for me to trust and when that trust is broken hard to ever trust again. But THANK GOODNESS those friends I have now are a GOD SEND! And I know they would always stand up for me and have my back as I would them! God I am so fortunate to have them as part of my family!

[darnlora]

Donna- very touched by your post I hope your friend can understand the sincerity this was written with. Made me cry almost for you are right..... True friends accept all your shortcomings all your differences and love you sometimes in spite or to spite yourself and the stupidity all of us have.... So heres to friendships may they be renewed and revitalized and all our differnces be forgiven! Hugs to all and happy New year!!!!!

[BLEU BOY BARBER]

Donna,

What a awesome post... People get tickled at me because NO MATTER WHAT .. I always pick up right where we left off... Im a big girl and I can say I am sorry. I learn when I am criticized ... Friends are amazing and you know you have a true friend when they accept you and love you unconditionally no matter what.....None of us are perfect by any stretch of the imagination and Friendship is a 2 way street..... Looking back over friendships I was thinking to myself .. I am glad my husband is not only my friend but my husband. I say this because we have had arguments and we agree to disagree and he has NEVER LEFT ME....I will say this I totally respect the POEM A REASON SEASON AND A LIFETIME .. I say I respect it I do NOT understand it....Because to me a friend is a friend till death do you part.

I love my friends and no matter the circumstance in life present or not if I call you a friend once you are MY friend FOREVER in my heart my soul and my mind even though our friendship in "your"eyes is over.

Donna I am so glad you and I call each other friend! 2009 is going to be a great year ...

[BLEU BOY BARBER]

Wow now this post touched me and this is how I feel Thank you for putting into words what I did not

Originally Posted by darnlora

Donna- very touched by your post I hope your friend can understand the sincerity this was written with. Made me cry almost for you are right..... True friends accept all your shortcomings all your differences and love you sometimes in spite or to spite yourself and the stupidity all of us have.... So heres to friendships may they be renewed and revitalized and all our differnces be forgiven! Hugs to all and happy New year!!!!!

[Gypsy & Me]

I had 3 very good and close friends... one has made me about and dumped on me too many times to remember and I've closed off to him completely, he's no longer welcome in my life. Another got a new GF who instantly hated me so I rarely see him anymore. The other one treats me like I'm stupid and he constantly lies to me. Great friends eh?

Since having Amelia it's hard to get out and do stuff with my other friends and they take the attitude "out of sight, out of mind".

I'm very fortunate that I have found and made some awesome friends online so I'm never lonely and always have someone to have a laugh with and chat too.

[shirlblack]

Words of wisdom are like nuggets of gold. Thank you Donna for this thread and those are words of wisdom.

[bjh]

Donna, I just wanted to say thank you for this thread. It really hit home for me because of the heartbreak I had in dealing with a dear friend. It does hurt but sometimes things are beyond our control and understanding so we have to pray for them and move on. Sometimes they come back and sometimes they don't. The love of a true friend is the same as the love for a brother, sister, spouse or parent. No relationship is perfect and people need to be understanding and forgiving. Sometimes people have physical and emotional problems that cause them to say things they don't mean. I pray your 'true friends' will always be there for you. Hugs.

[Diego]

I agree 1000 % with you on true friendship .