Split Custody - Page 3 - YorkieTalk.com Forums

POOH & DESTINY · 11-24-2006, 01:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by chattiesmom

This is purely a personal decision that you must search your heart for the answer, however, you did ask and I'm with Willo .... if this person that you shared a special part of your life decides to give it all up -- well the furchildren are part of that. When you make choices in life you must live with the consequences of those decisions. The Yorkie kids will adjust no matter what you decide, I am more worried about YOU!

Good luck and let us know how things turn out!

THANKS GUYS FOR ALL THE LOVE AND SUPPORT... WELL IM GOING TO KEEP MY BABIES AND THEY WILL SEE HER ON THE WEEKENDS...BUT SHE HAS TO COME HERE TO VISIT.... SO I KNOW SHES NOT GOING TO TRAVEL 3 HOURS EVERY WEEKEND...SO SHELL STOP COMING AND THE BABIES WILL FORGET ABOUT HER BUT SHE STILLS PAYS FOR THEIR VET BILLS AND FOOD...SO IM HAPPY

Grayson's mom · 11-24-2006, 01:59 PM

Glad things have worked out in your favor

Tiggerwit · 11-24-2006, 02:10 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by POOH & DESTINY

SO SHELL STOP COMING AND THE BABIES WILL FORGET ABOUT HER BUT SHE STILLS PAYS FOR THEIR VET BILLS AND FOOD...SO IM HAPPY

Excellent!! But remember... that if she stops coming, she also may stop paying.

Hugs to pooh & destiny.

Gayle_T · 11-24-2006, 02:31 PM

Posted by Tassi

Well since it is your partner who is leaving...let her go but tell her the dogs stay especially since your name is on the papers. Sure, you dont want to keep her from them and blah blah blah but I am thinking about future terms. What if one day, if she has the dogs, she decides she doesnt want them anymore and gets rid of them WITHOUT YOUR KNOWLEDGE? Or what if she up and moves and you dont know where she is? What if she gets an attitude and ends the "split custody" thing? I would just let her come and visit. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders. If she wants to come see them, fine. If she doesnt, that's fine, too! It's true that we treat these as our human babies and I can guarantee that no one would get them let alone my furbabies!!! Just my opinion, tho. My mom says I can be too opinionated...I hope this isn't the case here. It just tugs my heart!!!
__________________
Tassi loves her Jaxon and Nico

Tassie....YOU GO GIRL!!! ....... I think that what you've said makes so much sense. If she walks...she walks...but you don't want to split up your babies and if she cares to see them...then you all can work out some visitatiion.

That's my humble oppinion..... but it's so hard on them to be split up AND... she is the one who decided to leave. (Please, don't throw rotten tomatoes at me! 0r Tassi )

Gazou · 11-24-2006, 02:45 PM

SO SHELL STOP COMING AND THE BABIES WILL FORGET ABOUT HER BUT SHE STILLS PAYS FOR THEIR VET BILLS AND FOOD...SO IM HAPPY

[/QUOTE]

Why are you counting on her to pay the vet bills and food ?

Aren't you able to do that on your own ?

SnowWa · 11-24-2006, 03:42 PM

I still think that you should keep the two little dogs and make sure that your girl friend has a new little Yorkie puppy of her own when she settles into her new home.

This way you'd have two happy people and three happy little Yorkies.

Of course, this solution would cost a few $$$$ --- but it would be well worth it in the long run.

Carol Jean

tassibo · 11-25-2006, 10:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gazou

SO SHELL STOP COMING AND THE BABIES WILL FORGET ABOUT HER BUT SHE STILLS PAYS FOR THEIR VET BILLS AND FOOD...SO IM HAPPY

Why are you counting on her to pay the vet bills and food ?

Aren't you able to do that on your own ?[/QUOTE]

Kind of like child support...huh? Just because you pay doesn't necessarily mean u get to see the kid, esp if that absent parent isn't acting right. lol...it just tickles me that we love these pups so much that they are JUST LIKE OUR FLESH AND BLOOD! I hope everything works out well with you pooh & destiny. I think you did the right thing. Keep the kids. They are rightfully yours. If she wants to pay the "maintenance", by all means let her. It's a win/win situation for you!!

Gazou · 11-26-2006, 03:50 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by tassibo

Why are you counting on her to pay the vet bills and food ?

Aren't you able to do that on your own ?

Kind of like child support...huh? Just because you pay doesn't necessarily mean u get to see the kid, esp if that absent parent isn't acting right. lol...it just tickles me that we love these pups so much that they are JUST LIKE OUR FLESH AND BLOOD! I hope everything works out well with you pooh & destiny. I think you did the right thing. Keep the kids. They are rightfully yours. If she wants to pay the "maintenance", by all means let her. It's a win/win situation for you!!

[/QUOTE]

I would never help this person . She want the dogs so she pay for the cares and food . Its too easy to have them and don't pay .

Grayson's mom · 11-26-2006, 06:05 AM

All in all you should plan that someday you will will have full care of the dogs. Once you move on your new "friend" may not be so happy about a x coming around since you say she will be coming to you. Then think even further down the road if you say Marry how will your wife like this hmm or what if she marries first you know this is sticky.

My parents never remarried but he did care for the dog (he did take the dog to the vet and gave him baths and took him to be groomed)and I always thought it was an excuse to still see my mom, and so did she.

Anyhow I don't think it will last long, and when someone new comes into the picture it will be sticky on both ends. I wouldn't like my hubby having contact with a x even though he would claim it was for the love of a dog. But that is just me.

JeanieK · 11-26-2006, 06:51 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by POOH & DESTINY

THANKS GUYS FOR ALL THE LOVE AND SUPPORT... WELL IM GOING TO KEEP MY BABIES AND THEY WILL SEE HER ON THE WEEKENDS...BUT SHE HAS TO COME HERE TO VISIT.... SO I KNOW SHES NOT GOING TO TRAVEL 3 HOURS EVERY WEEKEND...SO SHELL STOP COMING AND THE BABIES WILL FORGET ABOUT HER BUT SHE STILLS PAYS FOR THEIR VET BILLS AND FOOD...SO IM HAPPY

I'm happy that you're going to keep them together. I agree, in time she'll just move on and probably get her own dog. It happens with children all the time, where the non custodial parent decides they are too busy to be bothered. and since we are talking about dogs here and not children, I'm sure the visits will get fewer and farther between.

I hope that you are prepared to take care of their Vet bills and Food, cause I don't see her paying for it once she is gone. I wouldn't even feel right taking the money.

JeanieK · 11-26-2006, 06:59 AM

Snowwa..... I agree on some of those posts where they refer to their sons and daughters. I've had to re read a few of them also. When they say babies I usually understand it's the dogs they're talking asbout. But sons and daughters???????????????

But to each his own. Perhaps they don't have people sons and daughters so there is no confusion on their part.

GucciMyGirl · 11-26-2006, 07:13 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by POOH & DESTINY

THANKS GUYS FOR ALL THE LOVE AND SUPPORT... WELL IM GOING TO KEEP MY BABIES AND THEY WILL SEE HER ON THE WEEKENDS...BUT SHE HAS TO COME HERE TO VISIT.... SO I KNOW SHES NOT GOING TO TRAVEL 3 HOURS EVERY WEEKEND...SO SHELL STOP COMING AND THE BABIES WILL FORGET ABOUT HER BUT SHE STILLS PAYS FOR THEIR VET BILLS AND FOOD...SO IM HAPPY

I know that your name is on the papers but who paid for the dogs? Just curiious and as some have mentioned. Why is she going to pay for vet bills and food? I think now you will be stretching her kindness. No offense meant... In the long haul she will not be coming often , do not expect her to continue to pay. That is really not fair to her..I am happy you got the dogs regardless, Good luck!

chattiesmom · 11-26-2006, 07:22 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by POOH & DESTINY

THANKS GUYS FOR ALL THE LOVE AND SUPPORT... WELL IM GOING TO KEEP MY BABIES AND THEY WILL SEE HER ON THE WEEKENDS...BUT SHE HAS TO COME HERE TO VISIT.... SO I KNOW SHES NOT GOING TO TRAVEL 3 HOURS EVERY WEEKEND...SO SHELL STOP COMING AND THE BABIES WILL FORGET ABOUT HER BUT SHE STILLS PAYS FOR THEIR VET BILLS AND FOOD...SO IM HAPPY

GO YOU! Please don't count on this person taking care of vet and food bills indefinately. Be sure you can handle the financial commitment of owning a dog - including having an a stash put away in case of an emergency.

I certainly hopt that you are well on the road to recovery from this awful event in your life.

Olivier · 11-26-2006, 08:04 AM

SO SHELL STOP COMING AND THE BABIES WILL FORGET ABOUT HER BUT SHE STILLS PAYS FOR THEIR VET BILLS AND FOOD...SO IM HAPPY

[/QUOTE]

If I were you , I wouldn't keep my hopes too high .

If you want the dogs for yourself , you should be able to pay vet bills and food .

11-24-2006, 01:59 PM	#32
Grayson's mom Mommy's Little Boo Boo Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Virgina Posts: 3,734	Glad things have worked out in your favor __________________ Proud mom to Grayson Abby Dusty Pepper Ryan Gabriel and of course me Diane Grayson loves Tia

11-24-2006, 02:45 PM	#35
Gazou YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Canada Posts: 2,180	SO SHELL STOP COMING AND THE BABIES WILL FORGET ABOUT HER BUT SHE STILLS PAYS FOR THEIR VET BILLS AND FOOD...SO IM HAPPY[/QUOTE] Why are you counting on her to pay the vet bills and food ? Aren't you able to do that on your own ?

11-24-2006, 03:42 PM	#36
SnowWa YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: USA Posts: 2,992	I still think that you should keep the two little dogs and make sure that your girl friend has a new little Yorkie puppy of her own when she settles into her new home. This way you'd have two happy people and three happy little Yorkies. Of course, this solution would cost a few $$$$ --- but it would be well worth it in the long run. Carol Jean __________________ http://tinypic.com/ipxhmb.jpg A Yorkie is worth a thousand words.

11-26-2006, 06:05 AM	#39
Grayson's mom Mommy's Little Boo Boo Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Virgina Posts: 3,734	All in all you should plan that someday you will will have full care of the dogs. Once you move on your new "friend" may not be so happy about a x coming around since you say she will be coming to you. Then think even further down the road if you say Marry how will your wife like this hmm or what if she marries first you know this is sticky. My parents never remarried but he did care for the dog (he did take the dog to the vet and gave him baths and took him to be groomed)and I always thought it was an excuse to still see my mom, and so did she. Anyhow I don't think it will last long, and when someone new comes into the picture it will be sticky on both ends. I wouldn't like my hubby having contact with a x even though he would claim it was for the love of a dog. But that is just me. __________________ Proud mom to Grayson Abby Dusty Pepper Ryan Gabriel and of course me Diane Grayson loves Tia

11-26-2006, 08:04 AM	#44
Olivier Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Canada Posts: 2,999	SO SHELL STOP COMING AND THE BABIES WILL FORGET ABOUT HER BUT SHE STILLS PAYS FOR THEIR VET BILLS AND FOOD...SO IM HAPPY[/QUOTE] If I were you , I wouldn't keep my hopes too high . If you want the dogs for yourself , you should be able to pay vet bills and food .

11-24-2006, 02:31 PM	#34
Gayle_T Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Florida Posts: 219	Posted by Tassi Well since it is your partner who is leaving...let her go but tell her the dogs stay especially since your name is on the papers. Sure, you dont want to keep her from them and blah blah blah but I am thinking about future terms. What if one day, if she has the dogs, she decides she doesnt want them anymore and gets rid of them WITHOUT YOUR KNOWLEDGE? Or what if she up and moves and you dont know where she is? What if she gets an attitude and ends the "split custody" thing? I would just let her come and visit. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders. If she wants to come see them, fine. If she doesnt, that's fine, too! It's true that we treat these as our human babies and I can guarantee that no one would get them let alone my furbabies!!! Just my opinion, tho. My mom says I can be too opinionated...I hope this isn't the case here. It just tugs my heart!!! __________________ Tassi loves her Jaxon and Nico Tassie....YOU GO GIRL!!! ....... I think that what you've said makes so much sense. If she walks...she walks...but you don't want to split up your babies and if she cares to see them...then you all can work out some visitatiion. That's my humble oppinion..... but it's so hard on them to be split up AND... she is the one who decided to leave. (Please, don't throw rotten tomatoes at me! 0r Tassi )

11-26-2006, 06:59 AM	#41
JeanieK Donating YT 12K Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Council Bluffs Iowa Posts: 12,552	Snowwa..... I agree on some of those posts where they refer to their sons and daughters. I've had to re read a few of them also. When they say babies I usually understand it's the dogs they're talking asbout. But sons and daughters??????????????? But to each his own. Perhaps they don't have people sons and daughters so there is no confusion on their part.