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04-07-2015, 07:32 PM | #16 |
and molliluv too! Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Irving TX, USA
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| I am so sorry for your loss. I don't even want to imagine what it would be like if I lost one of mine. You take all the time you need, everyone grieves differently. Sometimes local Humane societies will have pet loss support groups, maybe see if there is one by you. Speaking of the humane society you could always get another friend for your girl that wasn't a puppy by rescuing one from the pound or maybe a yorkie rescue. You will never replace the one you had but maybe you could find one that needs your love as much as you need thiers. Hope healing and comfort find you.
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04-07-2015, 10:02 PM | #17 |
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| My heart honestly aches for you. I lost my Jingle January 15, 2015, the hardest day of my life I felt like my heart had been ripped out. Jingle and I had been through a lot together and he was my baby. I also have a poodle and she went into grieving as hard as I did, honestly it was a mess. It was a week after Jingle passed before I left the house and only then to the grocery store. Holly (poodle) did not cope while I was gone and she dug at her ears until they were bleeding. Even though I didn't think I was ready I knew Holly had to have the companionship, she howled, she cried etc. so I started looking for a new pup. I was scared to death I was doing the wrong thing, but I finally found the right one. It took a couple of weeks for holly to adjust but I instantly fell in love. Presley has brought back laughter in our home and noise as it was so quiet when Jingle died. Presley has also brought Holly out so much as well, she plays and runs like she is a puppy too! I miss Jingle everyday, tears are rolling as I am writing this, I cradle his ern before I go to bed and tell him how much he is missed and how much I love him every night. It is still hard but for me and for little Holly, Presley has been a God send. Babies keep you so busy and Presley is quite active, honestly I don't know if I would have made it through without him. I will pray for you, I do know that hurt in your heart so well. God bless you and without a doubt you are a wonderful mommy! |
04-08-2015, 05:29 AM | #18 | |
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04-08-2015, 07:16 AM | #20 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2015 Location: Murrells Inlet SC
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| Chrissy, I too am new to the site and I am still trying to learn it all too, lol. Thank you so much for your kind words. When I read your post I could relate oh so well. The first several days when Jingle passed I didn't even get out of bed. I too lost weight, couldn't eat and couldn't sleep. The pain was like a knife in my chest, devastation does not even begin to explain it. Jingle was my loud one and Holly was the quiet little girl, I honestly didn't realize how loud Jingle could be until he wasn't here and the silence was deafening. I cuddled extra tight to Holly, still do, her heart was broke and she was lost. Jingle was by far the alpha and she was happy to be his little follower, she didn't know what to do. Jingle was tragically hit by a car, not run over, just "bumped". My husband let him outside in the backyard, literally turned around to grab his phone off the end table beside the door he let him out, Jingle chased a squirrel out of the fence and got hit. It was around 9am Jan 15, the vet said it was instant but I still live the nightmare of it. My husband had to wake me to tell me what had happened. The whole thing is surreal, Holly is the one that would get up with my husband on lazy Saturday's, and Jingle would stay in the bed with me. If I could just live that day over again....Jingle was my side kick, my precious blessing, it is still hard. I'm not so sure you ever get over it, I think it is more you get use to it. Not a day goes by that he is not on my mind, I walk in my bedroom and expect to see those beautiful ears sticking up from behind the pillows where he loved to lay. Presley has made 100% difference in Holly's life. To begin with she was not to keen on Presley, he is a rough and tough little boy, but so full of energy and love. He would walk up to Holly lick her right in the face and take off running wanting her to chase him, lol his persistence paid off, she now plays with Presely all the time, he has made the biggest difference in her and in me. I still love Jingle with everything I have, couldn't imagine loving another one like that, then came Presley. It was important to me that Presley not have the same coloring as Jingle, so Presely is darker. Presley walked right in and took over my heart, our home, and Holly's happiness. While there are similarities in Jingle and Presley, there are pronounced differences too, I can honestly say I couldn't love Presley anymore than I do and he rescued Holly and me from a dark place. Your Baxter was very well loved, without a doubt he knew that very much! I do hurt for you, the pain is just unbearable at times, Jingle was only 7, he did have pancreas issues but so full of life. Kaylee is a special little girl too, they do require extra love and attention when tragedy strikes. Have you tried boiled chicken for Kaylee? I understand switching vets, since Jingle passed and the one day I went to the grocery store I have not left Holly by herself at all. I am way overprotective now, I look for anything that can happen, and Presley looks for anything he can get into, so he keeps me on my toes and keeps me laughing. All fur babies are special, but there is just something about a Yorkie, Jingle had me wrapped from the first time I seen him, and he knew it. Presley cannot fill Jingles "shoes" nor would I want him to, because there is not one that could fill Presley's either. Try not to close off the idea of a new baby, it may just be the medicine you and Kaylee needs. Baxter loved you and was devoted sweet baby, he is still with you in your heart and he is waiting with my Jingle to greet us when we enter those gates. Know he isn't hurting, and know that he is happy all the time now, I do hope this brings you peace, it is so difficult to find it at a time like this. Remember as well that God will not put more on you than you can handle even though at times it feels like we are right on the edge. Bless you and yours!! |
04-08-2015, 09:49 AM | #21 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: New City NY USA
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| I am so sorry for your loss, and for all who responded with their losses as well. It is so hard to deal with. I don't know if you ever 'heal' totally, but we move on. I lost my little girl, Nikki (bichon) at 17 & 1/2 years old. She had a great life with us, was so loved, and loved us so much. I think of her often and it took me 2 years to agree to get another dog. I never thought I could love one as much. We found a rescue group & adopted a Yorkie puppy 2 & 1/2 years ago. We were so lucky, it was meant to be. I was wrong, I am CRAZY in love with our Yogi. Yorkies are sure different from Bichons! Also in terms of grieving, I also started collecting and donating items to a great local rescue group near me. It was a good distraction. I didn't foster but it's an idea. Condolences and thoughts are with you |
04-08-2015, 10:55 AM | #22 | |
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I thank you for taking your own time to respond to me when I know your heart is still aching from Jingle. If you don't mind me asking, how old was Jingle and how did he pass? My sincerest heartfelt thank you for reaching out to me. Hope to hear back from you. Chrissy | |
04-08-2015, 12:33 PM | #23 | |
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Thank you so much for taking time out of your busy life to reach out to me in my heartbreak. At the very least, reading messages and responding to them helps me to make it through more minutes, hours, more days. Sometimes I "think" I am getting a "teeny" bit better, and then I will be driving and absolutely break down crying. When you go through it, you truly feel like "nobody else in the world can be feeling like this because I loved my dog more than anyone could imagine!" I sincerely appreciate yoru kind words. The people on this site are truly remarkable, selfless and compassionate. It has saved me from breaking down many times. Chrissy | |
04-08-2015, 01:26 PM | #24 | |
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Thank you so much for taking the time to respond with such heartfelt words of support. Although I realize that all dogs have a "general" or "average" amount of years on earth (depending on the breed), you are absolutely right, having them go WHENEVER is painful and hard to accept. Sometimes I feel funny saying it, but my Baxter was truly the first someone (because I consider him a someone) I loved so dearly and unconditionally that passed. Wasn't close to grandparents and all 4 have passed. Parents are still both here, thankfully, but in mid 70's nd not in best of health. And I still have all my siblings. This was TRULY the closest I have had to deal with death ever! I was raised Catholic, although not a practicing adult, and my husband is Christian so through the years our two boys went to non-denominational Christian churches quite periodically. But the acceptance of "forever and finite" is way harder to accept than I ever anticipated. I know the day will come when the tears won't easily flow and the heart won't be aching as much. I thank you again for your words of comfort! The kindness of each and every one of you is unbelievable. Chrissy | |
04-08-2015, 01:28 PM | #25 | |
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Thank you so much for your words of comfort and for the time you took out of your day to write me back. Some people write back even when they are currently experiencing heartache and pain of their own. I am waiting for the day when the pain gives way to happy memories. Thank you again! Chrissy | |
04-08-2015, 01:43 PM | #26 | |
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WOW! You sure said some "magic" words, "shock, grief and anger!" I have NEVER been in shock before in my life, but I was in complete shock for two weeks after my little one passed. I can't remember a thing I did but cry. The grief was all consuming and overwhelming at times. Then I was also angry at the vet for not recognizing that very day how sick he was. Was told bacterial and dehydrated, they hydrated him and he will start feeling better tomorrow, and gave anti-biotics." I was super angry, not only with them but with myself. I saw that he was getting "worse" but I chalked it up to "feeling worse before you feel better again." I carry SO MUCH guilt for not rushing him to emergency that night, but it may or may not of mattered, and that is what I will NEVER know for sure and beat myself up every other minute about that decision. I know I need time. I read everyone's heartache and pain beyond imagine that they went through when they lost there first, and some lost several. And they all must be right, and common sense does dictate that time will slowly help heal my heart. Right now the hole in it is so huge it seems like the impossible. Thank you for taking the time to send your own story and thoughts and prayers. The compassion each of you have shown me is something I will ALWAYS remember. Chrissy | |
04-08-2015, 01:50 PM | #27 | |
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Thank you so much for sharing your story with me. If you don't mind me asking, what took your Yorkie at 6 years old? My sweet boy was 10 1/2 and even then I felt "so cheated and unfair" that he didn't live to what I "thought more or less" he would like to - maybe 13 - 15! That is part of the devestation. That is happened so quickly and untimely. For now I do have a 6 yr old female Yorkie to take care of and that definitely helps keep a "routine" going that we had anyway. But she is very quiet and my boy was the barker, town crier, neighborhood watch dog in the living room window alerting us to every neighbor coming and go, or the DREADED U.P.S. man he just went nuts over. So the house is so quiet and hard to get used to. I work so I do have to keep my head on straight about. For now, throwing myself on this site has been my savior at times. When I want to completely break down, I get on the site and read other posts. I am glad that you found a new passion in the Yorkie dog world! I love this breed more than any (obviously most of us on this site do). I hope you have lots of success if you get to show her. Thank you for the words of hope and encouragement! each of you are TRULY special to me to have taken time out of your day and some of you your own pain to reach out to comfort someone else. Thank you... Chrissy | |
04-08-2015, 04:25 PM | #28 | |
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04-08-2015, 04:37 PM | #29 | |
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04-08-2015, 05:01 PM | #30 | |
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