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altigger74 · 12-10-2007, 03:36 PM

That sucks! I'm so sorry for you. At least now you know what kind of man to look out for and you can focus on what you need to do to better your life. Let him be stuck in his little town, and not have enough desire for the future. You will find someone, maybe not right away but hay, now you can go out without permission and have a good time. You go girl! Enjoy it!

Yorkiekids · 12-10-2007, 03:47 PM

Kelsey there's nothing worse then a liar. Lying changes to cheating, and cheating changes to pain for you. I know it's hard to let go of someone you care about, but it's better to do it now then after your married. Like I keep telling Kylie there's someone out there for her. You just have to be patient. Your relationship has been so up and down I don't know how you stand it. It was really wrong of him to wait till you started your new job to tell you he's not moving. I think you'd be better just moving on with your life. I know it's easier said then done, but be strong and do what's right.

nvnvgirl · 12-10-2007, 03:52 PM

Awww, Kelsey, I'm so sorry you have to go thru this, but I guess we all do at some time or another! You're a smart girl though; you see what at least some of his shortcomings are, you see the mistakes you've made and so the best thing is just chalk it up to experience and move on. It's not that he's a BAD guy (or you wouldn't have been with him for so long), he's just not the guy YOU need. I think it's incredibly intelligent of you to be thinking so clearly about what you really want and need; I know people who would probably cave in and give up a good job just to be with "their man".....dumb idea IMO. Unless it's for a good reason and he's willing to sacrifice other things as well. You're such a sweet caring person, you deserve someone who will treat you well and if they don't, let someone else have them. And yeah.....lying about small things is NOT good.....b/c those are only the things you CAUGHT...believe me, been there done that (for 3 yrs too.....live and learn

). I am glad that I've stayed friends pretty much with all my ex bf's...sometimes it takes awhile to get over the hurt and angry feelings and wondering what he's doing now with whom, but eventually, all that stuff will fade away and you (if it's worth it) will be able to be friendly with him again. Just don't give up yourself, b/c in the end, you're the best person to know what's best for you! All the best; there's lots of great guys out there (don't ask me where, LOL)somewhere and you'll find one when the time's right.

mizzwanned · 12-10-2007, 06:12 PM

I'm so sorry Kelsey

You deserve wayyy better than him if he's lying to you, etc. Were you always in a long distance relationship? You are so brave and strong for being able to be in one, i dont think i could ever be in one, not being able to see the person that much would not work out for me. Most don't work but there are still some that have. He doesn't know what he's missing girl, and you are young, there are PLENTY of fish in the sea!

labrown · 12-10-2007, 06:19 PM

Kelsey,

Vicky has some good things to say and I'm glad you have a friend that is willing to be honest and up front with you like she has. Really, just take the time for yourself. You have plenty on your plate, you have pups that love you, and anyone can benefit from time to assess who they are and where they are going in life. You are so cool and a very level headed girl, and I know that you could really grow from being alone and self sufficient. Your pups love you, and so do lots of other people, and for good reason! You seem to be taking all of this so well, and seem to me that you are a strong woman and can make it just fine without him. Remember, love isn't something we absolutely must have, but something that is best given and then received. Many hugs to you, girl!!

Lauren

Patti · 12-10-2007, 06:43 PM

Sorry you are going thru this but things happen for a reason. My dtr has this sign posted on her door.
Don't cry because it's over
Smile because it happened.
Her BF od 3 1/2 years dumped her out of the blue for anothe girl and she took it very hard but finally moved on and has been having fun just going out and hanging with friends. Enjoy your young life!!

yorkiecrazy · 12-10-2007, 07:05 PM

Well, every one has said it all!! I just want to say that I'm sorry your in so much pain right now. Things will slowly get better for you in time. Sending you big hugs .

Buddy-licious · 12-10-2007, 07:10 PM

Kelsey,
I am so sorry that you are sad!!! There are so many of us that have been through your exact situation!!! I was your exact age when I went through the breakup of my HS bf. (we were together for 5 years and were engaged) I too thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with him but after HS we wanted two different things. He was pursuing as career in country music and I wanted to go to college. We eventually broke up. Over those next few years I grew up and changed so much. I realized that my old bf could never give me what I wanted out of life. At the age of 25 I met the man of my dreams....my perfect DH of 14 years!!! We are perfect for each other!!! My ex...became famous (to this day he is alone, never married and no children). We are still very good friends (he is also good friends with my DH)...he teases us both and says my DH stole me away and I am his biggest regret....he says he should of never of let me go. But I have no regrets!!! I picked the right man for me!!!
As much as the break up hurt me....I knew it was for the best!!! Sounds like this is what you are realizing!!! I wanted to share my story with you because I know exactly what you are going through. If Josh is not the one for you....it is better to find out now than later!!
PM if you need anything!!! Big hugs!!!!!

MissPinkBarbie · 12-10-2007, 07:29 PM

I'm sorry to hear this. Although I don't know mcuh of your history with him, I do know that life is too short to be feeling like this.

Nobody deserves to be lied to..you shouldn't have to suffer..Please don't let this drag on for any longer. You don't need anyone else to be happy. It shouldn't be "I have to have someone.." It should just be natural and it'll will come to you!

I don't know if it makes any sense but I hope you make a decision by following your heart.

*HUGS*

gutu28 · 12-10-2007, 07:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Buddy-licious

Kelsey,
I am so sorry that you are sad!!! There are so many of us that have been through your exact situation!!! I was your exact age when I went through the breakup of my HS bf. (we were together for 5 years and were engaged) I too thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with him but after HS we wanted two different things. He was pursuing as career in country music and I wanted to go to college. We eventually broke up. Over those next few years I grew up and changed so much. I realized that my old bf could never give me what I wanted out of life. At the age of 25 I met the man of my dreams....my perfect DH of 14 years!!! We are perfect for each other!!! My ex...became famous (to this day he is alone, never married and no children). We are still very good friends (he is also good friends with my DH)...he teases us both and says my DH stole me away and I am his biggest regret....he says he should of never of let me go. But I have no regrets!!! I picked the right man for me!!!
As much as the break up hurt me....I knew it was for the best!!! Sounds like this is what you are realizing!!! I wanted to share my story with you because I know exactly what you are going through. If Josh is not the one for you....it is better to find out now than later!!
PM if you need anything!!! Big hugs!!!!!

OT..but who's your famous ex??

Anna Banana · 12-10-2007, 11:25 PM

Aww, Kelsey I'm sorry. I just saw your myspace bulletin saying you were single so I had to come over to YT and find out. I'm too nosy...

I'm really sorry you're hurting right now. Whenever I feel as if I've wasted my time with a guy (too often), I try to think of it as a learning experience for next time. You'll be in my thoughts.

Anna Banana · 12-10-2007, 11:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by gutu28

OT..but who's your famous ex??

I wanna know too!

mizzwanned · 12-11-2007, 02:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Anna Banana

I wanna know too!

me 2! lol Spill the beans

celstu1 · 12-11-2007, 08:30 AM

Aubrey! I feel soooo bad! Lately it seems that things are so up in the air for you! Most of us go through times of turmoil like you are in right now. I know its really hard and scary right now. When my ex and I of 10 years broke up, my life was in turmoil for months, then it settled down and I had to deal with the grief it all, but that was after months of being like "What the heck more can go wrong right now????" UUGGHHH!!!!

Sometimes our most carefully laid plans never come to fruition. (never come to be) and thats ok cuz thats the way it was meant to work out. I know everything will work out for you in the end, exactly the way you'll be the happiest and most fulfilled! Sometimes things take a little longer than we plan them to, but its really not up to us to plan our lives when those plans are based on anyone or anything that is not solely ourself. Does that make sense? In other words you can plan to get married to a person when you cannot guarantee for another person that its what they want. You cannot plan to have a job when you don't have the ability to hire yourself. So accomplish your own personal goals that have 100% to do with you alone and the rest will all fall into place

(((HUGS))) sounds like you need one!!

Amy81 · 12-11-2007, 04:08 PM

I'm sorry to hear this. I hope you can find someone thats closer to you to fall in love with !

12-10-2007, 03:36 PM	#16
altigger74 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Alabama Posts: 1,523	That sucks! I'm so sorry for you. At least now you know what kind of man to look out for and you can focus on what you need to do to better your life. Let him be stuck in his little town, and not have enough desire for the future. You will find someone, maybe not right away but hay, now you can go out without permission and have a good time. You go girl! Enjoy it! __________________ Mommy of Cody,Gracie,Bella,2labs,1cat, 2 skinkids one Angel Baby Boy 8/8/09 I carried you under my heart for 20 weeks and will carry you in my heart forever

12-10-2007, 03:47 PM	#17
Yorkiekids Piper & Sebastian Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: florida Posts: 14,495	Kelsey there's nothing worse then a liar. Lying changes to cheating, and cheating changes to pain for you. I know it's hard to let go of someone you care about, but it's better to do it now then after your married. Like I keep telling Kylie there's someone out there for her. You just have to be patient. Your relationship has been so up and down I don't know how you stand it. It was really wrong of him to wait till you started your new job to tell you he's not moving. I think you'd be better just moving on with your life. I know it's easier said then done, but be strong and do what's right. __________________ Susan, Piper ,Harley & Suiki

12-10-2007, 03:52 PM	#18
nvnvgirl Lovin' to the MAX!! Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Yorkieville Posts: 2,774	Awww, Kelsey, I'm so sorry you have to go thru this, but I guess we all do at some time or another! You're a smart girl though; you see what at least some of his shortcomings are, you see the mistakes you've made and so the best thing is just chalk it up to experience and move on. It's not that he's a BAD guy (or you wouldn't have been with him for so long), he's just not the guy YOU need. I think it's incredibly intelligent of you to be thinking so clearly about what you really want and need; I know people who would probably cave in and give up a good job just to be with "their man".....dumb idea IMO. Unless it's for a good reason and he's willing to sacrifice other things as well. You're such a sweet caring person, you deserve someone who will treat you well and if they don't, let someone else have them. And yeah.....lying about small things is NOT good.....b/c those are only the things you CAUGHT...believe me, been there done that (for 3 yrs too.....live and learn ). I am glad that I've stayed friends pretty much with all my ex bf's...sometimes it takes awhile to get over the hurt and angry feelings and wondering what he's doing now with whom, but eventually, all that stuff will fade away and you (if it's worth it) will be able to be friendly with him again. Just don't give up yourself, b/c in the end, you're the best person to know what's best for you! All the best; there's lots of great guys out there (don't ask me where, LOL)somewhere and you'll find one when the time's right. __________________ Seana and Max and Madison too! Come visit me at: celebritydogwatcher.com

12-10-2007, 06:12 PM	#19
mizzwanned Donating YT 11K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: new york Posts: 14,007 Blog Entries: 2	I'm so sorry Kelsey You deserve wayyy better than him if he's lying to you, etc. Were you always in a long distance relationship? You are so brave and strong for being able to be in one, i dont think i could ever be in one, not being able to see the person that much would not work out for me. Most don't work but there are still some that have. He doesn't know what he's missing girl, and you are young, there are PLENTY of fish in the sea! __________________ Primrose, Teddy..RIP, Livie..RIP, And can never forget my duo Sophie and London, Run in Peace <3

12-10-2007, 06:19 PM	#20
labrown T&T-DYNOMITE! Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 2,111	Kelsey, Vicky has some good things to say and I'm glad you have a friend that is willing to be honest and up front with you like she has. Really, just take the time for yourself. You have plenty on your plate, you have pups that love you, and anyone can benefit from time to assess who they are and where they are going in life. You are so cool and a very level headed girl, and I know that you could really grow from being alone and self sufficient. Your pups love you, and so do lots of other people, and for good reason! You seem to be taking all of this so well, and seem to me that you are a strong woman and can make it just fine without him. Remember, love isn't something we absolutely must have, but something that is best given and then received. Many hugs to you, girl!! Lauren __________________ TBone Tina & Lauren

12-10-2007, 06:43 PM	#21
Patti Donating YT 30K Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 35,509 Blog Entries: 6	Sorry you are going thru this but things happen for a reason. My dtr has this sign posted on her door. Don't cry because it's over Smile because it happened. Her BF od 3 1/2 years dumped her out of the blue for anothe girl and she took it very hard but finally moved on and has been having fun just going out and hanging with friends. Enjoy your young life!! __________________ Cali Pixie Roxie : RIP Nikki; RIP Maya;RIP my sweet Dixie girl 1/17/08 http://callipuppyscastle.bravehost.com/index.html

12-10-2007, 07:05 PM	#22
yorkiecrazy Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Houston area Posts: 2,672	Well, every one has said it all!! I just want to say that I'm sorry your in so much pain right now. Things will slowly get better for you in time. Sending you big hugs . __________________ Jamie - Gracie's Katie's and Chloe's mom : Gracie 11-12-99 11-1-2012

12-10-2007, 07:10 PM	#23
Buddy-licious Donating YT Addict Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Charlotte,nc Posts: 1,976	Kelsey, I am so sorry that you are sad!!! There are so many of us that have been through your exact situation!!! I was your exact age when I went through the breakup of my HS bf. (we were together for 5 years and were engaged) I too thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with him but after HS we wanted two different things. He was pursuing as career in country music and I wanted to go to college. We eventually broke up. Over those next few years I grew up and changed so much. I realized that my old bf could never give me what I wanted out of life. At the age of 25 I met the man of my dreams....my perfect DH of 14 years!!! We are perfect for each other!!! My ex...became famous (to this day he is alone, never married and no children). We are still very good friends (he is also good friends with my DH)...he teases us both and says my DH stole me away and I am his biggest regret....he says he should of never of let me go. But I have no regrets!!! I picked the right man for me!!! As much as the break up hurt me....I knew it was for the best!!! Sounds like this is what you are realizing!!! I wanted to share my story with you because I know exactly what you are going through. If Josh is not the one for you....it is better to find out now than later!! PM if you need anything!!! Big hugs!!!!! __________________ Rhonda, Buddy-licious and Sammie

12-10-2007, 07:29 PM	#24
MissPinkBarbie ~Glamorous Daisy~ Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: NJ // NYC Posts: 4,010	I'm sorry to hear this. Although I don't know mcuh of your history with him, I do know that life is too short to be feeling like this. Nobody deserves to be lied to..you shouldn't have to suffer..Please don't let this drag on for any longer. You don't need anyone else to be happy. It shouldn't be "I have to have someone.." It should just be natural and it'll will come to you! I don't know if it makes any sense but I hope you make a decision by following your heart. HUGS __________________ *MissPinkBarbie* *The PiNK Club Founder*

12-10-2007, 11:25 PM	#26
Anna Banana YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: California Posts: 3,025	Aww, Kelsey I'm sorry. I just saw your myspace bulletin saying you were single so I had to come over to YT and find out. I'm too nosy... I'm really sorry you're hurting right now. Whenever I feel as if I've wasted my time with a guy (too often), I try to think of it as a learning experience for next time. You'll be in my thoughts. __________________ Anna and Wobie

12-11-2007, 08:30 AM	#29
celstu1 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: New Hampshire Posts: 10,534	Aubrey! I feel soooo bad! Lately it seems that things are so up in the air for you! Most of us go through times of turmoil like you are in right now. I know its really hard and scary right now. When my ex and I of 10 years broke up, my life was in turmoil for months, then it settled down and I had to deal with the grief it all, but that was after months of being like "What the heck more can go wrong right now????" UUGGHHH!!!! Sometimes our most carefully laid plans never come to fruition. (never come to be) and thats ok cuz thats the way it was meant to work out. I know everything will work out for you in the end, exactly the way you'll be the happiest and most fulfilled! Sometimes things take a little longer than we plan them to, but its really not up to us to plan our lives when those plans are based on anyone or anything that is not solely ourself. Does that make sense? In other words you can plan to get married to a person when you cannot guarantee for another person that its what they want. You cannot plan to have a job when you don't have the ability to hire yourself. So accomplish your own personal goals that have 100% to do with you alone and the rest will all fall into place (((HUGS))) sounds like you need one!! __________________ “Petting, scratching, and cuddling a dog could be as soothing to the mind and heart as deep meditation and almost as good for the soul as prayer.” ― Dean Koontz

12-11-2007, 04:08 PM	#30
Amy81 No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Palatka, Florida Posts: 6,523	I'm sorry to hear this. I hope you can find someone thats closer to you to fall in love with !