Awww, Kelsey, I'm so sorry you have to go thru this, but I guess we all do at some time or another! You're a smart girl though; you see what at least some of his shortcomings are, you see the mistakes you've made and so the best thing is just chalk it up to experience and move on. It's not that he's a BAD guy (or you wouldn't have been with him for so long), he's just not the guy YOU need. I think it's incredibly intelligent of you to be thinking so clearly about what you really want and need; I know people who would probably cave in and give up a good job just to be with "their man".....dumb idea IMO. Unless it's for a good reason and he's willing to sacrifice other things as well. You're such a sweet caring person, you deserve someone who will treat you well and if they don't, let someone else have them. And yeah.....lying about small things is NOT good.....b/c those are only the things you CAUGHT...believe me, been there done that (for 3 yrs too.....live and learn
). I am glad that I've stayed friends pretty much with all my ex bf's...sometimes it takes awhile to get over the hurt and angry feelings and wondering what he's doing now with whom, but eventually, all that stuff will fade away and you (if it's worth it) will be able to be friendly with him again. Just don't give up yourself, b/c in the end, you're the best person to know what's best for you! All the best; there's lots of great guys out there (don't ask me where, LOL)somewhere and you'll find one when the time's right.