How long?

[cynsir]

Yes, I have read where posts have been decidedly negative. Folks, this gal has lost her darling Stormy. I do not think that this is the time or place for negativity. When she asks a question it does not mean that she's on the way to get a dog to replace Stormy. Stormy was her love and it is going to take some time to get to a spot where she will even think about getting another dog.

Please can we stop the slamming?

[CouversMom]

Originally Posted by cynsir

Yes, I have read where posts have been decidedly negative. Folks, this gal has lost her darling Stormy. I do not think that this is the time or place for negativity. When she asks a question it does not mean that she's on the way to get a dog to replace Stormy. Stormy was her love and it is going to take some time to get to a spot where she will even think about getting another dog.

Please can we stop the slamming?

I agree.

This is supposed to be a place where we come to find support from people who understand what we are going through. I could not imagine posting after losing my Couver and getting responses like this. I hope that everyone can put themselves in her shoes and back off.

She is not asking for personal judgement about whether or not she should own another dog... but simply to hear about what others did when they lost a pup.

I hope that everyone can take this into consideration before they post and realize that she is going through a horrible time right now.

Your words affect people more than you realize. Think before you post please.

[FlDebra]

Originally Posted by cynsir

Yes, I have read where posts have been decidedly negative. Folks, this gal has lost her darling Stormy. I do not think that this is the time or place for negativity. When she asks a question it does not mean that she's on the way to get a dog to replace Stormy. Stormy was her love and it is going to take some time to get to a spot where she will even think about getting another dog.

Please can we stop the slamming?

Originally Posted by CouversMom

I agree.

This is supposed to be a place where we come to find support from people who understand what we are going through. I could not imagine posting after losing my Couver and getting responses like this. I hope that everyone can put themselves in her shoes and back off.

She is not asking for personal judgement about whether or not she should own another dog... but simply to hear about what others did when they lost a pup.

I hope that everyone can take this into consideration before they post and realize that she is going through a horrible time right now.

Your words affect people more than you realize. Think before you post please.

Cynsir and Couversmom -- Where is anyone slamming her? I do not get this? What negativity? Back off of what? What personal judgement? Instead of just vaguely saying she is getting slammed, cite an example because I DO NOT SEE IT! Unless as she intimated in her last post, she is talking about another thread, and maybe you are as well, I do not see the negativity and slamming you two speak of. This is what fans the fires and keeps things negative!

I am trying to get the OP to realize that people did NOT bring negative words to this thread and she should not bring negative thoughts from other threads into this one. That is hard to do when others are saying she is getting slammed. I think people should either cite an example of what they think is so negative or stop trying to stir up trouble. I put a lot of time and concern into that long post to try to get her to look at this differently. Now I am not sure if you are saying I am slamming her or not. But I assure you, I tried to make sure there was NOTHING that she could even remotely take as as negative BECAUSE of the emotional time this is. But just because it is emotional, does not mean she should keep looking for some evil content that is not there. Unbelievable!

[CouversMom]

Here are several examples of people putting their personal judgement into this issue:


“I would really consider another larger dog to go along with your Bull Terrier.”

“I read today on another thread that you are thinking of breeding your bull terrier.

I would give that alot of thought.”

“I don't want to rub salt into your wounds, but I think I remember you had some trouble paying for some of Stormy's medical care. I would wait until you are confident that you have the means to pay for at least one major medical emergency if you had to. Do you have pet insurance on the bully? I would focus on her and making sure she stays healthy and safe.”

“As far a Bull Terriers go if you want another small dog maybe you should get a miniature Bull Terrier as a playmate . I think that they get to be about 24lbs or so.”

Where in her post did she ask what type of dog she should get? She just wanted to know how people reacted to the loss of their pups.


“So, why are you now throwing a fit when someone else agrees with you?”


Was this comment really necessary?? Can we not just answer the question she asked and move on? She did not ask for judgment.


“This is what fans the fires and keeps things negative!”


Are you serious? We are fanning the fires?! Come on… I’m sorry, but you have done nothing but fan the fire. Let the woman grieve and have her question answered without the judgment.

If she had asked; “What type of dog should I get?” or something similar, I could understand the responses. Can you not put yourself in her shoes and understand what she is going through? I hope you are able to see what you could be doing to the poor woman, and give her a break.

[FlDebra]

Originally Posted by CouversMom

Here are several examples of people putting their personal judgement into this issue:


“I would really consider another larger dog to go along with your Bull Terrier.”

“I read today on another thread that you are thinking of breeding your bull terrier.

I would give that alot of thought.”

“I don't want to rub salt into your wounds, but I think I remember you had some trouble paying for some of Stormy's medical care. I would wait until you are confident that you have the means to pay for at least one major medical emergency if you had to. Do you have pet insurance on the bully? I would focus on her and making sure she stays healthy and safe.”

“As far a Bull Terriers go if you want another small dog maybe you should get a miniature Bull Terrier as a playmate . I think that they get to be about 24lbs or so.”

Where in her post did she ask what type of dog she should get? She just wanted to know how people reacted to the loss of their pups.


“So, why are you now throwing a fit when someone else agrees with you?”


Was this comment really necessary?? Can we not just answer the question she asked and move on? She did not ask for judgment.


“This is what fans the fires and keeps things negative!”


Are you serious? We are fanning the fires?! Come on… I’m sorry, but you have done nothing but fan the fire. Let the woman grieve and have her question answered without the judgment.

If she had asked; “What type of dog should I get?” or something similar, I could understand the responses. Can you not put yourself in her shoes and understand what she is going through? I hope you are able to see what you could be doing to the poor woman, and give her a break.

We will just have to agree to disagree. If you read through any thread, there are always other topics broached as the thread progresses. I do not see any of those quotes as being negative or judgemental. They are all offering some ideas for her to consider. No one told her NOT to get a yorkie. She herself had said she wanted a larger dog. But when someone else mentioned it too, she got mad and yes, did throw a fit. I don't see how I was fanning a fire. We must really be looking at things differently. I felt like if I reasoned through her post which seemed to allege things that were NOT happening in this thread, she might look at things with a more positive spin. I see this is unlikely to happen when two of you are making sure she sees everything in a negative light.

I will PM you with other info.

[BaxtersMommy]

Wow. Many of you should be ashamed of yourselves. So quick to judge, and be down right mean. (besides having too much time on your hands to write a book on here) So sorry to hear about Stormy. I lost 3 dogs in 1 year, 2007. It was very hard!! I know your pain and hope that it eases up soon. Take care of YOU!

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[crystalsmom]

I thought this was supposed to be a form to help and educate!

Yes, I was worried about having an english bull terrier in the house with her child and I told her I was just trying to save her from more heartache.
She said I was thinking of the wrong dog and I should read up on the english bull terrier and I did. I showed her in a breed article where it said and even highlighted that this is NOT a breed to get with children in the house. She answers most everything and did not answer that.

I felt her mind was made up long ago and hoped this all had stopped but I will make no apology for trying to get her to see what a dangerous situation she is making for herself.

So many feel so deeply here and have such good hearts that when they see a train wreck ready to happen, they want to help.

yorkie_mama22, I wish you peace in all this but please do take away a little bit of what you felt negative because it was given in your best interest. Hugs, Joan

[yorkie_mama22]

Originally Posted by crystalsmom

I thought this was supposed to be a form to help and educate!

Yes, I was worried about having an english bull terrier in the house with her child and I told her I was just trying to save her from more heartache.
She said I was thinking of the wrong dog and I should read up on the english bull terrier and I did. I showed her in a breed article where it said and even highlighted that this is NOT a breed to get with children in the house. She answers most everything and did not answer that.

I felt her mind was made up long ago and hoped this all had stopped but I will make no apology for trying to get her to see what a dangerous situation she is making for herself.

So many feel so deeply here and have such good hearts that when they see a train wreck ready to happen, they want to help.

yorkie_mama22, I wish you peace in all this but please do take away a little bit of what you felt negative because it was given in your best interest. Hugs, Joan

I'm not sure how much you read about bull terriers but if it was only one article we all know everyone has an opinion about certain breeds. Some articles say one thing and another something else. I have said that mine is not the normal crazy hyper one, shes a female and she's very mellow and not hyper at all. I don't personally think she is a danger and it's been said these are great dogs for families but its for the RIGHT kind of families. My fiancee is home ALL day long, he has time to play with her, take her out and give her the exercise she needs, this is maybe why she is so mellow and not crazy inside the house. She hasn't given me any red flags to worry, of course I am not blowing it off as she could NEVER ever do nothing but I don't feel that she is dangerous. And yes I have been told maybe I need more experience owning small dogs and maybe a yorkie isn't for me. Maybe it isn't but I should be able to make that call. And lots of people come on and it's there first dog EVER and it's a small dog so how does that make me any different.


I'd just like to say can we please drop this, It seems because some people side with me others don't agree with it, who cares. I am sick of coming on here and getting stressed out and pissed off. I get tears in my eyes because this is HURTING ME. Maybe it's not on purpose but if I am saying I AM BEING OFFENDED who cares if YOU don't think I am, I AM SAYING I AM that is all that should matter. So please the two of you drop it and move on! Both of you are jumping on me right now trying to get me to understand your points but those are you opinons and I don't fee the same way sorry.

[Sugar's Mom]

Originally Posted by yorkie_mama22

I'm not sure how much you read about bull terriers but if it was only one article we all know everyone has an opinion about certain breeds. Some articles say one thing and another something else. I have said that mine is not the normal crazy hyper one, shes a female and she's very mellow and not hyper at all. I don't personally think she is a danger and it's been said these are great dogs for families but its for the RIGHT kind of families. My fiancee is home ALL day long, he has time to play with her, take her out and give her the exercise she needs, this is maybe why she is so mellow and not crazy inside the house. She hasn't given me any red flags to worry, of course I am not blowing it off as she could NEVER ever do nothing but I don't feel that she is dangerous. And yes I have been told maybe I need more experience owning small dogs and maybe a yorkie isn't for me. Maybe it isn't but I should be able to make that call. And lots of people come on and it's there first dog EVER and it's a small dog so how does that make me any different.


I'd just like to say can we please drop this, It seems because some people side with me others don't agree with it, who cares. I am sick of coming on here and getting stressed out and pissed off. I get tears in my eyes because this is HURTING ME. Maybe it's not on purpose but if I am saying I AM BEING OFFENDED who cares if YOU don't think I am, I AM SAYING I AM that is all that should matter. So please the two of you drop it and move on! Both of you are jumping on me right now trying to get me to understand your points but those are you opinons and I don't fee the same way sorry.

When you start thread one right after another that have negative remarks, you are going to get some negative posts. Maybe if you would drop all this, others would too. Just stop responding to the posts and let the threads die out then your feelings wouldn't be hurt every time. That's what I would do. I wouldn't open myself up to more heartache.

[cheryl19]

Originally Posted by Sugar's Mom

When you start thread one right after another that have negative remarks, you are going to get some negative posts. Maybe if you would drop all this, others would too. Just stop responding to the posts and let the threads die out then your feelings wouldn't be hurt every time. That's what I would do. I wouldn't open myself up to more heartache.

I'm seeing to much drama from yorkie_mama22 I'm guessing you are doing this on purpose. This site is to help inform people. And it's for the love of Yorkies.
And from your own words on a lot of different posts that you have made, maybe you need to step back and see if owning a small dog is correct for you. They are not for everyone.

[Sugar's Mom]

She is hurting right now and tender hearted. Times like that, everything seems to go wrong. That's all I meant by my post.

[yorkie_mama22]

Originally Posted by cheryl19

I'm seeing to much drama from yorkie_mama22 I'm guessing you are doing this on purpose. This site is to help inform people. And it's for the love of Yorkies.
And from your own words on a lot of different posts that you have made, maybe you need to step back and see if owning a small dog is correct for you. They are not for everyone.

Why do you even bother to reply lady

[shamrocks]

Originally Posted by CouversMom

Here are several examples of people putting their personal judgement into this issue:


“I would really consider another larger dog to go along with your Bull Terrier.”

“I read today on another thread that you are thinking of breeding your bull terrier.

I would give that alot of thought.”

“I don't want to rub salt into your wounds, but I think I remember you had some trouble paying for some of Stormy's medical care. I would wait until you are confident that you have the means to pay for at least one major medical emergency if you had to. Do you have pet insurance on the bully? I would focus on her and making sure she stays healthy and safe.”

“As far a Bull Terriers go if you want another small dog maybe you should get a miniature Bull Terrier as a playmate . I think that they get to be about 24lbs or so.”

Where in her post did she ask what type of dog she should get? She just wanted to know how people reacted to the loss of their pups.


“So, why are you now throwing a fit when someone else agrees with you?”


Was this comment really necessary?? Can we not just answer the question she asked and move on? She did not ask for judgment.


“This is what fans the fires and keeps things negative!”


Are you serious? We are fanning the fires?! Come on… I’m sorry, but you have done nothing but fan the fire. Let the woman grieve and have her question answered without the judgment.

If she had asked; “What type of dog should I get?” or something similar, I could understand the responses. Can you not put yourself in her shoes and understand what she is going through? I hope you are able to see what you could be doing to the poor woman, and give her a break.

I don’t think that I was slamming her in any way. I posted on this tread after reading about how she was not going to get a small Yorkie again (I know though if and when I do decide I am going to go for a larger one. 4.8-5lbs is too small especially how fragile she was. ) I was just thinking that maybe a miniature Bull Terrier as a playmate would be a good idea because they are a hardy little dog. So I think that you must have misunderstood were I was coming from . I also left her a message on her visitor page saying that her story of how she felt moved me. I think that sometimes it is hard to know what a person’s true feelings are by just reading what they have posted. And in at least my case you got it wrong.