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cdawnfine · 06-04-2008, 01:40 PM

Be very carefull here you are in the middle of a divorce, if you leave the house he can claim you abandoned him, the laws are different in all states but I would check with a lawyer before you do anything.

red98vett · 06-04-2008, 01:43 PM

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Originally Posted by cariblonde

Well everyone thanks for your input, I know some of you are gong to think Im crazy but I decided to move.. I went today and put down the security deposit so I officially move in June 24th!!

I hope you all will be happy for me dispite most of your opinions to stay put. I called my mom this morning and got her advice and she said in her opinion it would be the best thing for me.. She said I have always been a city girl at heart trapped in the country and she knew I was never happy here even before my ex and I split up.. She said if I dont like it or something happens I can always sub let it and I will always have a place to live if I ever want to come back....

I feel so many things right now: Terrified for obvious reasons, Hopeful for my future, a little bittersweet sadness this is the place i grew up, but most of all I feel excitement to fianlly have my own personal space and hope for the future! thank you all for your wonderful advice

GOOD LUCK ! I was going to say if the commute etc was a wear on you then go for it - but then I saw Free rent in your house and that would have been a big decision for me too - I don't know if I could have made the decision to move if I lived rent free....the bills add up FAST.

I recently did what you're doing - (only my husband died)

and let me tell you - apartment life is SO different than living in a house with a yard.

I'm not used to it yet but coping. I wish you all the best and you got a great deal !! I pay that for a one Bedroom here in houston and I'm not in the best part of town but AM close to my job.

Tiggerwit's right - it's a big change. I feel really lucky cause I did find a downstairs place WITH a back patio in a nice courtyard - but it's still an adjustment - I think if I had free rent - a home with a yard Id have stayed but then again - NO commuting is also a BIG PLUS - so congratulations - I hope your move goes well...It is kind of nice to look around and say this is all mine and you don't have to spend hours driving to work - cleaning and mowing grass

Tiggerwit · 06-04-2008, 01:58 PM

V - you brave woman you. Bottom floor freaks me out.

red98vett · 06-04-2008, 02:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Tiggerwit

V - you brave woman you. Bottom floor freaks me out.

LOL - Me too -but I weighed it against walking up and down stairs with the girls and them having no place to hang out when I'm home - vs - having a fenced in patio and them being able to step outside if they need to 'go'

the patio won.

This weekend I hope to get a canopy for it - I have indoor outdoor carpet down and can open my back door... and they can out they go in the mornings and night even though we go on 2 walks a day but - that's the reason I chose the bottom floor.

But you were so right talking about what a hassle it is having pets and moving from a house to an apartment - walks are STRESSING ME OUT - I worry so much that something is going to happen and it has - 3 times. Lucky for us - we had a good ending but man - it only takes a second ....

I MISS THEIR YARD and they do too.

Tiggerwit · 06-04-2008, 02:42 PM

Sorry to hijack thread so V I'm PM'ing you.

Bizzymammabee · 06-04-2008, 02:52 PM

I say get him to move out. The house is paid and it was your moms so your entitled to that house. You can easily change it up and make it a fresh start in your new single life ( a coat of paint goes a long way). But if you feel like the new place is a better situation for you then go for it. Maybe sell the house and sock away the money for a rainy day or for when you decide to buy again. I know owning a house is a lot of work but I find it worth it because after all the sweat and bills you own something vs paying someone elses mortgage. Property is a nice investment for when we get older. You figure there is no note on it so the gas cost will still be less than paying for the new apt.

cariblonde · 06-04-2008, 03:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Bizzymammabee

I say get him to move out. The house is paid and it was your moms so your entitled to that house. You can easily change it up and make it a fresh start in your new single life ( a coat of paint goes a long way). But if you feel like the new place is a better situation for you then go for it. Maybe sell the house and sock away the money for a rainy day or for when you decide to buy again. I know owning a house is a lot of work but I find it worth it because after all the sweat and bills you own something vs paying someone elses mortgage. Property is a nice investment for when we get older. You figure there is no note on it so the gas cost will still be less than paying for the new apt.

He doesnt live here, he moved out a couple months ago... You are right about the investment part but I know deep down Im making the right decision for me and my son

Bizzymammabee · 06-04-2008, 04:01 PM

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Originally Posted by cariblonde

He doesnt live here, he moved out a couple months ago... You are right about the investment part but I know deep down Im making the right decision for me and my son

Well at least the sale of the house when you get around to it will be a nice nest egg. You can also maybe use it as a rental property to actually get that money to pay for the new place.

Either way honey. I wish you well..you deserve to be happy and have your mind and soul at ease.

YorkichonBella · 06-04-2008, 04:23 PM

My daughter is 25 (we are really close) and from the many talks w/her, I had a sneaky suspicion that this was the decision you wanted deep in yr heart. What makes me really happy for you is that you have your Mom's understanding & backing you up on your decision.

I know you feel better that the decision is made & now you know the direction for the future. How exciting! I'm cheering for you

you seem like a very responsible, loving young woman.

I wish you all the best in this exciting new venture!

cariblonde · 06-04-2008, 04:30 PM

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Originally Posted by YorkichonBella

My daughter is 25 (we are really close) and from the many talks w/her, I had a sneaky suspicion that this was the decision you wanted deep in yr heart. What makes me really happy for you is that you have your Mom's understanding & backing you up on your decision.

I know you feel better that the decision is made & now you know the direction for the future. How exciting! I'm cheering for you

you seem like a very responsible, loving young woman.

I wish you all the best in this exciting new venture!

thanks for your support

I guess I already had my mind made up but I just didnt know it at the time

Im glad you are so close with your daughter I know she is too, I love having my mother around and being so close with her

blueeyes_jd · 06-04-2008, 04:49 PM

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Originally Posted by cariblonde

Well everyone thanks for your input, I know some of you are gong to think Im crazy but I decided to move.. I went today and put down the security deposit so I officially move in June 24th!!

I hope you all will be happy for me dispite most of your opinions to stay put. I called my mom this morning and got her advice and she said in her opinion it would be the best thing for me.. She said I have always been a city girl at heart trapped in the country and she knew I was never happy here even before my ex and I split up.. She said if I dont like it or something happens I can always sub let it and I will always have a place to live if I ever want to come back....

I feel so many things right now: Terrified for obvious reasons, Hopeful for my future, a little bittersweet sadness this is the place i grew up, but most of all I feel excitement to fianlly have my own personal space and hope for the future! thank you all for your wonderful advice

YAY you are getting a FRESH NEW START! its the least you deserve! I knew you had your mind made up! I know everyone on here that offered advice really had your heart and well being in mind when they gave you the advice and it was GREAT advice it would be nice to save some money for a rainy day... but I think you did what anyone would have done had they been in your shoes! good luck to your new life! may you find peace and happiness...

flgurl69 · 06-04-2008, 05:25 PM

I completely understand your reasons for moving. My situation was a little similar. When I moved from Virginia to Florida I left a home I spent my childhood years in. It had a lot of memories but no matter how much renovating and updating I did it still felt like my childhood home. Now that I'm settled in Florida I have my own home and it feels like mine, you know?

Good luck in your home and job. I'm sure you will do well. Sometimes a new place is very refreshing and it's like starting a new chapter in life.

mizzwanned · 06-04-2008, 06:01 PM

I hope everything goes well for you. If you truly are a city girl then i say go for it and think it will be the best, you need a fresh new start.

LunasMomma · 06-05-2008, 06:33 AM

I'd take the extra money you're making and redecorate

AND make new memories there with friends and loved ones. I hate to think of you and the pups in an apartment when you have a perfectly good house/yard

I know you're hurting, but I have a sneaking suspicion that you'd be hurting no matter where you're living----so why not stay put, ya know?

Hugs!

jfalz73 · 06-05-2008, 06:42 AM

Good luck to you on your move! I hope it IS INDEED the FRESH start you seem to need so much! God Bless!

06-04-2008, 01:58 PM	#33
Tiggerwit Just me 'n my boys Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Murphy, TX Posts: 4,596	V - you brave woman you. Bottom floor freaks me out. __________________ "Be kinder than necessary, for everyone is fighting some kind of battle." Alphy 's Roxy

06-04-2008, 02:42 PM	#35
Tiggerwit Just me 'n my boys Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Murphy, TX Posts: 4,596	Sorry to hijack thread so V I'm PM'ing you. __________________ "Be kinder than necessary, for everyone is fighting some kind of battle." Alphy 's Roxy

06-04-2008, 02:52 PM	#36
Bizzymammabee Luvs Lulu Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Queens, NY Posts: 6,931 Blog Entries: 1	I say get him to move out. The house is paid and it was your moms so your entitled to that house. You can easily change it up and make it a fresh start in your new single life ( a coat of paint goes a long way). But if you feel like the new place is a better situation for you then go for it. Maybe sell the house and sock away the money for a rainy day or for when you decide to buy again. I know owning a house is a lot of work but I find it worth it because after all the sweat and bills you own something vs paying someone elses mortgage. Property is a nice investment for when we get older. You figure there is no note on it so the gas cost will still be less than paying for the new apt. __________________ Lulu will always be in my heart

06-04-2008, 04:23 PM	#39
YorkichonBella My little Shadow Donating YT Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: NC Posts: 4,132 Blog Entries: 2	My daughter is 25 (we are really close) and from the many talks w/her, I had a sneaky suspicion that this was the decision you wanted deep in yr heart. What makes me really happy for you is that you have your Mom's understanding & backing you up on your decision. I know you feel better that the decision is made & now you know the direction for the future. How exciting! I'm cheering for you you seem like a very responsible, loving young woman. I wish you all the best in this exciting new venture! __________________ Bella Ganma-ma to ColeRIPNoahRIP

06-04-2008, 05:25 PM	#42
flgurl69 <3 My Little Bella Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Cape Coral, Florida Posts: 2,143	I completely understand your reasons for moving. My situation was a little similar. When I moved from Virginia to Florida I left a home I spent my childhood years in. It had a lot of memories but no matter how much renovating and updating I did it still felt like my childhood home. Now that I'm settled in Florida I have my own home and it feels like mine, you know? Good luck in your home and job. I'm sure you will do well. Sometimes a new place is very refreshing and it's like starting a new chapter in life. __________________ Official Member of The cRaZy Club Love all, trust a few. Do wrong to none. William Shakespeare

06-04-2008, 01:40 PM	#31
cdawnfine Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: nj Posts: 1,256	Be very carefull here you are in the middle of a divorce, if you leave the house he can claim you abandoned him, the laws are different in all states but I would check with a lawyer before you do anything.

06-04-2008, 06:01 PM	#43
mizzwanned Donating YT 11K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: new york Posts: 14,007 Blog Entries: 2	I hope everything goes well for you. If you truly are a city girl then i say go for it and think it will be the best, you need a fresh new start. __________________ Primrose, Teddy..RIP, Livie..RIP, And can never forget my duo Sophie and London, Run in Peace <3

06-05-2008, 06:33 AM	#44
LunasMomma Izzy's Momma Too! Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Stuart, Florida Posts: 8,799	I'd take the extra money you're making and redecorate AND make new memories there with friends and loved ones. I hate to think of you and the pups in an apartment when you have a perfectly good house/yard I know you're hurting, but I have a sneaking suspicion that you'd be hurting no matter where you're living----so why not stay put, ya know? Hugs! __________________ Tracy, Mom to Izzy and Luna

06-05-2008, 06:42 AM	#45
jfalz73 Owned by my yorkies Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Coats, NC Posts: 5,001	Good luck to you on your move! I hope it IS INDEED the FRESH start you seem to need so much! God Bless! __________________ My little dog-a heartbeat at my feet. -Edith Wharton jeanne BrooklynBenjamin