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07-12-2008, 12:22 AM | #1 |
YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Knoxville,Tennessee
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| Daughter's divorce (kinda long) Need advice: A while back I posted that my son in law cheated on my dtr. They split for a wk and he came back all sorry and she sd she would give him another chance. Things were going fine. He went to National Guard boot camp but when he came back things went to H.../He "lost" his wedding ring while he was gone also. On the 3rd she found text messages he was sending to a girl in Mo (where he had been) Dtr texted asking if she knew he was married and she replied he did not tell her that. He was also texting the same girl he had cheated with before who does know he is married. The text said something about things were going south did she want to get with him. Dtr went ballistic told him to contact her and tell her it was over and he refused. She told him they were over. They are trying to divide the bills with my hubby as mediator. The biggest concern is her name on his car loan and she wants the big screen tv. She is also adamant she keeps her yorkie and doxie. Now does anyone have any advice for her to get through this? Any special tips on a divorce? He already has a lawyer he said.
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07-12-2008, 01:07 AM | #2 |
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| Poor thing. Sorry for your daughter. She need a lawyer too. Since he have cheat on her and she isn't asking for much she should get what she is asking for. Best of luck. |
07-12-2008, 01:27 AM | #3 |
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| She needs an attorney especially if he already has one
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07-12-2008, 03:24 AM | #4 | |
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07-12-2008, 07:06 AM | #5 |
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| Don't let him keep the car as she will be liable if he does not pay the loan or if he pays late! They need to sell the car and determine how to split any proceeds or if there is still a balance on the loan he needs to take out a small loan to cover the short. Otherwise he could ruin her credit! CANCEL any credit cards with both their names on them and have her open a new bank account in her name only. Do not allow him access to anything since he sounds like a JERK and could potentially clean her out or charge up balances. (Can you tell I've watched a lot of Judge Judy? ) She needs a lawyer now!
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07-12-2008, 08:14 AM | #6 | |
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07-12-2008, 08:19 AM | #7 | |
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He wants to be reimbursed for all the military money he sent home from boot camp. Mind you, this was while they were still together and it went for bills. He called her last night making demands. Hubby and I have decided we will go in debt to get her a lawyer if need be. If he keeps making demands I told her to ask for alimony as she just has a part time job at Linens and Things right now. Thanks all.
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07-12-2008, 08:41 AM | #8 |
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| Best of luck to all of you. You're wonderful parents to help her out when/if she needs it. Divorce is never easy, no matter how simple it seems in the beginning
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07-12-2008, 06:28 PM | #9 |
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| I dont really have any advice but wanted to wish you and your daughter luck! d
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07-12-2008, 09:15 PM | #10 |
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| I'm so sorry to hear that your daughter (and you!) are going through this. I know that lawyers can be expensive, but it sounds like your daughter needs one to protect herself [full disclosure: I just graduated from law school, so I guess I'm supporting my profession ]. I worked at a familly law firm before law school, and it's amazing how low some people will go in a divorce. I hope this all works out for ya'll!
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07-12-2008, 09:23 PM | #11 | |
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get a lawyer..he cannot make her give back money that while together while he was at boot camp it went on their housing..tell her to tell him to talk to her lawyer.. a lawyer will make sure it is done right.. to look after your daughter finances.. also go after support if this is what he is wanting.. he will have to pay her.. until she remarries...anne | |
07-12-2008, 11:51 PM | #12 |
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| Thanks all. I have told her if he keeps up to go for alimony. I am angry. I once told my hubby if we ever divorced I would go for everything he had and hoped to have. Son in law even sd once he wants Gremlin, their yorkie. I said fight over him and she will.
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07-13-2008, 05:47 AM | #13 |
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| Your daughter needs a lawyer! Does she have children with this man? If so, she needs child support. Since she's only working part time - she depends on his health insurance. He should keep it on her until she finds full time employment with benefits. Also, is there any way she can transfer the text messages on HIS phone to HER phone? That would support the fact that he's cheating on her. I don't know about alimony. When I divorced my first husband, I was 24 and had 2 LITTLE children. I was a stay at home Mom, and the judge told me "You'll be remarried within a year" and didn't give it to me. I was a single Mom for 10 years before I remarried!
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07-13-2008, 02:22 PM | #14 |
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| No kids. Had not thought about the health insurance. There is going to be a planning session for Niki and her dad tonight I will mention it.
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07-13-2008, 02:33 PM | #15 |
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| I am truly sorry about your daughter. She must Consult an attorney who specializes in matrimonial law. Get a clear understanding of what she is legally entitled to (alimony, division of marital assets) in the event of a divorce or separation since he is the one cheating she stands a better chance of getting what's entiled to her. He is the one having "extramarital affairs" adultery by either spouse is a ground for divorce!
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