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Old 06-01-2018, 04:02 PM   #1
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Unhappy How soon?

Ok, we had to put Porsche to sleep 5 weeks ago. She was over 14, and we found out she had kidney failure. She had already stopped eating and drinking. We also lost Bentley about 7 months previously due to the same diagnosis. So, anyway, we are totally without any furbabies in our house after 14+ years with my babies. How soon do you think is too soon to bring in new babies to the house? Oh yeah, I also recently retired and am searching for a new spark in my life. I am having difficulty adjusting to this new life. Am I crazy to want a dog so soon to fill the hole in my heart??
Do I need more time to mourn?
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Old 06-01-2018, 04:21 PM   #2
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There is no set time to get another baby, everyone is different. IMO a fur baby helps you heal the loss of your seniors. I don't see anything wrong with getting another pup or rescue. I say go for it, fill that empty hole in your heart and give another baby a wonderful, loving home.
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Old 06-01-2018, 06:28 PM   #3
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That really is up to you and how you feel. Iím also so very sorry for your loss. Iím the type of person who canít be pup less and need the companion and distraction.
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Old 06-01-2018, 06:50 PM   #4
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I am so sorry for your loss! The decision about when to open your heart to a new little one is different for each of us, but my husband and I have found that it helps us to bring a new baby into our family very early on. Caring for a puppy which requires attention and love helps us avoid feeling completely overwhelmed by grief. Of course we still mourn our lost companion(s), but find that we are able to move through to the stage where we can share the happy memories.

We have also found that our pets have appreciated having a new friend...once the "introduction" period is over. Our little white poodle, Beau, lost two of his best friends during his time with us, but you can see him cuddled in his bed with his new brothers.

If your heart tells you that you are ready to welcome a new little one to love, I would urge you to open yourself to the possibility.
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If you think you need to get a new furbaby now just do it. They are such wonderful companions and definitely take our minds off any problems we might be having. They need our attention and love and it sounds like you need to give love and receive love from a new puppy. I say GO FOR IT!
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I understand exactly how you feel. I just lost my 13 year old Yorkie who had been my true companion, as I live alone in a job that requires a lot of travel.... I feel like a need a new dog and the joy and companionship they bring. At the same time I feel guilty even thinking about it, though she is gone I dont want my little baby/myself to feel like I am just replacing her and thats that... Dont now if this helps you at all but guess its at least good to know you have others that understand.
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Thank you all for your replies, you have been immensly helpful.
I just dont know to deal with the feeling of guilt, I dont want to feel like Im replacing my baby, have any of you struggled with that?
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You can never replace a beloved companion, she will remain in your heart forever. Don't deny yourself the love a fur baby brings to you. There should be no feelings of guilt, you gave your baby all your love and she knew this, she always tried to please you and see you smile at her, she would want you to be happy. No two yorkies are alike, they have different personalities and quirky little ways, she will be loved for the dog she is, not for the one you lost. I hope one day you will open your heart again to another yorkie baby and love her for the dog that she is.
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When I lost my baby Boomer suddenly I started looking right away. It took me about a month to find Bella. Some thought it was too soon but I always wanted two dogs in my household.

Thumper was heartbroken about losing his brother and was not doing well as a single dog. He perked right up when I brought Bella home. The rescue group did have concerns about it being too soon and not wanting me to replaces Boomer too quickly but I assured them that was not the case.

With all this said it is never too soon to get another dog. Each person is different and only you know when the right time is for you. I am would have more yorkies if I could and am always looking to see which ones are available in my area for adoption on petfinder.com.

I still think about Boomer each and every day. I miss him terribly even though I only had him for a short period before he passed. Bella is a wonderful dog but cannot replace Boomer. I love her with all my heart in a different way. A new dog can bring such joy to a household. I say go for it if you feel lonely.
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When I lost my baby Boomer suddenly I started looking right away. It took me about a month to find Bella. Some thought it was too soon but I always wanted two dogs in my household.

Thumper was heartbroken about losing his brother and was not doing well as a single dog. He perked right up when I brought Bella home. The rescue group did have concerns about it being too soon and not wanting me to replaces Boomer too quickly but I assured them that was not the case.

With all this said it is never too soon to get another dog. Each person is different and only you know when the right time is for you. I am would have more yorkies if I could and am always looking to see which ones are available in my area for adoption on petfinder.com.

I still think about Boomer each and every day. I miss him terribly even though I only had him for a short period before he passed. Bella is a wonderful dog but cannot replace Boomer. I love her with all my heart in a different way. A new dog can bring such joy to a household. I say go for it if you feel lonely.
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Well, I am watching the rescues. I hope one will call to my heart. Porsche was a gift at the ridiculous age of 6 weeks, and Bentley was given to me by a friend who couldn't care for him anymore. I didn't choose them, but they won my heart immediately.

Thank you for all of your support. My heart goes out to all those who have also lost their furbabies. It is an ache that doesn't stop.
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Old 06-02-2018, 06:24 PM   #12
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You can never replace a beloved companion, she will remain in your heart forever. Don't deny yourself the love a fur baby brings to you. There should be no feelings of guilt, you gave your baby all your love and she knew this, she always tried to please you and see you smile at her, she would want you to be happy. No two yorkies are alike, they have different personalities and quirky little ways, she will be loved for the dog she is, not for the one you lost. I hope one day you will open your heart again to another yorkie baby and love her for the dog that she is.
Thank you for your response it is very helpful to know that others have felt this way too and have been to open up to a new puppy without feeling like they've replaced the ones no longer with us.

If I do decide to get a new one it will certainly be a Yorkie, that's one thing i am sure of
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When my Shih Tzu died at age 15 I swore I would not have another dog. He was so perfect and had been a loyal companion to me and the family for so long. I could not stand the thought of training a new dog. So we went several months with just the cat. I just could not keep my promise though. I had to have another dog but I decided not to have another Shih Tzu that would remind me of my favorite guy. We ended up getting Gracie and were thrilled with her. She almost trained herself. It's up to you. When your need to share your love with a new fur baby overrides your grief and you feel up to the search for the new baby of the house, then go for it.
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