Denise,
I have to chime in here. I have read most of the posts, but not all. I just wanted to let you know that you are not the only one that has had to give up a pet. It is obvious that it is painful for you. I am glad that you are looking into references etc for the home you will place him in. YOU ARE NOT A BAD PERSON!
I had to give up my little girl Bichon named Clarabelle Majic 10 years ago this month. I had 3 dogs at the time, she was 3 years old and well trained but my work schedule changed and I went to 12 hr shift work and not a regular schedule. She suffered separation anxiety severely. I dealt with it for a year and tried many different solutions, and it was a very tough decision for me but I knew she needed a home with someone home most of the time. I interviewed over 10 potential new owners in their homes and found a wonderful work from home family that she was perfect for. I cried and cried the day I let her go, and struggled with the decision but I know she was better taken care of and got the attention she deserved that I could not give her. I would think since Parker is still so young it will be better to do it now than later. And since the new home will know the isssues you have had with him and be willing to deal with it, you should feel good that you are putting him into a good home.
I think it is harder on us then the furbaby. He will have an adjustment, but with love and attention, he will adapt. My girl just couldn't adapt to my work schedule like the other 2 did, and the guilt I felt over that outweighed the guilt in letting her go. I still have a large portrait of her over my desk in my office and think of her often, but I know it was in her best interest.
Just wanted to share and say I hope it all works out well for you and little Parker and remember, if you are giving him to a GOOD home that is what matters most.
I was able to visit Clarabelle a few times and she was so different and happy it made my heart warm. I am the type who says when I get an animal I commit to caring for him/her for life, as I have a Bichon who was recently diagnosed with diabetes and requires insulin daily and special needs as well. I now in my careeer can adapt my work schedule to meet my furbabys needs, But sometimes, you just have to do what you know in your heart is the best thing. So do what you know is best and don't let some peoples opinion hurt you or make you think you are bad. They are just voicing opinions. As we all have them
Take care
PS Parker is a beautiful little guy.
MaryKay
Mom to AprilLove, Bailey and Bitsy-Roo