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07-17-2014, 12:24 PM | #91 |
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| IMO it's not our job to police anyone perception of what is in their opinion rude. What is the point of telling anyone they are speaking or posting in a rude manner? What one might perceive as rude the next person might feel it was direct or even funny.
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07-17-2014, 12:25 PM | #92 |
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| Just wanted to say it is good to see you posting again Jill.
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07-17-2014, 12:28 PM | #93 |
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| Oh, thank you! It's good to be online again! Feeling better and just had to get on YT while I was!!! I missed this wonderful forum soooooo much!!!
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07-17-2014, 12:29 PM | #94 |
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| I think too its the same as calling a name like bully it puts someone on the defensive and it is way overused
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07-17-2014, 12:34 PM | #95 | |
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If you put forth a response to 50 folks, and ask for their interpretation of that response, and you got 40 or so folks saying this was rude, then well you have a rude response. And rarely is blatant rude in my opinion not recognized by the majority of readers.
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07-17-2014, 12:39 PM | #96 | |
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07-17-2014, 12:43 PM | #97 |
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| But why say rude when it puts people on the defensive and creates arguments. I have never seen where someone was called rude or a bully that it didnt start an argument. If I am expected to reword My I dont believe you because it can be perceived as calling someone a liar and starting an argument why shouldnt people be expected to reword rude or bully
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07-17-2014, 01:11 PM | #98 | |
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Bullying here takes many forms, as it does in any other on-line forum, or in real life. It can be very subtle or very blatant. IMO when we have huge shall I say side bars that have nothing to do with the OP's question that gives a very sour flavour to our board.
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07-17-2014, 01:11 PM | #99 |
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| Yes, I couldn't agree more. Calling someone a bully is name calling because it's an opinion that is bring help by you. Also, when it's said "I've received PMs about you......" It's IMO the exact same things because the person making that statement is then elevating themselves to a position of dictating how they feel as leader of this mysterious "group". As if there is this divide of 2 groups. Also, I've never understood the whole I'm afraid to post statement either. But then again I'm an extrovert and have no issues walking into a room of strangers and introducing myself and immediately making a lot of friends. Again, my opinion is that people find me kind, generous, straightforward while also being caring and fun.....back in the real world if I were to tell people that anyone thought I was mean they would think it was a joke.
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07-17-2014, 01:13 PM | #100 |
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| I actually enjoy reading the forum. I like people of all walks of life so the short blips of things others find rude don't really bother me. There are really only two things that bug me here: 1. People tell other people how to post by passive aggressively informing the OP that the person responding is "harsh" or a "bully". Example: OP posts and asks "Should I take my dog to the vet, he's had explosive diarrhea for four days and is laying in a corner half alive" Person A responds by saying "you need a vet, RIGHT NOW" and then Person B comes along and says "Have you tried a teaspoon of pumpkin?" and Person A comes back and says "I'm sorry, pumpkin isn't going to help, OP dog needs a vet NOW" and Person B says "pumpkin works for me" and person A feels again he/she must come back to impress STRONGLY upon the OP that a VET and NOT PUMPKIN is needed in this situation because perhaps Person A has lived this and wants to tell OP that a "stitch in time saves nine" and Person A has to go around person B being upset about their idea of pumpkin being "dissed" by the "bully". Then Person C, D, and E happen to agree with Person A. Person F, G, and H agree with person B. Person I, J, K and maybe even L offer prayers and they don't get into the whole pumpkin vs. vet debate. Then somehow person M says that the OP is being made to feel like a bad owner. Then the OP starts to believe he/she is being bullied for being a bad owner. Person N comes along and says NO NO NO you are not a bad owner, you are a good mommy. Persons O, P, and Q agree with the whole "you're a good mommy" thing. Person S, T, and U are pissed off and plead with the other members of the alphabet to please get back on task because the OP needs help. Finally, persons V, W, and X report the thread. Y asks why just as Wylie's Mom turns the locks. What kind of help did we all give????? Now none of us will ever know whether Yorkie with Explosive Diarrhea Lying in a Corner Half Alive got to the vet. Maybe the pumpkin worked?? 2. People try to shut down the conversation when they don't like it (e.g. dog food advisor threads where person A posts "i love DFA" and person B says "OMG he's a dentist not a real DFA" and person A jumps in and says "People can like DFA if they want" and then person B says "They can, but it's not a good source of info" and then person A says to person B "please stop, you've posted your opinion" and person B responds with "so did you" and then it goes round and round. Those are my only two beefs with this place.
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07-17-2014, 01:16 PM | #101 | |
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07-17-2014, 01:19 PM | #102 | |
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07-17-2014, 01:24 PM | #103 | |
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Let me add this too.... Then everyone who's upset about the thread starts to report what they feel is out of line and poor Mods (Ann) had to look at all the back and forth feuding......the PMs start going and Ann is them faced with writing yet again another thread like this one.
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07-17-2014, 01:24 PM | #104 | |
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07-17-2014, 01:35 PM | #105 | |
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#1 YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES....This is what I've been trying to say!!! And something similar happened to me a couple weeks back (and a million other times) and out of nowhere someone accused me of being harsh, when really I knew it was an EMERGENCY...and exactly #1 ensued and then I get a PM from OP imploring for help, yep the harsh one, the bully...and ya know what? She is now my friend!!
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