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lilannie · 04-26-2006, 07:10 AM

For me it depends on how long I will be visiting and who I am visiting. A few days ago I was talking to my older sister on the phone. She is a busy gal, and has never really owned a pet, so her and I are different when it comes to where pets stand in our lives. She lives at the opposite end of the country, we were talking about a visit I am planning for this summer. I told her that I am planning on bringing my baby, as well as my 8 and 12 year old sons.....she said to me "well we have a problem"....I was thinking "oh ya here we go"...then she went on to say, "in my apartment building they don't allow......KIDS!.." LOL, I thought she was going to say dogs, but she was teasing me about the kids....she knows how much my dogs mean to me, and she likes to tease me about it, but deep down she understands. If she had said that my babe wasn't allowed, I would have cancelled the trip, mostly because that it was to long for him to be without us, he is still too young.
If I am going to a friends for coffee, Bailey stays home, for 2reasons, he is not housebroken completely, and I am not spending the whole visit following him around the house worrying, It is good for him to have short periods alone, without us (I am a stay at home mom, so he rarely is left alone).
I think everyone has a right to say who can and can not be welcome in their home, I take every occassion and visit one at a time, and judge from there whether I think it is something to push or just let it go.

typerk · 04-26-2006, 08:28 AM

If someone else's dog has an accident on my floor then that dog is absolutely no longer welcome in my home. I think a lot of us have to realize that dogs just aren't accepted everywhere, even little dogs.

Lacy's Mom · 04-26-2006, 09:20 AM

I'm not sure if you're talking about a visit in the same town or an out of town visit. If it's just a visit across town why can't you leave your baby home. Dogs do tend to forget their potty training when they are around other dogs and in someone else's home.

My niece just had her first baby, my first great niece. I would sure hate to think I missed out on this experience.

prncssleah · 04-26-2006, 10:17 AM

My hubby and I decided before we got our pups that we would not take them to anyone's house unless they were specifically invited. And even then we would probably question it. Our reasons were mainly that we both have family members that bring their dogs with them without asking or they ask and the hosts feel like that have to say yes. It has been awkward for the host everytime and I would hate to put anyone in that position. Part of enjoying my family and friends is make sure that everyone is comfortable and quite honestly if I'm in someone else's house I will be more preoccupied with watching my babies than enjoying the company.

I understand that you are frustrated with your neice since you have done so much for her and her puppy, but unfortunately she may not recognize all that you have done and her household rules for dogs may simply be different than your's were for her puppy. However, I certainly wouldn't allow this to harm your relationship with her. I hope that it all works out.

Hickey007 · 04-26-2006, 12:21 PM

Well I have to say that if I was in your shoes on this one I would be a little ticked. I guess the fact that her dog has been in your home and peed on your floor then her getting mad at you/your dog is a little strange to me. However I guess since it is a new apartment she might be worried but still if its good enough for your house it should be good enough for hers. What makes her house so special?

Now in normal circumstances, I just don't take my dog to someone's house. As a matter of fact she has only been in one other home beside mine and that is my mother-in-laws and they insist on letting my bloodhound in their house when we take her over with the intentions of just letting her run around outside. We still don't let her (the bloodhound) go in even though they hold the door open for her to come in. Reagan, my yorkie, and all my other animals for that matter are MINE, not anyone elses. So if someone doesn't want them in their house who am I to get mad, they didn't get the dog I did. And even though I have had Reagan and all my other dogs pee on my floor while they were in the housebreaking stage that is something I chose. I chose to get the dog therefore I chose to let accidents happen on my floor. I didn't choose for someone else's dog to have accidents on my floor, so even though I have dogs, and one inside, I'm still wary of people bringing their dogs in my house, especially when/if they have an accident.

Smudgers_mum · 04-26-2006, 12:43 PM

In your case I don't think it's very fair. But I do get quite annoyed when my dad brings his dog around when it's been for a walk in the rain. The walls get filthy and I have to wipe them down etc

also they get really excited and jump all over my settee and it has a few scratches on it now. AND IT'S BRAND NEW !!

But in your case I think you are right to get upset

GeorgiesMomma · 04-26-2006, 01:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Smudgers_mum

In your case I don't think it's very fair. But I do get quite annoyed when my dad brings his dog around when it's been for a walk in the rain. The walls get filthy and I have to wipe them down etc

also they get really excited and jump all over my settee and it has a few scratches on it now. AND IT'S BRAND NEW !!

But in your case I think you are right to get upset

Thanks and I promise everyone I don't just bring him to people's houses if he isn't welcome. But my neices house is the last house I would have thought this would be a problem. Thanks for all the advice, I am just going to let it blow over and keep letting her apologizing LOL

baby03 · 04-29-2006, 07:06 PM

I will leave my Baby if I am going for a couple of hours, but if its a weekend thing or overnight I won't do it. I just don't go where she's not welcomed. She means to much to me to board her or have someone watch her. I'd be to worried for her. Shes awfully small and I have to take care of her. I understand your hurt. Maybe in time when your niece settles in she'll come around.

artie merlino · 04-30-2006, 09:59 AM

My own Mother is not a "Dog Person" she in fact does not like any types of Pets/Animals near her or even in her house, but I had to live with her 4 months. She absolutely fell in love with my 2 yr. male Artie, he is so well trained and socialized that she couldn't help it. He stayed up every night with her, I think he made an effort to convince her. If I have company and they bring their pets and they happen to have an accident......I do not hold it against either one of them, under any circumstances. I used to babysit a 5 yr. old female, that had never been house trained @ all. She was a challenge but I never scolded her, I just cleaned it up and mentioned it to her owner.
I would NEVER go where WE are not welcomed, if any friends or family do not want my Dog than they don't really want to be around me! Once anyone in my Family meets Artie they all want a Yorkie!

04-26-2006, 07:10 AM	#31
lilannie Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Alberta, Canada Posts: 338	For me it depends on how long I will be visiting and who I am visiting. A few days ago I was talking to my older sister on the phone. She is a busy gal, and has never really owned a pet, so her and I are different when it comes to where pets stand in our lives. She lives at the opposite end of the country, we were talking about a visit I am planning for this summer. I told her that I am planning on bringing my baby, as well as my 8 and 12 year old sons.....she said to me "well we have a problem"....I was thinking "oh ya here we go"...then she went on to say, "in my apartment building they don't allow......KIDS!.." LOL, I thought she was going to say dogs, but she was teasing me about the kids....she knows how much my dogs mean to me, and she likes to tease me about it, but deep down she understands. If she had said that my babe wasn't allowed, I would have cancelled the trip, mostly because that it was to long for him to be without us, he is still too young. If I am going to a friends for coffee, Bailey stays home, for 2reasons, he is not housebroken completely, and I am not spending the whole visit following him around the house worrying, It is good for him to have short periods alone, without us (I am a stay at home mom, so he rarely is left alone). I think everyone has a right to say who can and can not be welcome in their home, I take every occassion and visit one at a time, and judge from there whether I think it is something to push or just let it go. __________________ "To err is human, to forgive, Canine." Proud Mom of Bailey and Copper

04-26-2006, 08:28 AM	#32
typerk YT Addict Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Irving, TX Posts: 252	If someone else's dog has an accident on my floor then that dog is absolutely no longer welcome in my home. I think a lot of us have to realize that dogs just aren't accepted everywhere, even little dogs. __________________ http://www.dogster.com/?156534.

04-26-2006, 10:17 AM	#34
prncssleah YT Addict Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Hartsville, SC Posts: 263	My hubby and I decided before we got our pups that we would not take them to anyone's house unless they were specifically invited. And even then we would probably question it. Our reasons were mainly that we both have family members that bring their dogs with them without asking or they ask and the hosts feel like that have to say yes. It has been awkward for the host everytime and I would hate to put anyone in that position. Part of enjoying my family and friends is make sure that everyone is comfortable and quite honestly if I'm in someone else's house I will be more preoccupied with watching my babies than enjoying the company. I understand that you are frustrated with your neice since you have done so much for her and her puppy, but unfortunately she may not recognize all that you have done and her household rules for dogs may simply be different than your's were for her puppy. However, I certainly wouldn't allow this to harm your relationship with her. I hope that it all works out. __________________ Leah, mom to Tank the Yorkie & Buckeye the Boston www.dlparr.com

04-26-2006, 12:21 PM	#35
Hickey007 YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Alabama Posts: 789	Well I have to say that if I was in your shoes on this one I would be a little ticked. I guess the fact that her dog has been in your home and peed on your floor then her getting mad at you/your dog is a little strange to me. However I guess since it is a new apartment she might be worried but still if its good enough for your house it should be good enough for hers. What makes her house so special? Now in normal circumstances, I just don't take my dog to someone's house. As a matter of fact she has only been in one other home beside mine and that is my mother-in-laws and they insist on letting my bloodhound in their house when we take her over with the intentions of just letting her run around outside. We still don't let her (the bloodhound) go in even though they hold the door open for her to come in. Reagan, my yorkie, and all my other animals for that matter are MINE, not anyone elses. So if someone doesn't want them in their house who am I to get mad, they didn't get the dog I did. And even though I have had Reagan and all my other dogs pee on my floor while they were in the housebreaking stage that is something I chose. I chose to get the dog therefore I chose to let accidents happen on my floor. I didn't choose for someone else's dog to have accidents on my floor, so even though I have dogs, and one inside, I'm still wary of people bringing their dogs in my house, especially when/if they have an accident. __________________ Courtney Last edited by Hickey007; 04-26-2006 at 12:23 PM.

04-26-2006, 12:43 PM	#36
Smudgers_mum YT Addict Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: manchester UK Posts: 374	In your case I don't think it's very fair. But I do get quite annoyed when my dad brings his dog around when it's been for a walk in the rain. The walls get filthy and I have to wipe them down etc also they get really excited and jump all over my settee and it has a few scratches on it now. AND IT'S BRAND NEW !! But in your case I think you are right to get upset __________________ XX Jo and Smudger XX

04-26-2006, 09:20 AM	#33
Lacy's Mom YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: El Paso, Texas Posts: 3,065	I'm not sure if you're talking about a visit in the same town or an out of town visit. If it's just a visit across town why can't you leave your baby home. Dogs do tend to forget their potty training when they are around other dogs and in someone else's home. My niece just had her first baby, my first great niece. I would sure hate to think I missed out on this experience.

04-29-2006, 07:06 PM	#38
baby03 Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: us Posts: 2,255	I will leave my Baby if I am going for a couple of hours, but if its a weekend thing or overnight I won't do it. I just don't go where she's not welcomed. She means to much to me to board her or have someone watch her. I'd be to worried for her. Shes awfully small and I have to take care of her. I understand your hurt. Maybe in time when your niece settles in she'll come around.

04-30-2006, 09:59 AM	#39
artie merlino YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Myrtle Beach,SC Posts: 697	I agree! My own Mother is not a "Dog Person" she in fact does not like any types of Pets/Animals near her or even in her house, but I had to live with her 4 months. She absolutely fell in love with my 2 yr. male Artie, he is so well trained and socialized that she couldn't help it. He stayed up every night with her, I think he made an effort to convince her. If I have company and they bring their pets and they happen to have an accident......I do not hold it against either one of them, under any circumstances. I used to babysit a 5 yr. old female, that had never been house trained @ all. She was a challenge but I never scolded her, I just cleaned it up and mentioned it to her owner. I would NEVER go where WE are not welcomed, if any friends or family do not want my Dog than they don't really want to be around me! Once anyone in my Family meets Artie they all want a Yorkie!