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daisy mae06 · 11-14-2007, 08:33 AM

Oh Hun I am In tears for you right now. I Lived with a drug/alcohalic for a time. He didn't think he needed help. After trying and trying I Left him and didn't look back.
I didn't have any children with him.
I went to Al-Anon for a time to help. It may be very helpful for you also
here is a website you can find meetings.
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/

I am keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Bless you all.

Yorkiekids · 11-14-2007, 08:47 AM

We all make mistakes, and he's where he needs to be. You gave him the greatest gift you could have. He'll be mad at first, because it's hard to go through the hell of detoxation, but once he get's through he'll feel like a different person. Don't let him out until you're sure he's kicked it, or you'll be back where you started all over again.

newmommy · 11-14-2007, 09:06 AM

I Should Of Said I Took Him To Rehab. He Chose To Go. Its Been A While Since I First Found Out. He Said He Didnt Have A Problem And Blah Blah Blah. I Handed Him My Ring And Told Him He Needed To Think About What It Meant To Him. He Was Gone All Day. Said He Was Up In The Mountains Thinking. He Came Back And Said He Had A Problem And He Needed Help. He Was Addicted To Meth. So I Got Him Help. I Was On The Phone For 3 Days Looking For A Place And Trying To Get Enough Money Together To Take Him.

I Was Going To Leave If He Didnt Get Help. Period. I Love Him More Than Life But You Cannot Make Someone Change When They Are Not Ready. Im So Thankful To God That He Has Shown Him The Way. He Decided He Needed Help On His Own. I Just Took Him There. I Love Him So Much And I Know This Is Going To Be Hard On Him Too. I Just Pray That God Gives Us The Stregnth To Get Through This.

We Will Be Celebrating Our 5th Anniversary When He Is Rehab But Its The 50 More I Am Looking Forward To, And If He Didnt Go To Get Help The 5th Would Of Been The Last. Its Not That I Dont Love Him. I Just Cant Reason With Meth. There Is No Reasoning. I Had To Think About My Children.

Thank You God For Loving Me Enough To Help Me Save My Marriage. You've Shown Me The Way!!

stedmansmommy · 11-14-2007, 10:36 AM

Bravo to him for admitting (and recognizing) that he has a problem - that is always the first step to recovery. It sounds like you are staying positive, and that is the very best thing that you can possibly do right now. Just hang in there and stay strong. It will be a long road, but if he REALLY wants to, and he REALLY tries, he CAN beat this. And I have strong faith that he will

Rehab is wonderful and that is exactly where he needs to be right now, but just remember that when he comes home, it is STILL going to be difficult for him and he is going to need you then more than ever. Just try not to forget that. It takes a great while for someone to get past this, but your support is the #1 best thing you can possibly offer him.

Keep praying about it sweetie - you guys are most definitely in mine

scrappysmom · 11-14-2007, 10:38 AM

Im so sorry you are going threw this sending prayers for you and your family and your husband .its gonna be a long road ahead for him .but at least he is seeking rehab for help,my ex has a drug problem he is constley calling my daughter and yelling at her for know reason because he has stayed up for days and is coming down off the stuff ,and he has no more money to get anymore and when he does get the money he lies to his mom to get the money.my daughter has told her grandma not to give him the money because she tells her that hes just gonna use it for drugs but she dosent belive her and she gives him the money ,he uses excusese that he needs his car fixed or the plumbing in his house needs fixed hes been in drug rehab so many times .thats why I divorced him because he choose drugs over his family I just couldnt take care of another child when i was taking care of our 3 girls .

Nikki+2 · 11-14-2007, 10:40 AM

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Originally Posted by newmommy

I Should Of Said I Took Him To Rehab. He Chose To Go. Its Been A While Since I First Found Out. He Said He Didnt Have A Problem And Blah Blah Blah. I Handed Him My Ring And Told Him He Needed To Think About What It Meant To Him. He Was Gone All Day. Said He Was Up In The Mountains Thinking. He Came Back And Said He Had A Problem And He Needed Help. He Was Addicted To Meth. So I Got Him Help. I Was On The Phone For 3 Days Looking For A Place And Trying To Get Enough Money Together To Take Him.

I Was Going To Leave If He Didnt Get Help. Period. I Love Him More Than Life But You Cannot Make Someone Change When They Are Not Ready. Im So Thankful To God That He Has Shown Him The Way. He Decided He Needed Help On His Own. I Just Took Him There. I Love Him So Much And I Know This Is Going To Be Hard On Him Too. I Just Pray That God Gives Us The Stregnth To Get Through This.

We Will Be Celebrating Our 5th Anniversary When He Is Rehab But Its The 50 More I Am Looking Forward To, And If He Didnt Go To Get Help The 5th Would Of Been The Last. Its Not That I Dont Love Him. I Just Cant Reason With Meth. There Is No Reasoning. I Had To Think About My Children.

Thank You God For Loving Me Enough To Help Me Save My Marriage. You've Shown Me The Way!!

Aww, sweetie, I can feel the pain in your posts but you have such a wonderful attitude! I have nothing to add to the great advise you've gotten but I'm sending you hugs and you can always vent your way through this on YT.

yougetthesmiles · 11-14-2007, 11:25 AM

I can't even imagine what you are going through right now. Please know that you did the right thing by getting his help and I'm sure he will thank you for it when he is well again.

You will be in my thoughts sweetie.

LunasMomma · 11-14-2007, 12:32 PM

I'm sorry

I hope and pray that he gets clean. Prayers on the way

zoeybear · 11-14-2007, 12:39 PM

Someone else already suggested ala-non meetings. That is the best thing you can do for your family. The only person you can change or control is you! Wishing the best for you all.

KathyinCali · 11-14-2007, 12:39 PM

What you are feeling right now - Sad, scared, betrayed are all perfectly normal appropriate feelings for this situation. I am 20 years clean and sober and have been on both your end and your husbands. Please PM me if you want to talk and I will give you all my contact information. There are things you can do to cope with this and you do not have to go through it alone.

Warm regards,

lisatodd · 11-14-2007, 12:53 PM

i did not read all of the post but i just wanted to say i am so very sorry. i have never been through this but my sister is mentally ill and we had to commit her (but i think you situation is much worse)
good luck to you and i hope everything goes well.

ryorkies · 11-14-2007, 01:54 PM

I am so terribly sorry to hear that you are going through such an ordeal and it so heartbreaking to watch a loved one suffer so.
While you are taking such good care of him, Please remember to take care of yourself too, okay?
I will be keeping you in my prayers.

vviccles1 · 11-14-2007, 02:18 PM

My x-hubby went thru rehab more than once due to cocaine addiction.I know that meth... is different but I have been in your shoes sweetie.Plese feel free to pm me and we can chat via email.My prayerrs are with you and your family.

IluvLucy · 11-14-2007, 06:31 PM

First of all - God bless you! I know it's a terrible situation to be in because my first husband LOVED drugs. He didn't get cleaned up until he was in his forties.

Fortunately for you, your husband recognizes he has a problem and asked for help - that's a huge step.

I'll be praying for you, your husband, and your family because he'll need all of you when he finishes rehab.

My boss' wife was addicted to meth and it nearly killed her. She finally ended up in rehab because she was in jail and had no choice. It's the only thing that saved her life and her marriage. She's free of the meth and recently gave birth to twins.

I pray for as good an outcome for your situation.

I truly believe that meth is poisoning our country slowly but surely. It's the drug of choice for soooo many.

crystalsmom · 11-14-2007, 06:40 PM

Admitting the problem means he's on his way and also you know the power of YT prayers. Hugs Joan

11-14-2007, 08:33 AM	#46
daisy mae06 Kodi & Pixie 2 Donating Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: NEBRASKA Posts: 14,766	Oh Hun I am In tears for you right now. I Lived with a drug/alcohalic for a time. He didn't think he needed help. After trying and trying I Left him and didn't look back. I didn't have any children with him. I went to Al-Anon for a time to help. It may be very helpful for you also here is a website you can find meetings. http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/ I am keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Bless you all. __________________ OK Yorkie Rescue - http://okyorkierescue.org LorisCritterSitter.com

11-14-2007, 08:47 AM	#47
Yorkiekids Piper & Sebastian Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: florida Posts: 14,495	We all make mistakes, and he's where he needs to be. You gave him the greatest gift you could have. He'll be mad at first, because it's hard to go through the hell of detoxation, but once he get's through he'll feel like a different person. Don't let him out until you're sure he's kicked it, or you'll be back where you started all over again. __________________ Susan, Piper ,Harley & Suiki

11-14-2007, 09:06 AM	#48
newmommy Keep Me Away From eBay Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Arizona Posts: 2,109	I Should Of Said I Took Him To Rehab. He Chose To Go. Its Been A While Since I First Found Out. He Said He Didnt Have A Problem And Blah Blah Blah. I Handed Him My Ring And Told Him He Needed To Think About What It Meant To Him. He Was Gone All Day. Said He Was Up In The Mountains Thinking. He Came Back And Said He Had A Problem And He Needed Help. He Was Addicted To Meth. So I Got Him Help. I Was On The Phone For 3 Days Looking For A Place And Trying To Get Enough Money Together To Take Him. I Was Going To Leave If He Didnt Get Help. Period. I Love Him More Than Life But You Cannot Make Someone Change When They Are Not Ready. Im So Thankful To God That He Has Shown Him The Way. He Decided He Needed Help On His Own. I Just Took Him There. I Love Him So Much And I Know This Is Going To Be Hard On Him Too. I Just Pray That God Gives Us The Stregnth To Get Through This. We Will Be Celebrating Our 5th Anniversary When He Is Rehab But Its The 50 More I Am Looking Forward To, And If He Didnt Go To Get Help The 5th Would Of Been The Last. Its Not That I Dont Love Him. I Just Cant Reason With Meth. There Is No Reasoning. I Had To Think About My Children. Thank You God For Loving Me Enough To Help Me Save My Marriage. You've Shown Me The Way!! __________________ There is no psychiatrist in the world like a puppy licking your face!!

11-14-2007, 10:36 AM	#49
stedmansmommy I Love My Lil' Punkin's Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Stedman and Tatum's World :) Posts: 15,331 Blog Entries: 5	Bravo to him for admitting (and recognizing) that he has a problem - that is always the first step to recovery. It sounds like you are staying positive, and that is the very best thing that you can possibly do right now. Just hang in there and stay strong. It will be a long road, but if he REALLY wants to, and he REALLY tries, he CAN beat this. And I have strong faith that he will Rehab is wonderful and that is exactly where he needs to be right now, but just remember that when he comes home, it is STILL going to be difficult for him and he is going to need you then more than ever. Just try not to forget that. It takes a great while for someone to get past this, but your support is the #1 best thing you can possibly offer him. Keep praying about it sweetie - you guys are most definitely in mine __________________ Mommy Loves Stedman and Tatum! They have us wrapped around their little paws!

11-14-2007, 10:38 AM	#50
scrappysmom Mommy's Baby Doo Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: DesMoines ,Ia Posts: 5,318	Im so sorry you are going threw this sending prayers for you and your family and your husband .its gonna be a long road ahead for him .but at least he is seeking rehab for help,my ex has a drug problem he is constley calling my daughter and yelling at her for know reason because he has stayed up for days and is coming down off the stuff ,and he has no more money to get anymore and when he does get the money he lies to his mom to get the money.my daughter has told her grandma not to give him the money because she tells her that hes just gonna use it for drugs but she dosent belive her and she gives him the money ,he uses excusese that he needs his car fixed or the plumbing in his house needs fixed hes been in drug rehab so many times .thats why I divorced him because he choose drugs over his family I just couldnt take care of another child when i was taking care of our 3 girls . __________________ mommy to Lizzie, charliegirl Rip Scrappy doo, Rip Sunday.

11-14-2007, 11:25 AM	#52
yougetthesmiles BANNED FOR NOT MAILING PRODUCTS PURCHASED Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Indiana Posts: 9,295 Blog Entries: 3	I can't even imagine what you are going through right now. Please know that you did the right thing by getting his help and I'm sure he will thank you for it when he is well again. You will be in my thoughts sweetie.

11-14-2007, 12:32 PM	#53
LunasMomma Izzy's Momma Too! Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Stuart, Florida Posts: 8,799	I'm sorry I hope and pray that he gets clean. Prayers on the way __________________ Tracy, Mom to Izzy and Luna

11-14-2007, 12:39 PM	#54
zoeybear Misssing Baby Chloe Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: California Posts: 4,186	Someone else already suggested ala-non meetings. That is the best thing you can do for your family. The only person you can change or control is you! Wishing the best for you all. __________________ We give dogs time we can spare, space we can spare and love we can spare. And in return, dogs give us their all. It's the best deal man has ever made. -M. Acklam

11-14-2007, 12:39 PM	#55
KathyinCali Love My Li'l Lucy Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Southern California Posts: 6,700	What you are feeling right now - Sad, scared, betrayed are all perfectly normal appropriate feelings for this situation. I am 20 years clean and sober and have been on both your end and your husbands. Please PM me if you want to talk and I will give you all my contact information. There are things you can do to cope with this and you do not have to go through it alone. Warm regards, __________________ Kathy and Lil' Lucy and Jammies Rest in Peace my Sweet Buster

11-14-2007, 12:53 PM	#56
lisatodd Little Boogers Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: virginia beach, va Posts: 4,460	i did not read all of the post but i just wanted to say i am so very sorry. i have never been through this but my sister is mentally ill and we had to commit her (but i think you situation is much worse) good luck to you and i hope everything goes well. __________________ lisa lisa and the cult jam yorkies

11-14-2007, 01:54 PM	#57
ryorkies No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Yorkieville Posts: 2,860	I am so terribly sorry to hear that you are going through such an ordeal and it so heartbreaking to watch a loved one suffer so. While you are taking such good care of him, Please remember to take care of yourself too, okay? I will be keeping you in my prayers.

11-14-2007, 02:18 PM	#58
vviccles1 YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Beverly,MA Posts: 650	My x-hubby went thru rehab more than once due to cocaine addiction.I know that meth... is different but I have been in your shoes sweetie.Plese feel free to pm me and we can chat via email.My prayerrs are with you and your family. Last edited by vviccles1; 11-14-2007 at 02:19 PM.

11-14-2007, 06:31 PM	#59
IluvLucy Lovin' Lucy & Rebel Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Georgia Posts: 4,438	First of all - God bless you! I know it's a terrible situation to be in because my first husband LOVED drugs. He didn't get cleaned up until he was in his forties. Fortunately for you, your husband recognizes he has a problem and asked for help - that's a huge step. I'll be praying for you, your husband, and your family because he'll need all of you when he finishes rehab. My boss' wife was addicted to meth and it nearly killed her. She finally ended up in rehab because she was in jail and had no choice. It's the only thing that saved her life and her marriage. She's free of the meth and recently gave birth to twins. I pray for as good an outcome for your situation. I truly believe that meth is poisoning our country slowly but surely. It's the drug of choice for soooo many. __________________ Kim , Rebel ,and baby Dixie RIP my sweet Lucy

11-14-2007, 06:40 PM	#60
crystalsmom Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Ohio Posts: 7,946	Admitting the problem means he's on his way and also you know the power of YT prayers. Hugs Joan __________________