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princess chloe · 11-19-2008, 10:04 AM

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Originally Posted by abaddon248

he doesnt do anything honestly. When im sick he gives me the excuse he cant sympathize because he has asthma and it is way worse than what im going through. I fell in love with a different guy. I dont know what it is that he has going in his head but it needs to stop. He has changed for me and it has become great and then its just another fall out. we are on the right track right now and hopefully there will be no fights.

I just find it funny that he is insecure that im doing everyone or anything ! and his reason is because he doesnt please me ?!. I'm like maybe if you did regularly you wouldnt have those thoughts. ( I have never cheated and never will, I dont care if its months and months of dry spells I will never do that to him )

I have asthma to and so do my children and I dont think any of us are helpless because of it! Youve just got to realize it isnt what you do or dont do,,,he needs alittle changing himself!! He sounds very insecure and you can't change that for him.My now boyfriend of 7 years is big and 10 years older than me and used to be jealous(not to the extent of my x).I had to come right out with it and tell him I will not put up with this bs,if your gonna keep it up,I will leave.I guess it all depends on how much you can take,,life is way to short and I live my life the way I want now.I take very good care of everyone in my family,,including myself,we all take care of eachother,it's about respect and empathy,and being considerate of everyones feelings.

amandawash · 11-19-2008, 10:13 AM

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Originally Posted by princess chloe

Whoa,he sounds like my X! The jealousy anyway! I would get accused of "doing everyone"!!!!! Even pregnant,,my Dr.,,,,the ultrasound guy,,,whoever walked by me! That was really wearing on me!! After 3 kids and10 years,,I was so over it ! Needles to say I left. I really hope things can work out for you,,just don't compromise your self respect or self worth,,,you have to realize that your worth more.And I hear you saying I do this for him and I do that,,,what does he do? Just dont lose yourself in a relationship,if you always try pleasing someone else,,the only one that isn't pleased is you!! Good Luck

Oh girl, I hear you there. I was engaged to this guy who was probably the most abusive (mental) that I would ever encounter. I accused me of sleeping with ANYONE. He would get in fights with me so he could go out, wouldn't come home, "worked" all the time, and would turn his phone off. What the hell was I thinking????? He bought me a 2 karat engagement ring, not because he loved me, but because he wanted "everyone to know" I was taken. After several BAD weeks, I left. I had to move back in with my parents, but I lived and met my WONDERFUL husband three months later. We were married a year after that...

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Originally Posted by abaddon248

he doesnt do anything honestly. When im sick he gives me the excuse he cant sympathize because he has asthma and it is way worse than what im going through. I fell in love with a different guy. I dont know what it is that he has going in his head but it needs to stop. He has changed for me and it has become great and then its just another fall out. we are on the right track right now and hopefully there will be no fights.

I just find it funny that he is insecure that im doing everyone or anything ! and his reason is because he doesnt please me ?!. I'm like maybe if you did regularly you wouldnt have those thoughts. ( I have never cheated and never will, I dont care if its months and months of dry spells I will never do that to him )

And you, missy, you really need to sit down and re-evaluate. I know you love him, but he can't love you until he loves himself. This sounds much more serious than it originally did. He really needs to consider counseling and meeting with a doctor and getting a plan to become healthy.

abaddon248 · 11-19-2008, 10:32 AM

I never thought that his health issues it cold be the reason why he trats me the way he does. I thought he was a insensitive a$# .

amandawash · 11-19-2008, 11:11 AM

I don't know if you were relpying to my post, but I meant he needs to get to a doctor to prevent an early death. He and you need to get to a counselor to get your marriage healthy. Marriage is hard enough, without the BS.

BubblPopElectrc · 11-19-2008, 11:21 AM

I hope he doesn't find this thread but I guess you thought of that before you posted it.

abaddon248 · 11-19-2008, 11:22 AM

he doesnt even know about YT. It is my escape :P

princess chloe · 11-19-2008, 12:15 PM

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Originally Posted by amandawash

Oh girl, I hear you there. I was engaged to this guy who was probably the most abusive (mental) that I would ever encounter. I accused me of sleeping with ANYONE. He would get in fights with me so he could go out, wouldn't come home, "worked" all the time, and would turn his phone off. What the hell was I thinking????? He bought me a 2 karat engagement ring, not because he loved me, but because he wanted "everyone to know" I was taken. After several BAD weeks, I left. I had to move back in with my parents, but I lived and met my WONDERFUL husband three months later. We were married a year after that...

And you, missy, you really need to sit down and re-evaluate. I know you love him, but he can't love you until he loves himself. This sounds much more serious than it originally did. He really needs to consider counseling and meeting with a doctor and getting a plan to become healthy.

LOL sounds like our X's are alike LOL that's why they are X'S!!! Mine joined a "bowling team" for after work!!! Some games lasted till the next morning!! So glad Im done with that!!!!!!!

Peters · 11-19-2008, 12:44 PM

i think he looks uncomfortable actually in the last pic but yeah i would be highly annoyed if some strange girl was putting her arm around my hubby at all to begin with!!

mizzwanned · 11-19-2008, 01:14 PM

Honestly like everyone said, he looks uncomfortable in the pic with the blonde and he looks most comfortable with you and like he's happy yo be there with you. He is embracing you in the pic and pulling you in kinda.

abaddon248 · 11-19-2008, 01:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Peters

i think he looks uncomfortable actually in the last pic but yeah i would be highly annoyed if some strange girl was putting her arm around my hubby at all to begin with!!

not only that but HE HAS HIS ARM around her!!!!! he would kill me if i did that

allisongaines · 11-19-2008, 01:52 PM

i agree.. he looks way my relaxed with you..
in the other picture he looks like he might of liked the attention he got from that other girl, maybe it made him feel young again (not that he isnt), but he has the whole oh s*** look on him haha.. like a nervous smile, and NOT a good kind of nervoud smile either.

but you know, if yall havent been happy for awhile and yall (or maybe it just seems like you) have been trying to fix yalls problems and he still doesnt seem to be trying, then maybe you need to rethink some things.

personally, i would be FURIOUS if my hubby went out to a club without me.... so cannot even imagine him going out to a club and taking pictures with another girl.

maybe its a commitment problem??

PANAMA69 · 11-20-2008, 11:32 PM

Well he look so in love with you in the picture, and with the other girl he look like hurry up take the picture, he honestly look embarras, but that girl

what why is she taken a picture with a taken man?

Akbritt · 11-21-2008, 12:39 AM

Oh No sweetie you are way way cuter then the blond bimbo...that girl is actually lucky you didnt haul off and punch her in the head. I wouldnt call what he was doing a smile...to me it looked like a "im kinda freaked out" grimis (i dont think grimis is a really word but i use it

) And your stars are fantastic! I have stars on my belly

11-19-2008, 10:32 AM	#48
abaddon248 YT Addict Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: rochester,ny Posts: 309	I never thought that his health issues it cold be the reason why he trats me the way he does. I thought he was a insensitive a$# . __________________ Cutie Max

11-19-2008, 11:11 AM	#49
amandawash Lovin' my R & R Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Middleton, Idaho Posts: 2,152	I don't know if you were relpying to my post, but I meant he needs to get to a doctor to prevent an early death. He and you need to get to a counselor to get your marriage healthy. Marriage is hard enough, without the BS. __________________ Amanda 's Ranger & Ryder

11-19-2008, 11:21 AM	#50
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11-19-2008, 11:22 AM	#51
abaddon248 YT Addict Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: rochester,ny Posts: 309	he doesnt even know about YT. It is my escape :P __________________ Cutie Max

11-19-2008, 12:44 PM	#53
Peters YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Alabama Posts: 2,225	i think he looks uncomfortable actually in the last pic but yeah i would be highly annoyed if some strange girl was putting her arm around my hubby at all to begin with!! __________________ A pet's love is true right from the start, through good times and bad, like sharing one heart.

11-19-2008, 01:14 PM	#54
mizzwanned Donating YT 11K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: new york Posts: 14,007 Blog Entries: 2	Honestly like everyone said, he looks uncomfortable in the pic with the blonde and he looks most comfortable with you and like he's happy yo be there with you. He is embracing you in the pic and pulling you in kinda. __________________ Primrose, Teddy..RIP, Livie..RIP, And can never forget my duo Sophie and London, Run in Peace <3

11-19-2008, 01:52 PM	#56
allisongaines Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2008 Location: hammond, LA Posts: 168 Blog Entries: 1	i agree.. he looks way my relaxed with you.. in the other picture he looks like he might of liked the attention he got from that other girl, maybe it made him feel young again (not that he isnt), but he has the whole oh s*** look on him haha.. like a nervous smile, and NOT a good kind of nervoud smile either. but you know, if yall havent been happy for awhile and yall (or maybe it just seems like you) have been trying to fix yalls problems and he still doesnt seem to be trying, then maybe you need to rethink some things. personally, i would be FURIOUS if my hubby went out to a club without me.... so cannot even imagine him going out to a club and taking pictures with another girl. maybe its a commitment problem??

11-20-2008, 11:32 PM	#57
PANAMA69 Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: ~~YorkieWorld~~ Posts: 8,428	Well he look so in love with you in the picture, and with the other girl he look like hurry up take the picture, he honestly look embarras, but that girlwhat why is she taken a picture with a taken man? __________________

11-21-2008, 12:39 AM	#58
Akbritt Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Connelly Springs NC Posts: 557	Oh No sweetie you are way way cuter then the blond bimbo...that girl is actually lucky you didnt haul off and punch her in the head. I wouldnt call what he was doing a smile...to me it looked like a "im kinda freaked out" grimis (i dont think grimis is a really word but i use it ) And your stars are fantastic! I have stars on my belly