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Originally Posted by CouversMom  Here are several examples of people putting their personal judgement into this issue:
“I would really consider another larger dog to go along with your Bull Terrier.”
“I read today on another thread that you are thinking of breeding your bull terrier.
I would give that alot of thought.”
“I don't want to rub salt into your wounds, but I think I remember you had some trouble paying for some of Stormy's medical care. I would wait until you are confident that you have the means to pay for at least one major medical emergency if you had to. Do you have pet insurance on the bully? I would focus on her and making sure she stays healthy and safe.”
“As far a Bull Terriers go if you want another small dog maybe you should get a miniature Bull Terrier as a playmate . I think that they get to be about 24lbs or so.”
Where in her post did she ask what type of dog she should get? She just wanted to know how people reacted to the loss of their pups.
“So, why are you now throwing a fit when someone else agrees with you?”
Was this comment really necessary?? Can we not just answer the question she asked and move on? She did not ask for judgment.
“This is what fans the fires and keeps things negative!”
Are you serious? We are fanning the fires?! Come on… I’m sorry, but you have done nothing but fan the fire. Let the woman grieve and have her question answered without the judgment.
If she had asked; “What type of dog should I get?” or something similar, I could understand the responses. Can you not put yourself in her shoes and understand what she is going through? I hope you are able to see what you could be doing to the poor woman, and give her a break.
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We will just have to agree to disagree. If you read through any thread, there are always other topics broached as the thread progresses. I do not see any of those quotes as being negative or judgemental. They are all offering some ideas for her to consider. No one told her NOT to get a yorkie. She herself had said she wanted a larger dog. But when someone else mentioned it too, she got mad and yes, did throw a fit. I don't see how I was fanning a fire. We must really be looking at things differently. I felt like if I reasoned through her post which seemed to allege things that were NOT happening in this thread, she might look at things with a more positive spin. I see this is unlikely to happen when two of you are making sure she sees everything in a negative light.
I will PM you with other info.