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08-01-2006, 10:38 PM | #1 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: ohio
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| terrified It's 2:30am and I can't sleep. We just took our oldest (8 years old) to the vet today (well...technically yesterday I guess) because he is on heart medication for an enlarged heart and they wanted to check up on him to see how he was handling it. We were told he now has cataracts developing. Every single time we take him to the vet there seems to be something wrong. He now has slipped discs...three being in his neck. An enlarged heart. His leg was never the same after he tore his ACL and had the surgery and now he is going to be going blind. He's only 8 years old. Today I walked in and sat on the couch. The youngest (he is 19 months) jumped up and the oldest (who had no problem jumping up) just stared at me. I started to cry. I reached down, picked him up, and held him in my lap just petting him for a good hour. It sounds morbid but all I could think was how some day I wouldn't be able to do that anymore. I never thought of him dying or anything like that until now when everything seems to be going wrong. I am terrified he's going to go blind. I ask my friends who have dogs that had cataracts how long it took and they all say it took a few months which just scares me. We can't afford surgery if he needs it. I told my dad he can take my account that has money meant for tuition and pay that way and I would gladly put some of purses onto ebay. The other night my mom was laying with him in bed and we wer talking about how terrible it would be when something happened to him and I had asked that if he continued with his episodes (related to the slipped discs...he walks hunched over, can't hold his neck up, shakes uncontrollably, can't even pick him up when he gets that way, he won't hide...if you do pick him up and lay him down, he will stay the way you laid him down because it hurts him too much to move...and then he gets pain killers in him and he's a whole new doggie lol) did she think he'd be put down and for the first time she was like "i don't know" whereas before it used to be "noooo don't worry about it" That scared the crap out of me and I started to cry. It's like I am beginning to realize my dog is getting old and that him leaving sooner is becoming a reality. He's 8 years old with these health problems. I was told Yorkies could live till they're 18 and I had always believed that and now I just don't see how that could possibly happen when he's now having all kinds of problem and it just seems to grow. He's like my child. When something does happen to him I am going to be absolutely devastated. I don't know how I'd get through it. My dogs are like my children and I cannot imagine the pain. When my friend lost her dog I didn't know what to say. I just put myself in her place and wondered what I would want people to say to me...and I realized that there would be nothing anyone could say to me to take away pain like that. I sound absolutely crazy but it's true. It would tear my heart out when something does happen. Sorry...just venting. I can't sleep. It's silly that something like cataracts has me feeling like this...but it just seems like he keeps having more and more wrong with him and I am beginning to realize he's older now and they don't live forever and that is so upsetting. anyone else go through this before that can give me advice on how to not think like this and how to not freak out like this? it's exhausting! sorry --Sissa
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08-01-2006, 11:13 PM | #2 |
I Love My Lil' Punkin's Donating Member | Love him like you've never loved him before... Awww sweetie!!! I totally feel your pain. I just lost my Cocker Spaniel in January that I had for over 11 years and to be 100% honest, words cannot even describe how I felt. There is literally no way that I can type what I felt into text. It just isn't possible. However, let me tell you this. PLEASE don't spend all your time (and trust me, I know it is hard as hell) worrying about "something happening"...you really do need to enjoy every minute you have with them. My Cocker also had an enlarged heart, as well as Lung Cancer, Arthritis, she was deaf, completely blind in one eye, and about 90% blind in the other. However, even with all those terrible problems, she was still the best dog in the world, and she acted just like herself, like she always did, until her very last day. July 19th hit the 6 month mark since her passing exactly. I still sleep with her toy monkey every single night. I'll never stop. I feel like she is with me when I hold it close, next to my heart. I won't go into detail about what happened when she passed, as it is an extremely long story, and one that is still WAY too painful for me to talk about. It is still so fresh in my mind...and when I start talking about it, I break down. I am already crying now. However, my whole point of this post was to tell you to please...PLEASE, just enjoy every minute you have with your precious baby. I HOPE and PRAY that the Lord allows him to stay with you for many more years to come, but let me tell you, you will SO regret spending all your days worry about "what if" when God does in fact decide to take him. It will eat you up inside. I spent the last several months with my Cocker, doing nothing but worrying, crying, being sad, upset, and just over all miserable because I knew her heath was seriously declining...when ALL I should have been doing was loving her, hugging her, kissing her, laying with her, sleeping with her, and spending AS MUCH time with her as possible. You WANT these moments...you NEED these moments...because once they are gone, you won't get them back. You have to look at it this way, him being blind isn't a wonderful thing, and it isn't something that any one of us would wish on our loving pets...but it ISN'T the worst thing either. HUMAN BEINGS live every single day never to see a thing, and they do just fine. He will be fine as well. There are things much worse that could happen. He can live and be totally happy and healthy even without having his vision. Honestly, this is how you have to look at it... So what is my best advice to you right now? Simply this. LOVE HIM.
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08-02-2006, 04:08 AM | #3 |
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08-02-2006, 04:25 AM | #4 |
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| I can't imagine what you must be going through. My prayers are with you. |
08-02-2006, 06:33 AM | #5 |
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| Love - Love - Love Just Love Him and Hold Him and Kiss Him ALL THE TIME! Try and stay strong, no matter what happens, the LOVE you have for him and the LOVE he has for you will ALWAYS BE THERE. The best thing you can do it just try to keep him comfortable and safe and EXTREMELY LOVED. He will also give that right back to you! |
08-02-2006, 07:00 AM | #6 |
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| I know exactly how you are feeling. At least, I think I do. I've been in much the same place four times in my life and you're right that there really is nothing anyone can say to make things better. You just have to be brave and try to deal with your feelings as they come. Don't let your emotions rob you of precious time with your baby. Spend the time well and don't let them see your grief, because they do pick up on your feelings. This is something that we all have to deal with. All living things will die someday. Our grandparents pass on and then our parents. It seems a lot different when our little yorkies pass on, because they are our babies and to us they seem so young, even when they are not. It isn't fair, but that is life and there isn't any magic pill that will take the pain in life away. Bless you!
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08-02-2006, 07:07 AM | #7 | |
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08-02-2006, 07:57 AM | #8 |
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| I know that it is very hard to see your baby getting old! I went through it with my first baby a few years ago. I was lucky that I had 17 years with her! Her last few years she was blind, and she still had a very good life. I still took her with me most of the places I went, and would just let her know if there was something to watch out for. She got pretty good when I said "be careful" to know there was either a step or something she might run into. As she got older, I kept her at home where she was familiar with the surroundings. When I could tell that her "quality of life" wasn't good, I made the decision I had to, and let her go. Many people suggested that I get her the surgery so she could see -- but I felt that it would be harder on her, as I couldn't explain why she was going to the vet, and why I was putting her through the pain of surgery and recovery. She gave me 17 wonderful years, and my memories of her are of all the good times and laughter she gave me. As everyone else has said -- enjoy the time you have with your baby... give them lots of love and attention, and when it's time, you know you have given your baby the best life ever! |
08-02-2006, 09:18 AM | #9 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Greensboro, NC
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| I have been in your situation. My little Bridget developed diabetis, cataracts, severe arthritis and eventually dementia. The diabetis and the cataracts were not nearly as bad as the dementia. Believe it or not, the blindness, was not a huge issue. She seemed to know where she was going. She came to me when called, but she no longer could jump up on the bed due to arthritis and she had problems going up and down the front steps. But once in the house, there really were no serious problems. I was very surprised at that. So, just love her and enjoy her. She will still enjoy being with you. When Bridget's pain and dementia became bad, I had no choice but to put her down. The very saddest day of my life. Ellie |
08-02-2006, 09:41 AM | #10 |
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| Zsa Zsa started having cataracts at 8 years old , by 9 she was completely blind . She had others old age conditions . It never stopped her to do her things . The only things that I have been advised it to let the furnitures exactly where they were because she was guiding herself by the scent that she placed on them when she started to have cataracts . |
08-02-2006, 10:37 AM | #11 |
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| Sissa, I am sorry you are going through such difficult times worring about your baby. Some things are just out of our control. Make the best of it with the time you have left with him. He could be with you for many years to come. Just love him and make him comfortable. He is lucky to be in such a loving, caring home with someone who will give him the love he deserves. Be strong for him and take care of yourself. He's needs you! |
08-02-2006, 12:28 PM | #12 | |
I Love My Lil' Punkin's Donating Member | My point exactly... Quote:
Exactly right. I was going to include this very statement in my post, but I forgot to. I came back on today so that I could add it, but I see that someone else already has. Our babies REALLY DO sense what we are feeling. They are alot smarter than even WE think they are. They can very easily tell when something is wrong by the way we act around them, so please try to act as normal as possible around your little guy. You don't want him getting sad, upset, worried, scared, or depressed because he senses that you are. If we ACT like something is wrong, they are going to KNOW that something is wrong. So please, please...try your hardest to act as if things are the way as they always were. It's in the best interest of your sweet baby boy.
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08-02-2006, 12:32 PM | #13 | |
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I feel for you! My heart just ached when I read this! You are in my thoughts and prayers. Take care of yourself and that sweet baby of yours!
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08-02-2006, 12:48 PM | #14 |
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| My Chloe is not yet 3 and recently had a bizarre set of illnesses that I literally can tell from looking at her that she probably will not live as long as "they" tell us. P lease try to enjoy the time you have because all of life has good times and bad for everyone. I am so sorry your little furbaby has had a tough time and I pray that things will get better. |
08-02-2006, 06:24 PM | #15 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: ohio
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| it's just upsetting when you hear you have yorkies living till they're 18 and look forward to the so many years left and then here he is at 8 and he's already having serious problems. it just tears me apart. nobody understands unless you have a dog just what it's like. it really is like having a child. thanks everyone
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