Regrets after placing an adult?

[Sweetums]

Remind us again why Riley doesn't fit in with your family? I don't get it. Why aren't you the right home?

Have you ever considered consulting with a dog psychologist to see what it is that isn't working out and perhaps what you can do to adjust so that it does work?

[YorkieShadow]

I dont understand, I read this thread 2 times and still cant figure out the reason you want to rehome him. You seem to love and brag about him, so whats the problem? Im sorry im just not getting this. I did read he dosent like kids, But some small dogs if they are not with kids alot get stressed out when they are around them. Maybe keeping him pinned in one room while the kids are there. Other then that I dont see a true reason to rehome him. but thats your choice.

[YorkieRose]

Yorkies have many hidden abilites...you are just know realizing they can read minds...they can also move objects in their way..if I am sitting in a spot they perfer, I get stared down until I move over...then I apologze for sitting where they wanted to sit..silly me, I should have consulted them before sitting down...

[my2boyz]

Sweetums and YorkieShadow I do love Riley but I guess you would have to be here and see what I see to be able to understand the situation...there's a lot more to it than just him being afraid of kids. If he's not totally happy here why should I hang on to him like any other possession? That would be pretty selfish and not very fair to him and I'm not so stuck on myself to think I'm the only person who could possibly make him happy. Personality plays a lot in placement and you can't help how personality developes. I love him enough to make sure he's happy and if that means he would do better in another home then I love him enough to give that to him. What don't you understand about that?

[my2boyz]

Originally Posted by YorkieRose

Yorkies have many hidden abilites...you are just know realizing they can read minds...they can also move objects in their way..if I am sitting in a spot they perfer, I get stared down until I move over...then I apologze for sitting where they wanted to sit..silly me, I should have consulted them before sitting down...

LOL! Maybe that's why he stares at me...he doesn't want on my lap at all...he wants the whole chair!

[chachi]

Wel I myself can understand if you have one that is skiddish around kids because I have one. I have a 6 yr old daughter who has friends over frequently. Jewels has gotten used to it if but if they are playing too loudly or roughly she will just go up to our bedroom. She definitely would have been better suited in a family without kids but she has come around alot in time.

[wnalegria]

You are thinking with your heart. You are trying to do what is best for Riley and this will also be what will be best for you.

It will take a lot of soul searcing but you will make the right decision that is in the best interest for all of you.

Don't let anyone change your mind- you know the situation and the problems that are being faced. A new home and family may make the world of differance to Riley. Sometime we have pets that we love dearly but we just can't meet the needs that they have. There may be another family who has just the home for him. He may need to be placed in a home that has no other pets.

That does not mean that Riley is a bad dog or that you are a bad person. It just means that you love this little guy so much that you are looking at his needs above yours.

Best of luck in this hard decision.


Kathy

[Sugar's Mom]

Originally Posted by my2boyz

I know I'll probably get slammed for this but here goes anyway.

I've been thinking for a long time now about placing Riley. We've had him for about 14 months and it would be so hard to let go but I'm just not sure we're the right home for him. Have any of you ever placed an adult and then regretted it?

I retired Silk and re-homed her to a WONDERFUL home where she could be a princess the rest of her life. That was in November. i grieved myself to death, cried for hours on end, called about her till I got on the lady's nerves. Finally after two days, my husband caught me gone and called the new owwner, told her the shape I was in and asked if she would give her back. She did but was very upset. gradually, I began to get used to the idea that I have too many dogs and Silk was the most logical one to go. She hadn't adjusted well when I got her at age five so I hated to put her thru that. But, At Christmas, I called the lady, tied a big red Christmas boww on Silk and handed her over Christmas Eve.(for free) The lady came to get her and Silk just wagged her whole little rump. She had already bonded with the new owner. She goes every step she does, sleeps with her, travels with her and is the reigning Princess in the home. i couldn't have found a better home for her. So yes, it is very hard to rehomee your dogs and there are usually regrets. Just not to the extent mine was. I have been fine this time.

[omega]

I have had to rehome a couple of dogs (not Yorkies) in the past. I had taken them to obedience classes, etc... long story short, they were great dogs - just not for our family. Of course it was hard and we all cried, but they were much better off and had great lives. We gave them to people we knew. You have to make your own decision. Don't listen to too much input or you will just stay confused. Listen to some wise counsel, then make your decision. Like you said, maybe you have to change a little, who knows? It's hard figuring it all out. I wish you the best in making a decision.

omega

[windsor'smom]

Rehoming can be a wonderful thing for the dog if you find the "right" home. Last August we adopted our 3rd yorkie, he was already 5 months old and much larger than my other two kids. It was wonderful, he seemed to fit in with our routine and other babies... but shortly after he was neutered he became very agressive with Windsor, my male. At only 7 months old I truly think he'd have killed him if left alone with him. They were seperated between my BF's house and mine, it was miserable. My brother took him and it has been great for both of us, he has an older Lab who was in need of company during the day and someone to get her up and moving and a little more active. I still get to see him and I know he is in a loving home and will be taken care of.

Do what is best for both of you.

[YorkieShadow]

Originally Posted by my2boyz

Sweetums and YorkieShadow I do love Riley but I guess you would have to be here and see what I see to be able to understand the situation...there's a lot more to it than just him being afraid of kids. If he's not totally happy here why should I hang on to him like any other possession? That would be pretty selfish and not very fair to him and I'm not so stuck on myself to think I'm the only person who could possibly make him happy. Personality plays a lot in placement and you can't help how personality developes. I love him enough to make sure he's happy and if that means he would do better in another home then I love him enough to give that to him. What don't you understand about that?

Im sorry I didnt read that he was unhappy.
My little Mickey took a long time to warm up to my Granbaby. Not having any small kids around for so long and then There she was, it was hard at first, but hes warming up to her now. Yes If he is unhappy and you can see that he is then do whats best for him.

[Potter]

Sometimes, there are circumstances which leads to dogs being rehomed. I really don't think its a bad thing if it is the best for the dog itself. I really don't think anyone should feel bad rehoming their dogs if their life circumstances changes, or the dog is not happy in its home or not getting the attention it deserves. Of course, it is important to know about the new home they are going to.Other people can give you suggestions but you have to make the decision so take some quiet time to think about it.Wishing you luck.

[my2boyz]

I'd like to thank everyone for your replies and support.

[my2boyz]

Well, this is where we find Riley when Jo plays...either under the chair, the dining room table or next to the bed and Jo doesn't even have to be playing rough. Once in a while Riley will play for a couple minutes and then he's done. I've had a little time to think and I really do feel I need to find a home for him where he will be the only one. How do I go about finding the right home?

[daisy mae06]

It really seems that you ave thought on this for a long time and feel that it is the best thing for him. I comend you for being about to put his feeling infront of your love for him. I know it is a very hard thing to do and I hope that you can find someone close by that can love him forever. And that you will still beable to visit him too.


I've mentioned before that Riley doesn't like to play and seems afraid of Jo when he plays with toys but he has been trying lately...but that's why probably every playtime picture I've ever posted has just Jo in it. Riley doesn't like kids and we do have grandkids and neighbor kids that come over. These are just a couple things that really get him stressed but there are other things I've noticed too. I just feel that Riley would thrive in a quiet home with a single person who is home all the time. I've been on the fence about this for a long time and I just don't know what to do about it. Maybe I shouldn't have said anything.[/quote]