What to do when you're angry?

[Potter]

Its great to see what everyone does when they get angry. I cry and talk when I am angry and I can cry a long time until I fall asleep and when I wake up, it usually feels better and usually I won't eat for some time and do not feel hungry. Usually it is something that has been bottled up over a long time until my hormone changes (once a month) and I couldn't control my own emotions anymore I let it out. If I need to talk to hubby and hubby doesn't pay attention to me as guys usually are, I will explode. I do throw things when I am very very angry but just unbreakable things like the pillow, clothes I guess you could say I do throw tantrums. My furbutt is not afraid of me when I throw tantrums which I find amazing and will sit by me side throughout the whole ordeal. I think I would stop throwing a fit right away if my furbutt gets scared because I don't like to scare him.

[LoveMyJake]

I used to have a bad temper, but I have definitely mellowed with age. It takes alot to make me mad now, I guess I figured it's just not worth the energy. If something makes me mad now, I just ask myself "is this going to matter tomorrow or next week?" Most times the answer is no, so I don't waste what little energy I have on it. I used to clean, clean, clean when I was angry or I'd go for a long walk and cool down....after I threw a fit lol. I have definitely gotten more patient with age.

[shuber]

Originally Posted by bdbmamaw

I clean house! Really loudly!!!! Pots hit the counter with greater force. Cabinet doors close a little louder. Sometimes I get tickled about how stupid I am acting that I actually start laughing. I don't throw things, I just use a little more force to clean. Hubby just stays out of the way and then enjoys a really clean house afterwards....

I do that too !!! Usually I only have to start the "aggressive cleaning" and suddenly I have all these helping hands that jump in... I learned that trick by accident when my kids wouldn't do their chores and Iwould come home after working all day to a disaster area. It infuriated me, so instead of taking it out on them I would just start cleaning loudly, and suddenly they all wanted to help. probably just to shut me up, but it worked !

[IluvLucy]

I used to have a truly terrible temper. Seriously bad. My first husband nearly drove me nuts and at the end I just lost it. I pulled a knife on him, and shot at him (thank God I was so angry I was shaking and I missed or I'd be in jail right now)

After the divorce, I had to pull myself together. My youngest was 6 weeks old and I had a 4 yr old. It took literally YEARS to be able to control my temper. I've mellowed a lot as I've grown older, but it's something I had to work on every day.

I made sure my children never saw me lose control (they are still the most important things in my life), and I NEVER touch alcohol.

You've got to find something to redirect your anger. Now when I get upset I read, or go for a drive.

I hope I NEVER feel that kind of anger again and I feel for anyone else having to deal with a temper like mine.

[Superstarkba]

I usually take it out of who ever is near me, not a good thing either.

[Ange]

I find that pitching a good ol fashioned hissy fit works wonders!

[jp4m2]

I've found the best way thing to do when I'm angry is to get out the blender and grab a big bottle of vodka .......now what was I mad about...oh ya, nothing!

[labrown]

Originally Posted by Doodlebug

I usually go for a drive so I can think about what I am upset about and why. I usually calm down pretty quickly and go back home.

Yep, I do that too. When I lived in Wichita I would make laps around the city because there was a system of highways that made one big circle. I just set my cruise control and drove for however long it took me to chill out.