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lillymae · 03-11-2011, 10:53 PM

Awww, don't be so sad as she is watching down on you. You don't want her to be sad because he mommy is still sad. Maybe it's time for you to add some happy little feet back into your life. Nothing will help heal a broken heart like the smell of puppy breath. I'm sure there are lots of people here that would agree on this. I pray that you can come to terms with your loss soon. Remember you can never try to replace a lost love but you can find a new love if you just open your heart..

FlDebra · 03-11-2011, 11:43 PM

I am so sorry for your loss. I know when we have these sweet babies for so long they become such a huge part of our family and our heart, the loss is all the harder. But you will have such wonderful memories of your life together. It sounds like you both gave as much or more than you got. That is the way it is supposed to be. Love works like that.

Take some time to grieve and maybe find a suitable memorial -- can be as elaborate as a stone or as simple as planting a tree in her honor. Then try to find some comfort in the memories. She will live on in your heart. I pray for your comfort and peace during this sad time. May your sweet Muffin RIP.

Jellybears · 03-12-2011, 03:45 AM

I so know how you feel - my Toffee has been gone 2 years, and I still can see her little face and remember the 15-1/2 years we had together. She was my baby....but.....I now have 2 new babies. I love them as much - I have so much to share - a wonderful loving home - and I think of how much I have made 2 new little furbabies loved and happy. Perhaps you could open your home and heart to a new little one of your own, and make make a wonderful life for a lucky puppy!!!!

Shelby&Seymour · 03-12-2011, 05:06 AM

I am so sorry that you are still having a difficult time.
I, too, said that I wouldn't get another dog after losing Lindsay... it was too difficult saying good-bye. But my vet was the one who suggested I find another..... he said why waste too much time before finding another dog ..... you gave 16 years - good healthy years- to a dog!! Why not give another dog that special treatment! There are plenty of them out there and having a Long-term home is what a dog needs. Some dog out there would LOVE to have you as an owner and would give you that loyalty right back!..
Getting another dog is not replacing the relationship with the dog you lost.... but a tribute to them but giving another dog a wonderful home.
Hope you will consider another pet (of course, in time & when you are ready) .... I think they would LOVE sharing your home with you.

bronco · 03-12-2011, 05:54 AM

I am so sorry for your loss.

lisaly · 03-12-2011, 06:04 AM

You have come to my mind several times in this past year. I was very moved by your beautiful words and love for Muffin, and I haven’t forgotten what you wrote. I understand why it is so painful for you, and I, too, have all of Ashley’s things around and we sleep with Ashley's blanket on our bed. I still have some of Gracie’s and Kiwi’s favorite stuffed animals around also. My heart really breaks for you, and I sit here crying as I type this. You are not alone, and there are so many people who care. If you ever need to talk, please call me. I’ll PM you my number in case you don’t have it. Not a minute goes by that I don’t realize that my sweet Ashley is no longer physically with us, yet like her sisters, I do feel her all around me and she occupies such a huge part of my heart. I have moments like you described also. There are sometimes right before I walk into the door at home that I almost forget that she’s not there, and I have that feeling of excitement I always had every time I came home anticipating seeing my baby and giving her kisses. I understand why you aren’t ready to bring another little one into your life, but no one can replace Muffin. I know you don’t want that anyway. A new baby would give you something to be excited about and you would have an outlet for all of the love that you have in your loving heart. My husband is still in need of surgery to repair an arm that he shattered, but once we are able to care for another little one, we will open up our hearts to another little Yorkie. It won’t change the overpowering love that we feel for our little ones, but it will bring some of the joy into our empty home. I discovered something recently about myself. This time of year at work is particularly stressful and there’s never enough time to get all the work done, have some time to relax, and get enough sleep. Although it does get to me, I’m used to it after all of these years. This year I am finding it far more difficult to manage the stress, and even though there are some other changes that are added to it, I think the reason why it’s getting to me more than usual is that most any stress that I had was melted away as soon as I saw my precious little girl. Without her with me, I don’t have any outlet for the stress. Ashley and I walked for miles a day, but I’m not ready to go on walks without her. We played, cuddled, and laughed each day because of our sweet Ashley. Please think of how all of this is affecting you and consider if you would be happier if you were able to love another baby again. You have so much love in your heart. That was so obvious to me when I read your posts about Muffin. Your love for Muffin will never change and she would want you to be happy again. Today I will honor Muffin, and I will pray that the pain you feel lessens each day. It will always be there, but in time, the beautiful memories will replace most of the painful ones. Please call me if you ever need me.

dogbert · 03-12-2011, 01:06 PM

I still have some of my last dog's things in my dresser. But the love and joy I get my my 2 now is wonderful. Millie will never be forgotten but neither will the 2 I have now.

Mollysmom411999 · 03-22-2011, 04:25 PM

So sorry for your loss of Muffin. Its ok to cry , I still do ,but just know we are here for you...Hugs

littlewhip · 03-22-2011, 04:30 PM

Im so sorry,I know your heart is broken

just take one day at a time, I have had your loss and i know it feels like it will never be ok , some days i looks at his picture and cry and other days i smile because i know he was loved , My thoughts and prayers are with you

boopster · 03-22-2011, 06:09 PM

I understand how you feel. I lost the first two dogs I " owned" as an adult within weeks of each other and promised myself I would never make myself vulnerable to that kind od grief again.

A year later I couldn't stand the loneliness but didn't want to feel like I was replacing my beloved dogs so I adopted two cats. One died at age ten, the other 1 1/2 years ago at age 17. I also adopted my parents' dog after my dad died. I lost her nearly a year ago. Again I promised myself that I was through with the grief. I was the one who had to make the decision to put all five to sleep and it was about the hardest thing I ever had to do.

I told people for a long time that I was going to wait until the doctor told me my days were numbered, then I was going to adopt a whole kennel full of dogs, secure in the knowledge that I would be the first to go. Maudlin and perhaps creepy, and I would never do it, but that's how I felt.

I only made it a few months without Bungee before the loneliness for a pet got to me. Tallulah hasn't replaced Clancey, Murphy, Emily, Amanda or Bungee. They each still own a big piece of my heart. But the nice thing about humans with their pets ( or children or friends). We have endless capacity to love and there is always room in our hearts for another one.

Once in a while I still have a twinge of feeling disloyal to the pets who have gone ahead. But I remind myself that I don't love them any less, and I am a much better person when I can look forward to going home knowing that there will be someone there who is happy to see me no matter what.

I hope you will be able to find some peace. When you are ready for another companion you will know it.

EsmeeKimme · 03-23-2011, 03:34 AM

So sorry for your loss.

zowiandnikasmom · 03-24-2011, 04:04 AM

i am so very sorry you lost your best friend. it has been almost 7 months since my special little girl nika passed. i miss her every day and think of her all the time. i feel like her presence is with me because the love we shared will never die. the memories will always be there and nothing will ever take those away. i still remember the look of love in her eyes and our special routine. i would give anything to hold her and get my nose kisses by her again. the one year anniversary had to be very hard for you. every sunday morning i feel that terrible pain all over again. it doesn't seem to get any easier for me without her. i have made several memorials to her that help make me feel a little bit better. i created a 72 page story / picture book of her from walgreens.com full of pictures of her from the day she was born up to her last days with pet quotes and poems. the vets office made me a pawprint impression memorial of her when she passed that i put in a shadowbox frame with her picture and some other momentos. her belongings, collar, clothes, angel wing harness, her baby blankie, and some toys are still everywhere in my house. i havent had the heart to put them away anywhere. i can still smell her from her snuggie that she loved to wear when it was cold. my mom got me a necklace from bradford exchange that is a always in my heart locket engraved with her name and has a little yorkie inside that i wear all the time. she will live forever in my heart and will always have her own special place there. nothing in the world could take her place. that being said, i have her mother zowi who is 10 now and i dont know how i wouldve survived losing nika without the comfort of having zowi. she experienced the loss herself too and misses nika as much as i do and i know it. when i sit here crying, she knows why and comforts me so well. all this being said, i adopted a 5 month old yorkie puppy from a humane society who was taken from a puppy mill. she has brought so much joy and happiness into our lives and has bonded with zowi better than i ever thought. i know nika would be happy knowing that i took in a little one who needed to be loved and have a forever home. the love i have for nika will always be hers and hers alone. she would want me to be happy. she spent her life making sure of that and gave me so much love. pixe the new puppy and zowi also have thier own special love and place in my heart and always will. adopting pixie has helped me greatly. i know nika is in the laps of the angels now and i believe she sent pixie to me, still trying to make me happy even in her passing. nika is my little angel now smiling down on me always. i know we will be together again forever someday, as you will be with your sweet muffin. when you're ready, bringing home another baby to love will not take away from your love with muffin but will bring a new love in to your life that will be just as special but in its own way. i am glad nika and i shared our lives together touching each others hearts in such a special way even though losing her has been unbearable i am happy that we had the time we had. my life was better because of her and will be changed for the better forever. pixie has such cute little crazy puppy quirks that make me laugh and bring so much happiness. please do not deny yourself the love of another. nothing can bring back those we have lost, i am sure muffin would love to see you give such love and care to another. muffins memory will live on forever no matter what. when you're ready i think you're the kind of person who should bring home another baby to love and give such a great life as you did for muffin. i know how hard it is to lose your best friend. i'm sure muffin and nika are playing together at rainbow bridge as our little angels smiling down on us always. keeping you in my thoughts and prayers and sending you a hug! hope to see an update soon on your thoughts of a new family member...

marcie · 03-24-2011, 06:35 AM

sending you hugs. Sorry for your loss.

Baroness · 03-24-2011, 08:30 PM

I know this is late, but it broke my heart to read of your loss. I am reminded of something I heard from my brother when we lost our Yorkie Kelly a looong time ago. There have been reports of dogs by paranormal experts at funerals, when their owner passes they are gleefully waiting to show them the way home. I have faith that all dogs go to heaven for their special love and companionship, so it makes so much sense that when it is our time to leave this earth they will be with us again...once again being that love and companion to us. God Bless...

Norma Ralston · 03-26-2011, 07:35 AM

So sorry for your loss. I lost my first Yorkie in 2007 and I still feel sad. I have a Yorkie who is 15 years old. He won't be with me for very many years I know. Has dementia,
and can't go up stairs anymore, as well as almost blind and almost deaf. But he seems
happy, eats well, and even plays with toys. One of the best ways to be comforted is
to get another Yorkie as soon as possible.

03-11-2011, 11:43 PM	#47
FlDebra Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: FL Posts: 7,651	I am so sorry for your loss. I know when we have these sweet babies for so long they become such a huge part of our family and our heart, the loss is all the harder. But you will have such wonderful memories of your life together. It sounds like you both gave as much or more than you got. That is the way it is supposed to be. Love works like that. Take some time to grieve and maybe find a suitable memorial -- can be as elaborate as a stone or as simple as planting a tree in her honor. Then try to find some comfort in the memories. She will live on in your heart. I pray for your comfort and peace during this sad time. May your sweet Muffin RIP. __________________ FlDebra and her ABCs Annie, Ben, Candy Promoting Healthy Breeding to the AKC Yorkshire Terrier Standard

03-12-2011, 03:45 AM	#48
Jellybears YT Addict Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: MacTier Ontario Canada Posts: 365	I so know how you feel - my Toffee has been gone 2 years, and I still can see her little face and remember the 15-1/2 years we had together. She was my baby....but.....I now have 2 new babies. I love them as much - I have so much to share - a wonderful loving home - and I think of how much I have made 2 new little furbabies loved and happy. Perhaps you could open your home and heart to a new little one of your own, and make make a wonderful life for a lucky puppy!!!! __________________ Mr. Darcy Miss Lizzie Toffee in Heaven at 15-1/2 - still sadly missed 1993-Christmas 2008

03-12-2011, 05:06 AM	#49
Shelby&Seymour "& Seeger, too" Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Central Kentucky Posts: 5,169	I am so sorry that you are still having a difficult time. I, too, said that I wouldn't get another dog after losing Lindsay... it was too difficult saying good-bye. But my vet was the one who suggested I find another..... he said why waste too much time before finding another dog ..... you gave 16 years - good healthy years- to a dog!! Why not give another dog that special treatment! There are plenty of them out there and having a Long-term home is what a dog needs. Some dog out there would LOVE to have you as an owner and would give you that loyalty right back!.. Getting another dog is not replacing the relationship with the dog you lost.... but a tribute to them but giving another dog a wonderful home. Hope you will consider another pet (of course, in time & when you are ready) .... I think they would LOVE sharing your home with you. __________________ Happy Fall Y'all! 🎃

03-12-2011, 01:06 PM	#52
dogbert Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Southern, MN,USA Posts: 3,271 Blog Entries: 1	I still have some of my last dog's things in my dresser. But the love and joy I get my my 2 now is wonderful. Millie will never be forgotten but neither will the 2 I have now. __________________ Mammadoodle to my Yorkiedoodle Barney and our crazy cat Ms. Sassy Pants. RIP Audrey-Belle Within the heart of every stray lies the singular desire to be loved

03-22-2011, 04:25 PM	#53
Mollysmom411999 YT Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Ontario Canada Posts: 373	So sorry for your loss of Muffin. Its ok to cry , I still do ,but just know we are here for you...Hugs __________________ Mattie,Abbey,Miley,Dottie,Holly and StevieX6 R.I.P. my Molly Muffin 14/01/11

03-11-2011, 10:53 PM	#46
lillymae YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Idaho Posts: 4,544	Awww, don't be so sad as she is watching down on you. You don't want her to be sad because he mommy is still sad. Maybe it's time for you to add some happy little feet back into your life. Nothing will help heal a broken heart like the smell of puppy breath. I'm sure there are lots of people here that would agree on this. I pray that you can come to terms with your loss soon. Remember you can never try to replace a lost love but you can find a new love if you just open your heart..

03-12-2011, 05:54 AM	#50
bronco Yorkie Talker Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: massachusetts Posts: 20	I am so sorry for your loss.

03-12-2011, 06:04 AM	#51
lisaly Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Long Island, New York Posts: 5,892	You have come to my mind several times in this past year. I was very moved by your beautiful words and love for Muffin, and I haven’t forgotten what you wrote. I understand why it is so painful for you, and I, too, have all of Ashley’s things around and we sleep with Ashley's blanket on our bed. I still have some of Gracie’s and Kiwi’s favorite stuffed animals around also. My heart really breaks for you, and I sit here crying as I type this. You are not alone, and there are so many people who care. If you ever need to talk, please call me. I’ll PM you my number in case you don’t have it. Not a minute goes by that I don’t realize that my sweet Ashley is no longer physically with us, yet like her sisters, I do feel her all around me and she occupies such a huge part of my heart. I have moments like you described also. There are sometimes right before I walk into the door at home that I almost forget that she’s not there, and I have that feeling of excitement I always had every time I came home anticipating seeing my baby and giving her kisses. I understand why you aren’t ready to bring another little one into your life, but no one can replace Muffin. I know you don’t want that anyway. A new baby would give you something to be excited about and you would have an outlet for all of the love that you have in your loving heart. My husband is still in need of surgery to repair an arm that he shattered, but once we are able to care for another little one, we will open up our hearts to another little Yorkie. It won’t change the overpowering love that we feel for our little ones, but it will bring some of the joy into our empty home. I discovered something recently about myself. This time of year at work is particularly stressful and there’s never enough time to get all the work done, have some time to relax, and get enough sleep. Although it does get to me, I’m used to it after all of these years. This year I am finding it far more difficult to manage the stress, and even though there are some other changes that are added to it, I think the reason why it’s getting to me more than usual is that most any stress that I had was melted away as soon as I saw my precious little girl. Without her with me, I don’t have any outlet for the stress. Ashley and I walked for miles a day, but I’m not ready to go on walks without her. We played, cuddled, and laughed each day because of our sweet Ashley. Please think of how all of this is affecting you and consider if you would be happier if you were able to love another baby again. You have so much love in your heart. That was so obvious to me when I read your posts about Muffin. Your love for Muffin will never change and she would want you to be happy again. Today I will honor Muffin, and I will pray that the pain you feel lessens each day. It will always be there, but in time, the beautiful memories will replace most of the painful ones. Please call me if you ever need me.

03-22-2011, 04:30 PM	#54
littlewhip Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: wiith my furbabys Posts: 8,874	Im so sorry,I know your heart is broken just take one day at a time, I have had your loss and i know it feels like it will never be ok , some days i looks at his picture and cry and other days i smile because i know he was loved , My thoughts and prayers are with you __________________

03-22-2011, 06:09 PM	#55
boopster Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Southern California, USA Posts: 1,643 Blog Entries: 1	I understand how you feel. I lost the first two dogs I " owned" as an adult within weeks of each other and promised myself I would never make myself vulnerable to that kind od grief again. A year later I couldn't stand the loneliness but didn't want to feel like I was replacing my beloved dogs so I adopted two cats. One died at age ten, the other 1 1/2 years ago at age 17. I also adopted my parents' dog after my dad died. I lost her nearly a year ago. Again I promised myself that I was through with the grief. I was the one who had to make the decision to put all five to sleep and it was about the hardest thing I ever had to do. I told people for a long time that I was going to wait until the doctor told me my days were numbered, then I was going to adopt a whole kennel full of dogs, secure in the knowledge that I would be the first to go. Maudlin and perhaps creepy, and I would never do it, but that's how I felt. I only made it a few months without Bungee before the loneliness for a pet got to me. Tallulah hasn't replaced Clancey, Murphy, Emily, Amanda or Bungee. They each still own a big piece of my heart. But the nice thing about humans with their pets ( or children or friends). We have endless capacity to love and there is always room in our hearts for another one. Once in a while I still have a twinge of feeling disloyal to the pets who have gone ahead. But I remind myself that I don't love them any less, and I am a much better person when I can look forward to going home knowing that there will be someone there who is happy to see me no matter what. I hope you will be able to find some peace. When you are ready for another companion you will know it.

03-23-2011, 03:34 AM	#56
EsmeeKimme Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Rocky Mount, VA Posts: 229	So sorry for your loss. __________________ Mommy to 3 human kids, 1 hedgehog, 1 spoiled cat and Riley

03-24-2011, 04:04 AM	#57
zowiandnikasmom YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: illinois Posts: 902	i am so very sorry you lost your best friend. it has been almost 7 months since my special little girl nika passed. i miss her every day and think of her all the time. i feel like her presence is with me because the love we shared will never die. the memories will always be there and nothing will ever take those away. i still remember the look of love in her eyes and our special routine. i would give anything to hold her and get my nose kisses by her again. the one year anniversary had to be very hard for you. every sunday morning i feel that terrible pain all over again. it doesn't seem to get any easier for me without her. i have made several memorials to her that help make me feel a little bit better. i created a 72 page story / picture book of her from walgreens.com full of pictures of her from the day she was born up to her last days with pet quotes and poems. the vets office made me a pawprint impression memorial of her when she passed that i put in a shadowbox frame with her picture and some other momentos. her belongings, collar, clothes, angel wing harness, her baby blankie, and some toys are still everywhere in my house. i havent had the heart to put them away anywhere. i can still smell her from her snuggie that she loved to wear when it was cold. my mom got me a necklace from bradford exchange that is a always in my heart locket engraved with her name and has a little yorkie inside that i wear all the time. she will live forever in my heart and will always have her own special place there. nothing in the world could take her place. that being said, i have her mother zowi who is 10 now and i dont know how i wouldve survived losing nika without the comfort of having zowi. she experienced the loss herself too and misses nika as much as i do and i know it. when i sit here crying, she knows why and comforts me so well. all this being said, i adopted a 5 month old yorkie puppy from a humane society who was taken from a puppy mill. she has brought so much joy and happiness into our lives and has bonded with zowi better than i ever thought. i know nika would be happy knowing that i took in a little one who needed to be loved and have a forever home. the love i have for nika will always be hers and hers alone. she would want me to be happy. she spent her life making sure of that and gave me so much love. pixe the new puppy and zowi also have thier own special love and place in my heart and always will. adopting pixie has helped me greatly. i know nika is in the laps of the angels now and i believe she sent pixie to me, still trying to make me happy even in her passing. nika is my little angel now smiling down on me always. i know we will be together again forever someday, as you will be with your sweet muffin. when you're ready, bringing home another baby to love will not take away from your love with muffin but will bring a new love in to your life that will be just as special but in its own way. i am glad nika and i shared our lives together touching each others hearts in such a special way even though losing her has been unbearable i am happy that we had the time we had. my life was better because of her and will be changed for the better forever. pixie has such cute little crazy puppy quirks that make me laugh and bring so much happiness. please do not deny yourself the love of another. nothing can bring back those we have lost, i am sure muffin would love to see you give such love and care to another. muffins memory will live on forever no matter what. when you're ready i think you're the kind of person who should bring home another baby to love and give such a great life as you did for muffin. i know how hard it is to lose your best friend. i'm sure muffin and nika are playing together at rainbow bridge as our little angels smiling down on us always. keeping you in my thoughts and prayers and sending you a hug! hope to see an update soon on your thoughts of a new family member... __________________ My Princess Zowi 1/21/01 My Precious Pixie 5/28/10 My Little Angel Nika 4/16/04-8/29/10

03-24-2011, 06:35 AM	#58
marcie and Lucy too Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: ohio Posts: 6,325	sending you hugs. Sorry for your loss.

03-24-2011, 08:30 PM	#59
Baroness YT Addict Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: San Antonio TX Posts: 350	I know this is late, but it broke my heart to read of your loss. I am reminded of something I heard from my brother when we lost our Yorkie Kelly a looong time ago. There have been reports of dogs by paranormal experts at funerals, when their owner passes they are gleefully waiting to show them the way home. I have faith that all dogs go to heaven for their special love and companionship, so it makes so much sense that when it is our time to leave this earth they will be with us again...once again being that love and companion to us. God Bless... __________________ I 'ses my Teddie Monster

03-26-2011, 07:35 AM	#60
Norma Ralston Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Mandan, North Dakota, USA Posts: 62	So sorry for your loss. I lost my first Yorkie in 2007 and I still feel sad. I have a Yorkie who is 15 years old. He won't be with me for very many years I know. Has dementia, and can't go up stairs anymore, as well as almost blind and almost deaf. But he seems happy, eats well, and even plays with toys. One of the best ways to be comforted is to get another Yorkie as soon as possible.