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LittleDaisyDoo · 11-17-2007, 11:10 AM

Ms. Newmommy,

I've never had my boyfriend deal with meth..but he used to abuse alcohol and marijuana A LOT. I would always catch him being drug or high etc...and it hurt me..broke my heart. I was upset and threatened to leave him because I didn't want to associate myself with that lifestyle...bascially to make my story shorter..It was his personal descion to stop because he didn't want to lose me. I turned a new leaf and reamined a counselor to him, loved him and keep him in my prayers..not he doesn't smoke anymore..and occasionally he'll drink..but not into a stupor like he used to..GoOoo future hubby!

So what I suggest to you newmommy, is keep your love strong for him..visit him in rehab and let he know you need him..and he needs you.Never left go of him and keep him in your prayers to get better...

wishing the best,

Daisy's mommy

saphire · 11-17-2007, 02:29 PM

Sending lots of prayers and hugs for you and your family.

scrapindee · 11-17-2007, 02:38 PM

I hope you are getting some support as well besides family and friends.

There are support groups for family's of drug abusers: Alanon, NA, etc. You need to find out that you can survive this ordeal. It is a family problem and it hurts him, you, children, everyone. Don't be afraid to go to therapy, counselors, or support groups....and it is one day at a time.

For My Coby · 11-17-2007, 02:51 PM

It's funny how we can all share in the delight of that minute on the phone you had. I'm so happy for you. Not that there won't be tough times ahead, but God gives you moments like that one to store up the strength to deal with the tougher moments. Hang on to the way you felt when you heard his voice. God Bless......

Buddy-licious · 11-17-2007, 02:57 PM

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Originally Posted by newmommy

he called me he called me he called me.

all i could do is bawl and tell him that i love him.

the counsler called to tell me that i can come for thanksgiving. he is supposed to let him have no phone calls at all but only for certain circumstances and he let him talk to me for 1 minute about my post op appt yesterday.
it was the best minute of my week. I cannot wait to see him on monday. I love him so much. his voice oh god his voice.

thank the good lord for guiding us through this. his love is pure and i am soo thankful !!

I am so happy for you!!!! God is so good!!!!! I am so thankful that he recognized that he needed help. He is so lucky to have you stand by him the way you are!!! You are a very special lady!!!!

newmommy · 11-17-2007, 05:59 PM

believe me, i know this is hard. my kids are out of town staying with their nana, his mom, for almost a week so I can go be with him.

i dont know how im going to pay the bills, let alone have money for christmas for my children,

i really dont. Im so freakin stressed but hey at least we will have our family and thats what matters most anyways right???

Nikki+2 · 11-17-2007, 06:07 PM

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Originally Posted by newmommy

believe me, i know this is hard. my kids are out of town staying with their nana, his mom, for almost a week so I can go be with him.

i dont know how im going to pay the bills, let alone have money for christmas for my children,

i really dont. Im so freakin stressed but hey at least we will have our family and thats what matters most anyways right???

I almost cried when I read your last post and I'm continually amazed by your wonderful attitude. You are a strong woman and y'all will get through this. You are facing huge challenges but you have something that many people don't and that's love and as you have already said, that is the most important thing. This Christmas will come and go but your children having parents who love them and love each other is more than many people can ever hope for. In the long run, there is nothing you can buy them that is worth more than having parents who love each other and are willing to fight for each other.

Gazou · 11-17-2007, 06:15 PM

I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers .

sweetr72 · 11-17-2007, 06:26 PM

Its really great when they get into rehab...but I have to remind you to get yourself into a 12 step program...its going to be very difficult as rehab is great...while they are in it...when they come out its different for you and for them and you will really need the support as will he...if you dont do anything else pleeeeeeeeeeeease go to Narc-Anon or Al-Anon...I havent been able to keep up with the whole thread so Im not sure if you have gone yet or not..but once the honeymoon phase is over with you will really be glad you have it...its great if you can both go to your own meetings and really learn what you can both do to prevent a relapse!! I bet you both thrilled to get to see each other!! How long will he be in treatment for??

Dawn

newmommy · 11-17-2007, 07:05 PM

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Originally Posted by sweetr72

Its really great when they get into rehab...but I have to remind you to get yourself into a 12 step program...its going to be very difficult as rehab is great...while they are in it...when they come out its different for you and for them and you will really need the support as will he...if you dont do anything else pleeeeeeeeeeeease go to Narc-Anon or Al-Anon...I havent been able to keep up with the whole thread so Im not sure if you have gone yet or not..but once the honeymoon phase is over with you will really be glad you have it...its great if you can both go to your own meetings and really learn what you can both do to prevent a relapse!! I bet you both thrilled to get to see each other!! How long will he be in treatment for??

Dawn

28 days.

i have to look into it. i am planning on going but i have been so busy, I am 4 weeks post abdominal hysteryctomy so im still recovering from that and taking care of my children. My son just turned 7 on the 10th and my step daughter 9 on the 12th. Im trying to figure out my finances so we dont drown. Im up till 11 pm at least and up at 5 to get kids ready for school. so i hear you, i do and I AM going to go. But first I need to get my kids back into some sort of schedule. they have been with so many of my friends and family at this time as I am running here or there.
I am estatic to see him. I cannot wait I probably wont sleep at all for the next two nights. Its a family program that I am going to. First day we watch movies together, tuesday I have to tell him all thats on my heart. how he made me and the kids feel. what this hell was like, what i expect from him, what boundries i want to be me kept, what I expect from our marriage. then on wednesday he gets to tell me what it was like to be the one living with the diease. so I am sure its going to be heartbreaking. I havent seen him for a week now and I dont wanna yell or be angry. I just wanna be with him. But I know the warrior in me needs to fight this, for him, for my children, and for me.
Im leaving tomorrow morning, so happy thanksgiving everyone. And if you have a spare prayer, please wish me luck. thank you all for your support. Im so thankful for this board!!!
Jenn

yorkiesmiles · 11-17-2007, 07:31 PM

I am so glad that you have friends and family that you can lean on and depend to help with your children. Yes, it is very important to give your children a sense of normalcy - I will pray you can do this - but I will also pray that you have time to get the support you need in one of the groups designed for this.

I will pray for your finances as you go thru this time. While I know your children have visions of what they may find under the tree on Christmas, what you can give them with a whole, healthy family and strong parents is the most important. Perhaps you can hold fast any strong traditions you have for Christmas or establish new ones that focus on your family, the birth of Christ and the real reason we celebrate.

But right now focus on the week ahead, you do have much to be thankful for. Right up at the top of your list must be that your husband did go into treatment. That is a huge step!! Please get your rest, you will need it as the emotional days that lay ahead of you will be emotional draining and you want your mind to be at its sharpest to best express yourself.

Hugs to you Jenn. And many prayers. Praying God's will for your. Walk with Him!

Patti · 11-17-2007, 07:48 PM

You and your family are in my prayers daily.

BabyFidgette · 11-17-2007, 08:06 PM

I'm sorry you are going through this.

I have never had any dealings with drugs in my family, but I watch the show Intervention a lot, and I can see the toll they take on people and their families (NOT that watching a show compares to anything what you're going through). How long is he staying in rehab? 90 days+ would be ideal, especially if he's been addicted for a while. Good luck!

Monday · 11-17-2007, 10:48 PM

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Originally Posted by newmommy

believe me, i know this is hard. my kids are out of town staying with their nana, his mom, for almost a week so I can go be with him.

i dont know how im going to pay the bills, let alone have money for christmas for my children,

i really dont. Im so freakin stressed but hey at least we will have our family and thats what matters most anyways right???

they say G-d never gives us more than we can handle. I am sure things will work out for you. You may have to get a part-time job to handle some bills and all. I do not know tha ages fo your children, but if your mom can help out that way by baby sitting, you can get started on some kind of job pattern ...
I wish you luck! Bless your heart and your family ....and yes, unity is the most important thing.

Keno · 11-17-2007, 11:07 PM

I hope the holidays go smoothly for you. Your husband took a very important step in is life by going into rehab .... things can only go up from there.

The holidays are abut loving and family, not gifts,
Even your kids can learn a good lesson from this.
love and peace ...

11-17-2007, 11:10 AM	#106
LittleDaisyDoo Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Nor Cal Posts: 87	aww Ms. Newmommy, I've never had my boyfriend deal with meth..but he used to abuse alcohol and marijuana A LOT. I would always catch him being drug or high etc...and it hurt me..broke my heart. I was upset and threatened to leave him because I didn't want to associate myself with that lifestyle...bascially to make my story shorter..It was his personal descion to stop because he didn't want to lose me. I turned a new leaf and reamined a counselor to him, loved him and keep him in my prayers..not he doesn't smoke anymore..and occasionally he'll drink..but not into a stupor like he used to..GoOoo future hubby! So what I suggest to you newmommy, is keep your love strong for him..visit him in rehab and let he know you need him..and he needs you.Never left go of him and keep him in your prayers to get better... wishing the best, Daisy's mommy __________________ Daisy's Mommy

11-17-2007, 02:29 PM	#107
saphire Lil' CoCo, Lotta Coffee. Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: South Africa Posts: 3,115	Sending lots of prayers and hugs for you and your family. __________________ Sheilagh CoffeeAbigail-Ceana. CoCoMurfee & Winston

11-17-2007, 02:38 PM	#108
scrapindee Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Redlands Posts: 4,842 Blog Entries: 2	I hope you are getting some support as well besides family and friends. There are support groups for family's of drug abusers: Alanon, NA, etc. You need to find out that you can survive this ordeal. It is a family problem and it hurts him, you, children, everyone. Don't be afraid to go to therapy, counselors, or support groups....and it is one day at a time. __________________ Scrapindee--Team Furry & the Biewers www.houseofwags.com

11-17-2007, 02:51 PM	#109
For My Coby Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Illinois Posts: 4,139	It's funny how we can all share in the delight of that minute on the phone you had. I'm so happy for you. Not that there won't be tough times ahead, but God gives you moments like that one to store up the strength to deal with the tougher moments. Hang on to the way you felt when you heard his voice. God Bless...... __________________ Diane, and my boys ..... Coby and Reggie !! Striving to be a YTPP - a YT Positive Poster! In Memory of My Beautiful Mother 7/22/28-8/27/08

11-17-2007, 05:59 PM	#111
newmommy Keep Me Away From eBay Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Arizona Posts: 2,109	believe me, i know this is hard. my kids are out of town staying with their nana, his mom, for almost a week so I can go be with him. i dont know how im going to pay the bills, let alone have money for christmas for my children, i really dont. Im so freakin stressed but hey at least we will have our family and thats what matters most anyways right??? __________________ There is no psychiatrist in the world like a puppy licking your face!!

11-17-2007, 06:15 PM	#113
Gazou YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Canada Posts: 2,180	I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers .

11-17-2007, 06:26 PM	#114
sweetr72 No Longer a Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 6,111	Its really great when they get into rehab...but I have to remind you to get yourself into a 12 step program...its going to be very difficult as rehab is great...while they are in it...when they come out its different for you and for them and you will really need the support as will he...if you dont do anything else pleeeeeeeeeeeease go to Narc-Anon or Al-Anon...I havent been able to keep up with the whole thread so Im not sure if you have gone yet or not..but once the honeymoon phase is over with you will really be glad you have it...its great if you can both go to your own meetings and really learn what you can both do to prevent a relapse!! I bet you both thrilled to get to see each other!! How long will he be in treatment for?? Dawn

11-17-2007, 07:31 PM	#116
yorkiesmiles Donating YT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Iowa Posts: 9,493	I am so glad that you have friends and family that you can lean on and depend to help with your children. Yes, it is very important to give your children a sense of normalcy - I will pray you can do this - but I will also pray that you have time to get the support you need in one of the groups designed for this. I will pray for your finances as you go thru this time. While I know your children have visions of what they may find under the tree on Christmas, what you can give them with a whole, healthy family and strong parents is the most important. Perhaps you can hold fast any strong traditions you have for Christmas or establish new ones that focus on your family, the birth of Christ and the real reason we celebrate. But right now focus on the week ahead, you do have much to be thankful for. Right up at the top of your list must be that your husband did go into treatment. That is a huge step!! Please get your rest, you will need it as the emotional days that lay ahead of you will be emotional draining and you want your mind to be at its sharpest to best express yourself. Hugs to you Jenn. And many prayers. Praying God's will for your. Walk with Him! __________________ yorkiesmiles Loved by Bubba & Roxy *Holy, holy, is the Lord God Almighty, who was, and is, and is to come*

11-17-2007, 07:48 PM	#117
Patti Donating YT 30K Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 35,509 Blog Entries: 6	You and your family are in my prayers daily. __________________ Cali Pixie Roxie : RIP Nikki; RIP Maya;RIP my sweet Dixie girl 1/17/08 http://callipuppyscastle.bravehost.com/index.html

11-17-2007, 08:06 PM	#118
BabyFidgette Learn Yorkie CPR! Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: New Jersey Posts: 6,855	I'm sorry you are going through this. I have never had any dealings with drugs in my family, but I watch the show Intervention a lot, and I can see the toll they take on people and their families (NOT that watching a show compares to anything what you're going through). How long is he staying in rehab? 90 days+ would be ideal, especially if he's been addicted for a while. Good luck! __________________ Nicole & Baby "The more men I meet, the more I love my Yorkie!"

11-17-2007, 11:07 PM	#120
Keno Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: sunny CA Posts: 789	I hope the holidays go smoothly for you. Your husband took a very important step in is life by going into rehab .... things can only go up from there. The holidays are abut loving and family, not gifts, Even your kids can learn a good lesson from this. love and peace ... __________________ Dogs are such agreeable friends, they ask no questions, they pass no criticisms, they do not borrow money, they only beg for food and love.