Oh boy... (actually GIRL) - What have I DONE????

[Mom2BabyNatalie]

YouTube - I Will Not Be Moved - Natalie Grant

[BamaFan121s]

Originally Posted by JeanieK

Dena took on this task and she is not going to just quit jnow because it has gotten too hard.

I commend her. It can't be easy. She is commited, and as long as the little one is fighting she will fight too.

Generally speaking, make the decision to have an animal euthanized, be it a struggling pup, or very old and sick adult isn't "easy" either, as I am sure we can all agree. Sometimes that is the harding thing to do.

IMO, there is no right or wrong answer or opinion here. There are people who are upset, feeling that Emma is being allowed to suffer unneccessarily and there are people upset because someone would suggest having her PTS. I think that what is being overlooked is the fact that EVERYONE is merely expressing their own opinions on what they individually feel is best based on their own evaluations of the situation. There is alot of criticism being given to those who don't agree with the choices being made and that have been made thus far regarding Emma and those are being accused of "not being supportive." Just because someone has a differing opinion of what should be done does not mean they don't still support Dena's actions. Heck, there were TONS of things that I did that my mother disagreed with in life, but she still supported me and hoped for the best outcome possible. That is all anyone is doing here.

There comes a time when we all have to examine the situation and determine what is in the best interest of the animal and put our own desires aside. If there comes a time when Dena has to face that choice, then that is a decision she will have to make.

[JeanieK]

Dena so glad to see you back. Are you going to set the web cam back up? I went to the myspace page, but since I'm not a member it would not let me post.

[bchgirl]

Originally Posted by Wylie's Mom

I wasn't speaking of the cleft palate - I'm hoping that it can be repaired. I'm speaking of her quality of life after the unsuccessful surgery, the pain, the not using full anesthetic, the face splitting back open - and whether it can be fixed from there. That's what I'm talking about. Not the palate itself. The limitations of the medicine and/or the surgeons.

I'm hoping for the best here, for Dena and for Emma. I support them both.

Not to mention her nasal cavity is open. Some cleft palates can be repaired...and severe ones are not usually successful.

I am little taken aback that there seems to be little compassion or empathy for the suffering this baby has endured. A successful surgery is one thing...the aftermath of what's happened here is another.

I feel bad for Emma and that is who truly has my sympathies.

[DukesMommy]

I just signed in for the first time today. I can't believe the turn this thread took.
It's unfortunate that the surgery ultimately did not work, but there is nothing that can be done about that now, and there was no way that Dena would have known the outcome beforehand. And I don't see that as a reason to put Emma down. In my opinion, yes Emma may be in some pain at the moment, but you don't put a dog down when they are in pain from a broken leg do you? It is sad to see her little face the way it is right now, but a lot of things you see in life are sad, morally, if she is perfectly capable of living her little life, then it would just be wrong to end it.
I hope that she makes it through this and lives a full life, and I think it is remarkable everything Dena has done to try to make that possible for Emma.

Don't let a few negative opinions get you down.

[bchgirl]

Originally Posted by BamaFan121s

There comes a time when we all have to examine the situation and determine what is in the best interest of the animal and put our own desires aside.

Agree

[YorkieRose]

I am not posting any longer..but wish you great wisdom with Emma. It is the hardest decision a pet lover faces..I have had to remind myself many times there is a space between human and animal life...and I thanked God greatly I had the power to end the suffering of my animals when it was needed...but this is a decision that needs to be made by each pet lover, to do the best for the one they love, regardless of the heart aches it brings..best wishes to you.

[lulababy]

i cant believe some people on this board .. it just really upsets me, the callousness. I cant believe what some people posted on here!! I really hope emma makes it through this and I am sad to see that she is still having such a hard time and that the stitches are back out again I hope things improve quickly

[Mom2BabyNatalie]

You know........ Emma is not "my dog"..... she's not from a litter born to me... she's not a baby I sought out and brought home with the intention of raising to be "my new love".... she's not even the pup of a "friend of a friend of a family member"....

She didn't start out as my "obligation" or my "responsibility"...

She's not even going to remain with me once she is well.....

I simply happened upon her story, much like all of you.... and my heart could not refuse her.

I am doing my very best for this precious, precious soul.......... and that's all I can do..... I may NOT make all the right decisions for Emma... I don't know - - - but I pray that God will guide me in how best to care for her and that He will hold her in His healing hands through her struggles..... I don't know how to do anything more.

This is not about MY needs..... whether or not I am well... whether or not I "have time" to nurture her..... whether or not I "can afford" her care.... whether or not I "have it in me" to give to what some may see as a "painstakingly worthless effort"..............

This is not about what I want...... I have a life... I have children coming back from summer vacation tomorrow... starting back to school the day after tomorrow.... I still have the loss of a beloved family pet to help my son get through.... I have a brand new grandchild ready to join the world any day now... I have hobbies and entertainment and friends - - all being neglected.... I have my Yorks who already take so much love and care.... I have home repairs that have gone unfinished... appointments that haven't been kept.... dinners that haven't been made.... laundry that hasn't been done... and the dream of a 3 hour bubble bath that STILL awaits me.........................

IT DOESN'T MATTER!!! None of it makes a difference!! NONE of that will stop me from giving Emma the best possible care that I am able to provide to her. EVERYONE here in this house will continue to work our daily lives and schedules AROUND EMMA........ because, in this family, we carry our weak... and right now... Emma is a part of our family... and her well being is what's important.

So if none of THAT can affect my love for this tiny little being........... the comments by those who cannot possibly feel my heart - - - will certainly not lead me to disregard her.....

My dedication to this little creature whom God has entrusted to me...... will not waiver.... My faith in Him - WHATEVER His plan for Emma - is unfailing....

Maybe she won't survive........ but the trials endured will not go without having served the purpose that God has intended..... and I know in my heart, that one tiny girl in this world, even if only for a while.... will have learned what it is, to feel loved - despite the pain.

[Mom2BabyNatalie]

Originally Posted by JeanieK

Dena so glad to see you back. Are you going to set the web cam back up? I went to the myspace page, but since I'm not a member it would not let me post.

Emma's live video stream should be up and running. I haven't made any changes with it at all, so if for some reason you are not able to view her, please feel free to let me know and I'll try to figure out the problem.

[DONNADEE]

Dena, i have watched this little baby thrive and gain weight and all of this is because of your care and comfort for this liitle baby,i just pulled her up on the blog just now and you where putting her back in her bed,this baby as i have watched for days has so much will to live and i can see her energy and the way her little body is getting bigger,so i know deep in my heart that our lord up in heaven is beside you in every way and please dont pay attention to peoples negative comments because i have seen this with my eyes ever since you put up the blog,GOD LOVES ALL CREATURES GREAT AND SMALL AND HIS HAND IS UPON YOUR LITTLE EMMA.
GOD BLESS YOU
DONNA

[JeanieK]

Originally Posted by Mom2BabyNatalie

Emma's live video stream should be up and running. I haven't made any changes with it at all, so if for some reason you are not able to view her, please feel free to let me know and I'll try to figure out the problem.

There was a sign on it that said you had taken it down. Can you post the link again?

As for those who were "just expressing their opinion", many of Gods creatures suffer pain, but if in the long run they go on to live normal lives, isn't the pain worth it?

As for being entited to their "opinions", they certainly are, but if expressing their opinion causes some one else pain than it is better kept to themselves.

[BamaFan121s]

Originally Posted by JeanieK

As for those who were "just expressing their opinion", many of Gods creatures suffer pain, but if in the long run they go on to live normal lives, isn't the pain worth it?

THAT is the million dollar question to which there is no right or wrong answer. If there was, then the issue would be non existant.

[Breny]

My Tia is living proof that these babies CAN be saved. Tia and I are still here pulling for you and Emma. I know each case is different and Tias cleft was inside, the whole back of her roof of her mouth.

We made it with a bottle only, never having the weight gain Emma has had...normally losing...Two years later here we are.

I feel confident this little one can pull through....she's eating, she's gaining, she's pooing and peeing. Tia went 4 months before having solid poo.

I don't post too much cuz I cry everytime I come to this thread.

But Tia and I are here rooting for you!!!

YouTube - TT Marie

[JeanieK]

WOW. I located the link to the blog, and I just saw her moving around. She appears to be resting comfortably.

I saved the link to my desktop so I won't lose it again.