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Karen456 · 08-30-2015, 05:48 AM

Toby is my second yorkie, my 1st passed away after having him 12 years. Which I thought was very lucky because he had that liver problem.

My new puppy is 4 months old. He loves meeting people and he lets you touch him when you 1st greet him. But after that he doesn't really enjoy being touch. He hates to be brush and even when he is tired he would rather sleep by himself than with any one in the family. If you pick him up and he doesn't want to be he tries to wiggle or jump out of your arms, which could hurt him. My other yorkie if you picked him up, he was like ok cuddle time. He always enjoyed the extra attention. This one wants to play which we do with him, but no cuddle time, he hates it. He has been check out by the vet and is very healthy. So has any one else had a puppy like this? Will he be less distance when he grows older? I know every dog is different, but I wish he would just cuddle a little, he is a non lap dog, lol.

JadeD · 08-30-2015, 06:04 AM

How long have you had him? He may just still be adjusting to a new surrounding. It might take lots of time and patience for him to adjust.

I would keep trying and let him know how much you enjoy holding him, but don't force him for longer than he will accept it. Just do it often and praise him for letting you cuddle him, reward him for a treat if he lets you do it for a little bit, then do it again later.

I hope that as he ages he begins to enjoy the cuddle time. I absolutely love to cuddle with my Yorkies. I have one that would rather lay against my leg than be cuddled most of the time and I enjoy that. Another one likes to cuddle some, just not too much and my daughter's puppy would lay in your lap all day long and likes to be held like a baby.

Good luck!

matese · 08-30-2015, 06:36 AM

Cuddle a 4 month old puppy hahahahaha. They are high energy babies, want to run, wrestle, zoom through house like devil is after their butt, cuddle!!!! lol, do not fear, when he gets a bit older he'll settle down a bit, life is still new to him. You can cuddle him but do not force him to stay, when he wants finished let him go. Not every dog likes to be pet by strangers, but continue to socialize him, he is still a baby. Not every yorkie is the same, they all have diff. personalities. I had 4 yorkies, Cody is my 5th I adopted him at age 2.5 y/o he is now 4 y/o and all had diff. personalities, no two were the same. You cannot compare him to your past yorkie. At 4 months old, if he cannot jump on and off the bed it is dangerous to have him sleep with you, also not a good idea if he is not 100% potty trained. Maybe the heat that generates from your body is to hot for him and reason he chooses to sleep alone. Brushing a 4 month old puppy hahahahaha, it's a battle, they like to bite the brush, the hand, they wiggle around, can't stay still lol. Brush for a few minutes through out the day, yorkies are a high energy pup. Take tiny steps with this little boy, short brushing periods and treats when the brushing is over, he needs to get use to brushing. Patience is a must with this breed. My first 3 yorkies were hyper but manageable, my 4th lol, was a WILD CHILD lol, no cuddles, no brushing, wanted to play, play and more play. By 7 months she settled down and was easier to manage. Keep up with brief cuddle, a few minutes of brushing and a treat, keep up the socialization but do not force him to be pet by strangers if he does not want it. He will change you will see. He just has a lot of puppyness in him let him be a puppy, they grow so fast.

Wylie's Mom · 08-30-2015, 08:44 AM

Every dog is sooo different in terms of how and when they like to cuddle. I do LOVE the total cuddle-bugs, I really do. I would just keep trying, don't give up. Also, try doing massages in different parts of his body to see if he has a sweet spot that makes him melt a bit. Mine also *love* it if you play gently w/ their fur/hair....like by pulling gently on it btwn your fingers...they love that.

Maximo · 08-30-2015, 10:29 AM

As mentioned above, puppies are usually high energy or don't like to feel "trapped" by cuddling. Give him time and let him do things on his terms. My boys prefer cuddling when they are tired after a big walk/outing/play session. They also cuddle and turn all lovey when they are trying to butter me up.

Try giving him a quick cuddle/hug and then let him go on his way. Sweet talk him. Try massage as Ann indicated to find what he likes, but don't trap him into it.

I'm convinced my boys became super affectionate because they know they are free to walk away when they choose.

Maximo · 08-30-2015, 10:36 AM

Two more things: Max preferred to sleep in his doggy bed in his xpen his whole first year. Now he sleeps curled up against me. See how things can change?

Grooming: work with your puppy daily to accept being touched from ear to paw for grooming. Be calm, confident, and patient. Praise and reward when he doesn't resist as much. I tied grooming to going for walks, which was Max's favorite thing in the world. He knew he had to comb his hair and put in his topknot if he wanted to go for a walk.

More on body touching: Teddy did not like to be touched when he was lying down, resting or sleeping. He would get up and move away. Now he loves it! He will even turn over for belly rubs. I will admit that it took him a couple years to change in that regard.

Zoey Zendaya · 08-30-2015, 06:30 PM

All good advice!
My 2nd baby is like that also....a little touch me not scaredy cat....
I just have to be patient and extra careful not to startle her bangin around in kitchen and such or she will run off and hide upstairs behind a door!
Also have to be extra gentle playing ....sometimes my hand will bump her expectantly and she will suddenly stop, glare at me , then take off for her safe place! Make sure they have plenty of those .... And then you need to crawl to them on hands and knees and pant nicely( they love that) showing your not going to hurt them....I swear this all works ...she is really coming around ... Izzy will be 11 months in two weeks....her and Zoey zoom every night before bed and they even let me join in if I sneak up the stairs and pretend to "get them" lol.....plus handle and sweet talk every chance they will let you....izzy comes to me for TLC now and she gets plenty....
Sleeping near me ow in bed helps too....she wants my hand nearby which is amazing.....just takes a little extra effort but do it while they are young...
Good luck

yavenay · 08-31-2015, 06:02 AM

Ditto to what every one else has said. Basically try to stop comparing the two. My last yorkie was a total cuddle bug. If you let her, she would sleep in your lap all day and night. She was my velcro baby

The one I have now is more independent and will cuddle with you for all of 5 minutes. She is 3.5 years old. When I first got her, I was comparing the two and realized that wasn't fair. When I let go of wanting her to be like my first yorkie, the love I have for her exploded 10 times.

Tink04 · 08-31-2015, 08:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Karen456

Toby is my second yorkie, my 1st passed away after having him 12 years. Which I thought was very lucky because he had that liver problem.

My new puppy is 4 months old. He loves meeting people and he lets you touch him when you 1st greet him. But after that he doesn't really enjoy being touch. He hates to be brush and even when he is tired he would rather sleep by himself than with any one in the family. If you pick him up and he doesn't want to be he tries to wiggle or jump out of your arms, which could hurt him. My other yorkie if you picked him up, he was like ok cuddle time. He always enjoyed the extra attention. This one wants to play which we do with him, but no cuddle time, he hates it. He has been check out by the vet and is very healthy. So has any one else had a puppy like this? Will he be less distance when he grows older? I know every dog is different, but I wish he would just cuddle a little, he is a non lap dog, lol.

At 4 months, he may just want to do his "puppy thing" and run, play and be rambunctious. However, I will say my Tinky (11 years old) has never been a cuddler, or snuggler. If I try to pick her up and cuddle, she lets it known she does NOT want it wiggling and trying to get free. She's got her own agenda, I suppose. She will come lay and snuggle with me, but it has to be on HER terms. And she doesn't like for me to pet her when she lays next to me, if I do, she will go to "her" special places. It's all on "Tink-Terms" - lol. She's a particular little girl, but she's my little shadow and follows me wherever I go - I know she loves her mommy, she's just special in her requests and demands

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Best of luck with your little one.

maxdog · 08-31-2015, 11:04 AM

Pick your cuddle times carefully. If you pick him up in the middle of the day when he is in "play" mode, he is not going to instantly turn off the "GO" button. Does he nap at a certain time? Pick him up when you see he is tired and let him fall asleep in your arms. Those are the moments that form the lifetime bonds.

08-30-2015, 05:48 AM	#1
Karen456 YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Aug 2015 Location: RI Posts: 6	does not like to be touched or cuddle Toby is my second yorkie, my 1st passed away after having him 12 years. Which I thought was very lucky because he had that liver problem. My new puppy is 4 months old. He loves meeting people and he lets you touch him when you 1st greet him. But after that he doesn't really enjoy being touch. He hates to be brush and even when he is tired he would rather sleep by himself than with any one in the family. If you pick him up and he doesn't want to be he tries to wiggle or jump out of your arms, which could hurt him. My other yorkie if you picked him up, he was like ok cuddle time. He always enjoyed the extra attention. This one wants to play which we do with him, but no cuddle time, he hates it. He has been check out by the vet and is very healthy. So has any one else had a puppy like this? Will he be less distance when he grows older? I know every dog is different, but I wish he would just cuddle a little, he is a non lap dog, lol.

08-30-2015, 06:04 AM	#2
JadeD YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2015 Location: NC Posts: 1,201 Blog Entries: 1	How long have you had him? He may just still be adjusting to a new surrounding. It might take lots of time and patience for him to adjust. I would keep trying and let him know how much you enjoy holding him, but don't force him for longer than he will accept it. Just do it often and praise him for letting you cuddle him, reward him for a treat if he lets you do it for a little bit, then do it again later. I hope that as he ages he begins to enjoy the cuddle time. I absolutely love to cuddle with my Yorkies. I have one that would rather lay against my leg than be cuddled most of the time and I enjoy that. Another one likes to cuddle some, just not too much and my daughter's puppy would lay in your lap all day long and likes to be held like a baby. Good luck! __________________ It's raining Yorkies here! LOL Teek ,Rowan , Raksha (Grand Puppy) , Raelyn

08-30-2015, 06:36 AM	#3
matese Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2014 Location: E.Stroudsburg, Pa. Posts: 67,952	Cuddle a 4 month old puppy hahahahaha. They are high energy babies, want to run, wrestle, zoom through house like devil is after their butt, cuddle!!!! lol, do not fear, when he gets a bit older he'll settle down a bit, life is still new to him. You can cuddle him but do not force him to stay, when he wants finished let him go. Not every dog likes to be pet by strangers, but continue to socialize him, he is still a baby. Not every yorkie is the same, they all have diff. personalities. I had 4 yorkies, Cody is my 5th I adopted him at age 2.5 y/o he is now 4 y/o and all had diff. personalities, no two were the same. You cannot compare him to your past yorkie. At 4 months old, if he cannot jump on and off the bed it is dangerous to have him sleep with you, also not a good idea if he is not 100% potty trained. Maybe the heat that generates from your body is to hot for him and reason he chooses to sleep alone. Brushing a 4 month old puppy hahahahaha, it's a battle, they like to bite the brush, the hand, they wiggle around, can't stay still lol. Brush for a few minutes through out the day, yorkies are a high energy pup. Take tiny steps with this little boy, short brushing periods and treats when the brushing is over, he needs to get use to brushing. Patience is a must with this breed. My first 3 yorkies were hyper but manageable, my 4th lol, was a WILD CHILD lol, no cuddles, no brushing, wanted to play, play and more play. By 7 months she settled down and was easier to manage. Keep up with brief cuddle, a few minutes of brushing and a treat, keep up the socialization but do not force him to be pet by strangers if he does not want it. He will change you will see. He just has a lot of puppyness in him let him be a puppy, they grow so fast. __________________ Joan, mom to Cody RIP Matese Schnae Kajon Kia forever in my A House Is Not A Home Without A Dog

08-30-2015, 08:44 AM	#4
Wylie's Mom Furbutts = LOVE Donating Member Moderator Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Phoenix, AZ Posts: 35,889 Blog Entries: 2	Every dog is sooo different in terms of how and when they like to cuddle. I do LOVE the total cuddle-bugs, I really do. I would just keep trying, don't give up. Also, try doing massages in different parts of his body to see if he has a sweet spot that makes him melt a bit. Mine also love it if you play gently w/ their fur/hair....like by pulling gently on it btwn your fingers...they love that. __________________ ~ A friend told me I was delusional. I nearly fell off my unicorn. ~ °¨¨¨°ºOº°¨¨¨° Ann \| Pfeiffer \| Marcel Verdel Purcell \| Wylie \| Artie °¨¨¨°ºOº°¨¨¨°

08-30-2015, 10:29 AM	#5
Maximo ♥ Maximo and Teddy Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Northern Virginia Posts: 25,041	As mentioned above, puppies are usually high energy or don't like to feel "trapped" by cuddling. Give him time and let him do things on his terms. My boys prefer cuddling when they are tired after a big walk/outing/play session. They also cuddle and turn all lovey when they are trying to butter me up. Try giving him a quick cuddle/hug and then let him go on his way. Sweet talk him. Try massage as Ann indicated to find what he likes, but don't trap him into it. I'm convinced my boys became super affectionate because they know they are free to walk away when they choose. __________________ Kristin, Max and Teddy

08-30-2015, 10:36 AM	#6
Maximo ♥ Maximo and Teddy Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Northern Virginia Posts: 25,041	Two more things: Max preferred to sleep in his doggy bed in his xpen his whole first year. Now he sleeps curled up against me. See how things can change? Grooming: work with your puppy daily to accept being touched from ear to paw for grooming. Be calm, confident, and patient. Praise and reward when he doesn't resist as much. I tied grooming to going for walks, which was Max's favorite thing in the world. He knew he had to comb his hair and put in his topknot if he wanted to go for a walk. More on body touching: Teddy did not like to be touched when he was lying down, resting or sleeping. He would get up and move away. Now he loves it! He will even turn over for belly rubs. I will admit that it took him a couple years to change in that regard. __________________ Kristin, Max and Teddy

08-30-2015, 06:30 PM	#7
Zoey Zendaya Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2013 Location: Indiana Posts: 1,220	All good advice! My 2nd baby is like that also....a little touch me not scaredy cat.... I just have to be patient and extra careful not to startle her bangin around in kitchen and such or she will run off and hide upstairs behind a door! Also have to be extra gentle playing ....sometimes my hand will bump her expectantly and she will suddenly stop, glare at me , then take off for her safe place! Make sure they have plenty of those .... And then you need to crawl to them on hands and knees and pant nicely( they love that) showing your not going to hurt them....I swear this all works ...she is really coming around ... Izzy will be 11 months in two weeks....her and Zoey zoom every night before bed and they even let me join in if I sneak up the stairs and pretend to "get them" lol.....plus handle and sweet talk every chance they will let you....izzy comes to me for TLC now and she gets plenty.... Sleeping near me ow in bed helps too....she wants my hand nearby which is amazing.....just takes a little extra effort but do it while they are young... Good luck __________________ Zoey Zendaya Ezmirelada Marie & Izzy Olivia Penelope Renee

08-31-2015, 06:02 AM	#8
yavenay Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Delaware Posts: 2,663	Ditto to what every one else has said. Basically try to stop comparing the two. My last yorkie was a total cuddle bug. If you let her, she would sleep in your lap all day and night. She was my velcro baby The one I have now is more independent and will cuddle with you for all of 5 minutes. She is 3.5 years old. When I first got her, I was comparing the two and realized that wasn't fair. When I let go of wanting her to be like my first yorkie, the love I have for her exploded 10 times.

08-31-2015, 11:04 AM	#10
maxdog Donating YT 5000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: Brownstown MI USA Posts: 18,650	Pick your cuddle times carefully. If you pick him up in the middle of the day when he is in "play" mode, he is not going to instantly turn off the "GO" button. Does he nap at a certain time? Pick him up when you see he is tired and let him fall asleep in your arms. Those are the moments that form the lifetime bonds. __________________ Max & Sasha's daddy