If my Dog can't come I am not going...

[SnowWa]

Oh for heaven's sake -- I should have told you... Whenever I take my little boy visiting. I take a stack of washclothes (his) and use them for belly bands. I just fold one diagonally and wrap it tightly around his tummy and pin it with a diaper pin. It works great. Of course, I still keep my eye on him, and whenever he gets "damp," I put a dry one on.

This way none of has to worry and my little Murphy can have free run of anyone's house.

And - washclothes are very inexpensive.

Carol Jean

[xBUTTERCUPx]

your niece is being totally unreasonable. you have done so much for her and she doesn't welcome your little one at her home. my mother doesn't like me bringing Buttercup inside her house and every time I visit, I just let him run around in her backyard and she's totally fine with it.

[MyTrixie143]

I always take all of my dogs with me when I go to visit family or friends. Not all of them have dogs, but they are very understanding and know that if I my dogs are not welcome then I will not be going there. Sure they have had a couple of accidents, but they don't mind, they know how I feel about my babies and are great about it. I would be upset too, if someone had a fit like that and did not welcome my dogs.

[Kizzys Mom]

Originally Posted by GeorgiesMomma

My question is am I wrong to feel like if George isn't welcome at someone in my families house then I don't want to go there either? The reason I asked this is because my neice got a new apartment and I took George over there on Saturday. She has a Yorkie Oliver who is 2 1/2 and I have done a ton for him including babysit him, bath him, feed him, cloth him, buy him toys and clean up after him when he has accidents (both #1&#2) which up until about 2 months ago he still wasn't house trained. Anyways long story short my Georgie who is almost 11 months (and completely trained at home) had a couple of accidents, and she went nuts I mean completely crazy on me. So now I feel like if he isn't welcome then I won't be going over there either. I guess I could understand her position more if she didn't have a dog or if I didn't do so much for her dog. Am I overreacting?

I'm sorry but I have to disagree. In this particular case, yes I can understand YOU being upset since you've done all this for her and her puppy. But to others who always take their dog or not go, I can't understand that. I have my yorkie and I love it but that doesnt mean everyone else cares or even likes dogs. So if I go visit I leave her a home. It is after all the other persons HOME, and they are after all PEOPLE that are actually born to live in houses. To me dogs werent really meant to stay in the house if people dont want them there. I've lost too many family members to refuse to go see one without my dog. I understand people loving their dogs like their kids but if you ever lose a child you will understand, losing a dog is nothing compared. So to me family and friends come first. Not trying to be mean here but some people just take it too far for me about dogs. Love is love but not everyone loves their dog more than their family. I for one would never take her unless I knew it was fine with them. I would always ask before I brought my dog into anyones house. Some people are just not fond of dogs in their homes, which I prefer other people not to bring theirs to my home unless they have permission from me first. sorry

[livingdustmops]

Originally Posted by livingdustmops

Poor you - I would be mad also but it is family and that won't help. These panties are the best (not cheap) but perfect for our little ones. You got them covered and it looks like they are wearing jumpers.

http://www.joybies.com/pagedog.html

P.S. I just put a woman's light day pad in them

[ssmiles1980A]

I Dont think you are wrong at all, I feel the same way as you, if my dogs cant stay then neither do we, i wouldnt have it any other way .

[hunniebunnie]

i think in your particular instance it's a little different since it's family.
but in general, i always check with the host of a home i'm visiting to see if bunjee's invited too. if he is, then i bring belly bands, potty pads, cleanser, etc basically every effort to keep him accident free. if he isn't welcome to a home for any reason, i would hold that against the host and refuse an invitation. the host is entitled to manage their home however they'd like whether they have a pet already or not. jmho.

[romeos mommy]

if romeo isn't welcome then you just don't get the pleasure of seeing me. he is my baby. i've taken enough crap from friends and relatives kids. my nephew , who i adore, puked all over my living room. my nieces ,who i adore too, spilled soda all over the interior of my new car. crap happens. if romeo has a lil accident oh well. anyway , he usually stays on my lap when we go anywhere.

[Kathryn_V]

I'd have a hard time enjoying myself somewhere that my girls are not welcome....

I am physco about keeping the girls off of the carpet! Cause they are not house trained yet! And my mom brings her Chi over... Who is not House trained... She lets hers pee all over the house at home! She has throw rugs all over and she washes them every week... It also smells like S#@T in her house! I flip out when she puts her Chi down on my carpet! She starts sniffing around and I leap up to grab her! I have tried explaining that I don't even let my OWN dogs run the house.... Why would I let hers?? I welcome hers but only if she can respect my rules! If she took measures.... I don't know... I have not said that her dog is not welcome yet... but boy I am close!! But not because of the dog... its the owner!!! lol

I think that if you are making an effort to protect her home... then she is way out of line... Especially if she is not extending the same to you!!!

[cheryl000]

Do you think that possibly she thinks you have different "house rules" than she does? Maybe she thinks that in your house it is "okay" for her dog to have accidents, but in her house she doesn't want to deal with accidents. Maybe after so long she has got it in her mind that it's okay. Sometimes people assume things after a while.
Here is an example: At my mom's house everyone knows they HAVE to take their shoes off at the door, she goes nuts on people if they don't. So everytime I go there I do it. But when we go to my house I don't mind people wearing thier shoes (because I rent.) When she comes over I don't make her take off her shoes, she just does it sometimes out of habit.
The point I am getting at is maybe she just thinks that you don't see it accidents in the house as a big deal and she does because of the new carpet. I really think that you guys should talk, it could just be a misunderstanding!

[GeorgiesMomma]

Originally Posted by cheryl000

Do you think that possibly she thinks you have different "house rules" than she does? Maybe she thinks that in your house it is "okay" for her dog to have accidents, but in her house she doesn't want to deal with accidents. Maybe after so long she has got it in her mind that it's okay. Sometimes people assume things after a while.
Here is an example: At my mom's house everyone knows they HAVE to take their shoes off at the door, she goes nuts on people if they don't. So everytime I go there I do it. But when we go to my house I don't mind people wearing thier shoes (because I rent.) When she comes over I don't make her take off her shoes, she just does it sometimes out of habit.
The point I am getting at is maybe she just thinks that you don't see it accidents in the house as a big deal and she does because of the new carpet. I really think that you guys should talk, it could just be a misunderstanding!

I think you are right about her thinking that my house it's okay for her dog to have accidents, but not vice versa. I might be being a little too hard on her she is younger. I think the problem is I ASSumed since we have been so open to her dog that she would be do the same in return to ours. I don't normally take George to everyone's house, although I think most people in my family wouldn't mind. However, her house was the last house that I thought it would ever be a problem.

[woodturningcrea]

Originally Posted by SnowWa

GeorgiesMomma --- Not to worry. This is a very common syndrome - and anhy of us may catch it sometime. It is called "new apartmentitis" or sometimes "new houseitis."

It doesn't last forever - sometimes only a few weeks or a month or two and then it goes away. It just wears off and everything goes back to normal.

You should never hold a grudge against any women suffering from this malady. Remember the day may come when you have it yourself.

Just be patient, understanding, and as sweet as you can be...... This always works best. And often - after a while - you may find yourself getting an apology - these are fun to get!

I so know this malady myself. In fact until Punkin I didn't like dogs and I did not want one myself or one visiting in my home.

It wasn't her dog making the mess so it wasn't ok. I would just quietly let it go - wouldn't want to make a family fued out of it. I bet she will come around.

I do try my best to ask if it's ok if I bring Punkin visiting - and I do warn of potential accidents. I can always tell if someone is saying yes because they feel they have to. At these times I choose to leave Punkin home.

Just my opinions...

[yougetthesmiles]

Originally Posted by GeorgiesMomma

My question is am I wrong to feel like if George isn't welcome at someone in my families house then I don't want to go there either? The reason I asked this is because my neice got a new apartment and I took George over there on Saturday. She has a Yorkie Oliver who is 2 1/2 and I have done a ton for him including babysit him, bath him, feed him, cloth him, buy him toys and clean up after him when he has accidents (both #1&#2) which up until about 2 months ago he still wasn't house trained. Anyways long story short my Georgie who is almost 11 months (and completely trained at home) had a couple of accidents, and she went nuts I mean completely crazy on me. So now I feel like if he isn't welcome then I won't be going over there either. I guess I could understand her position more if she didn't have a dog or if I didn't do so much for her dog. Am I overreacting?

I agree, that if your baby is not welcomed, then your not welcomed either. When you take a dog to someone elses house and they have pets, more then likely your dog is going to mark, simple way to prevent this is , put a diaper on your dog, that way if he does potty, you are safe from being embarresed. Hope everything works out for you!

[JiggityJig]

I don't even have my puppy yet (counting the days!) but I already know that I'm going to hate to go ANYWHERE without her.

However, I agree with the poster who said, let's give ourselves a little reality check....our pets, however beloved, ARE 'just' animals. Hopefully none of us would let otherwise happy and beneficial human relationships go to ruin over whether or not someone wanted a dog at their house (their right and their choice, whether we agree or not.)

I have a huge lab who is the absolute apple of our eye, and a big part of my son's life, and luckily my mom loves her too, and loves her to come along with us when we visit. My dad....not so much. He's just not a dog person. If he became a stickler on the point, and told me that I couldn't bring my dog over there anymore, would I turn my back on him, or spend any less time with them? NO!

(however, we all may have family and "friends" that we might WANT to use this as an excuse to distance ourselves from! )

As for the original poster and the situation with her niece....given all the details of that situation, I certainly do understand why it would tick you off! I think you're probably right to chalk it up to age and immaturity. And maybe she was PMSing or something.

[Tophersmom]

I'm afraid I agree with Kizzy's mom and Jiggityjig on this one. I always ask if Topher is allowed to come, and if it's a situation where the hostess thinks it would be best if he stay home, I don't worry about it. It is her home after all. Most of my friends have dogs, so it's never usually a problem, but I do have some friends who aren't dog people and that's okay. I can't expect everyone in the world to love yorkies as much as I do!

And though I do love my little yorkie boy, my people friends and family do come first...we, too have lost many, many family members unfortunately, (my husband lost his whole family) and the ones remaining are very precious to us.