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abaddon248 · 11-17-2008, 02:10 PM

lol Sexijessi ..no where near pyscho but thank you for understanding...he is all upset at me now that I even questioned him about loving me. I just dream of the day he will actually tell me baby I do! when its little things like this that bother me. Not fight with me about it . I just wanted some reassurance on his end. Like I do to him every day.

SexyJessi257 · 11-17-2008, 02:13 PM

men need to understand that we r crazy just like they r. they go thru their macho moments n we go thru out girly moments. sometimes we just need to be told that we r loved out of the blue. im sure u guys will overcome this. just talk to him about it. good luck

abaddon248 · 11-17-2008, 02:15 PM

thats the problem. After he gets upset like he did. I cant dare to say it again or it will become this blow out fight. Whenever I have a concern that i want to talk about a fight happens

amandawash · 11-17-2008, 02:26 PM

I really shouldn't speculate because I don't know the facts, but it sounds like he does not feel loved or valued, and is using his macho-ism and anger to cover hurt feelings. I am not saying it's your fault, but if he has self-esteem issues, he may cover his insecurities with anger or nastiness.

I know that when my husband doesn't feel "loved" (how do I put that tactfully??

) he jumps down my throat at everything. Then after he gets "loved" he is fine

. Guys are retarded and sometimes I get sooooo tired of making sure he feels manly and macho and needed. But I am thankful that my hubby is kind of sensitive because lord knows I have dated the most insensitive jerks around!!

I kind of feel sorry for him, it sounds like he really isn't happy with himself. And if you can't be happy with yourself, you can't make someone else happy. Isn't that how that saying goes?

Darlin Beauxs · 11-17-2008, 02:39 PM

Hubby looked at the pics he says yr husband was NOT happy in the pic with the girl....and he says you are prettier than that girl. Now, my husband has called another girl pretty--I'm mad

068 · 11-17-2008, 02:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Darlin Beauxs

Hubby looked at the pics he says yr husband was NOT happy in the pic with the girl....and he says you are prettier than that girl. Now, my husband has called another girl pretty--I'm mad

And that's why I'm not saying a word in this thread... my wife is also a member.

abaddon248 · 11-17-2008, 02:42 PM

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Originally Posted by amandawash

I really shouldn't speculate because I don't know the facts, but it sounds like he does not feel loved or valued, and is using his macho-ism and anger to cover hurt feelings. I am not saying it's your fault, but if he has self-esteem issues, he may cover his insecurities with anger or nastiness.

I know that when my husband doesn't feel "loved" (how do I put that tactfully??

) he jumps down my throat at everything. Then after he gets "loved" he is fine

. Guys are retarded and sometimes I get sooooo tired of making sure he feels manly and macho and needed. But I am thankful that my hubby is kind of sensitive because lord knows I have dated the most insensitive jerks around!!

I kind of feel sorry for him, it sounds like he really isn't happy with himself. And if you can't be happy with yourself, you can't make someone else happy. Isn't that how that saying goes?

wow that really opened up my eyes.. I NEVER thought of it that way. I feel like running to em and giving him a big hug! lol He is incredibly insecure and maybe that is what is hapenning. because he always saying "you having with your lil skinny people" so he really does always feel out of place. I just wish he would open up to me about the feeligns he has. He only does when he is extremely drunk (night of club after commin home thoriwn up on floor! lol) telling me how sad he is that he is not apart of the skinny group .

abaddon248 · 11-17-2008, 02:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Darlin Beauxs

Hubby looked at the pics he says yr husband was NOT happy in the pic with the girl....and he says you are prettier than that girl. Now, my husband has called another girl pretty--I'm mad

LOL your awesome Darlin Beuxs!

amandawash · 11-17-2008, 02:50 PM

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Originally Posted by abaddon248

wow that really opened up my eyes.. I NEVER thought of it that way. I feel like running to em and giving him a big hug! lol He is incredibly insecure and maybe that is what is hapenning. because he always saying "you having with your lil skinny people" so he really does always feel out of place. I just wish he would open up to me about the feeligns he has. He only does when he is extremely drunk (night of club after commin home thoriwn up on floor! lol) telling me how sad he is that he is not apart of the skinny group .

I know it's hard when you're mad, but you should try to approach him that way tonight. Give him a big hug, kiss him and tell him he's the most important thing in your life and you need him, yada yada yada. He is probably embarrassed about his feeling insecure and doesn't feel like he can open up. I bet if you approached him differently and made him feel safe and loved he will open up to you. They can be such children!! I am all about women being able to be independant and being able to take care of themselves, but most men need to feel needed. I don't mind playing damsel in distress sometimes

I'm actually pretty good at it

Wow. I feel so full of wisdom now that I am 26

Maybe it's not that bad..... hmmm.

phfgkl · 11-17-2008, 02:54 PM

Your husband looks very comfortable with you, the one with the blonde, he doesn't look happy at all, he does look embarrassed. It is very hard for overweight people( I know, I'm overweight), and I hate my pictures being taken too..I think most likely, he feels like I have before, (my hubby is good looking), like in his head, he doesn't feel like he's good enough for you, and is maybe afraid to really let his love out for you, in fear of being hurt..You are a very beautiful young woman, and I think instead of asking him if he loves you, just make sure you make him feel secure in the marriage and let him know how much you truely love him..How long have you been married?

abaddon248 · 11-17-2008, 02:59 PM

It will be 2 years on May 20th... and thank you so much ...I never thought of his side to things and will be showing him the affection and confidents he needs when he comes and picks me up from work. i will tell you all tomorrow what happend

phfgkl · 11-17-2008, 03:09 PM

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Originally Posted by abaddon248

It will be 2 years on May 20th... and thank you so much ...I never thought of his side to things and will be showing him the affection and confidents he needs when he comes and picks me up from work. i will tell you all tomorrow what happend

Good luck...I'm just trying to tell you(from being in his shoes), how I have always felt, my hubby has always been very nice looking and very well built, I was always wondering what does he see in me? But, we've been married (will be 32 years Dec.4)..It took me a long time to realize he loves me for who I am, and not my weight. I've been small and I've been big, and he has never treated me any different at all)..

Darlin Beauxs · 11-17-2008, 03:16 PM

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Originally Posted by phfgkl

Good luck...I'm just trying to tell you(from being in his shoes), how I have always felt, my hubby has always been very nice looking and very well built, I was always wondering what does he see in me? But, we've been married (will be 32 years Dec.4)..It took me a long time to realize he loves me for who I am, and not my weight. I've been small and I've been big, and he has never treated me any different at all)..

Yeah, that's why as soon as we got married, I set out to make Hubby fat too! LOL just joking. Bu he gained like most people do when they get married.

It is strange that most of the married people understood!

abaddon248 · 11-19-2008, 06:54 AM

so we are better and I came to work today and in my inbox was a picture of me andmy hubby! Thank you guys for making me understand his side...instead of my jealous side...it really made me open my eyes and let me treat hubby with more love and understanding. And when I got into our truck we were totally fine and i told him i love him.

here is the pic

pinkhouses86 · 11-19-2008, 07:08 AM

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Originally Posted by amandawash

I don't think he looks happier with the other girl. I think he looks embarrassed. Just me though.

I second that.

11-17-2008, 02:10 PM	#16
abaddon248 YT Addict Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: rochester,ny Posts: 309	lol Sexijessi ..no where near pyscho but thank you for understanding...he is all upset at me now that I even questioned him about loving me. I just dream of the day he will actually tell me baby I do! when its little things like this that bother me. Not fight with me about it . I just wanted some reassurance on his end. Like I do to him every day. __________________ Cutie Max

11-17-2008, 02:13 PM	#17
SexyJessi257 YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: New Jersey Posts: 765	men need to understand that we r crazy just like they r. they go thru their macho moments n we go thru out girly moments. sometimes we just need to be told that we r loved out of the blue. im sure u guys will overcome this. just talk to him about it. good luck __________________ Jessica Loving mommy to babies **Abby and Jack**

11-17-2008, 02:15 PM	#18
abaddon248 YT Addict Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: rochester,ny Posts: 309	thats the problem. After he gets upset like he did. I cant dare to say it again or it will become this blow out fight. Whenever I have a concern that i want to talk about a fight happens __________________ Cutie Max

11-17-2008, 02:26 PM	#19
amandawash Lovin' my R & R Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Middleton, Idaho Posts: 2,152	I really shouldn't speculate because I don't know the facts, but it sounds like he does not feel loved or valued, and is using his macho-ism and anger to cover hurt feelings. I am not saying it's your fault, but if he has self-esteem issues, he may cover his insecurities with anger or nastiness. I know that when my husband doesn't feel "loved" (how do I put that tactfully?? ) he jumps down my throat at everything. Then after he gets "loved" he is fine . Guys are retarded and sometimes I get sooooo tired of making sure he feels manly and macho and needed. But I am thankful that my hubby is kind of sensitive because lord knows I have dated the most insensitive jerks around!! I kind of feel sorry for him, it sounds like he really isn't happy with himself. And if you can't be happy with yourself, you can't make someone else happy. Isn't that how that saying goes? __________________ Amanda 's Ranger & Ryder

11-17-2008, 02:59 PM	#26
abaddon248 YT Addict Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: rochester,ny Posts: 309	It will be 2 years on May 20th... and thank you so much ...I never thought of his side to things and will be showing him the affection and confidents he needs when he comes and picks me up from work. i will tell you all tomorrow what happend __________________ Cutie Max

11-17-2008, 02:39 PM	#20
Darlin Beauxs Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Monroe, La, Us Posts: 1,326 Blog Entries: 1	Hubby looked at the pics he says yr husband was NOT happy in the pic with the girl....and he says you are prettier than that girl. Now, my husband has called another girl pretty--I'm mad

11-17-2008, 02:54 PM	#25
phfgkl BANNED! Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: South Carolina Posts: 2,376	Your husband looks very comfortable with you, the one with the blonde, he doesn't look happy at all, he does look embarrassed. It is very hard for overweight people( I know, I'm overweight), and I hate my pictures being taken too..I think most likely, he feels like I have before, (my hubby is good looking), like in his head, he doesn't feel like he's good enough for you, and is maybe afraid to really let his love out for you, in fear of being hurt..You are a very beautiful young woman, and I think instead of asking him if he loves you, just make sure you make him feel secure in the marriage and let him know how much you truely love him..How long have you been married?