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Sunnydayz · 02-15-2014, 09:26 PM

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Originally Posted by theporkieyorkie

PS~if I was still living in NYC, I'd be happy to help by offering to foster your little guy during the times you are unable to care for him. Perhaps you will find another yorkie lover who lives close to you that is willing to help you and Riley out like that.

Maybe we could even start a thread for you Steve, requesting members in your area to help out and take shifts babysitting your pup and helping out while you are getting treatment :-) that would be amazing !!!! I wish I were closer because I would totally come help you and your pup. Or maybe there is a good reputable rescue that could find a foster in your area that could foster him, as well as have the foster bring him to visit, until you are done with all your treatments? There are options and I would hate to see you give him up, because I truly believe he can help you heal through this, and I will pray for you and your pup every day. I can be a prayer warrior for sure for you both.

Just know there are so many loving people here Steve, and I hope you are able to keep your little guy, and he helps you get through this fight you are beginning. XOXO

PuppyQuestions · 02-15-2014, 09:53 PM

I had typed a long thank you note to you all, expressing how blessed I feel having you taken the time of your busy schedules to think of me and my sweet boy, and our situation. I received a message saying the post must be reviewed, and of course, I didn't save it, so I am hoping it appears somehow. I couldn't not write it before I went to sleep; I am moved to tears by your collective prayers, thoughts, suggestions, personal stories, etc. I am trying my best to navigate communicating on here while being in such a dark place emotionally, and feeling such excruciating pain.

YorkieTalk is clearly such a warm environment, and having just checked up on Riley, and having shed so many tears, as I am touched beyond measure, reading your notes to me (I didn't expect any replies to my post). I truly cannot express my gratitude enough, and hope in the morning, I can adequately do so, and hope my post to you all, resurfaces.

I would never ask for help unless I felt it absolutely necessary, and wouldn't know how to go about doing so here other than posting (I must read about this tomorrow in the Rules and Regulations of the site, as I do not want to come off as a pity case, but rather, someone in need of guidance through a scenario in which I feel like the WORST Dad to Riley. I pray I have the energy to figure out what I did wrong in my banned(?) post, after an exhausting week of daily treatment). Anything that would allow me to keep my angel, would warm my soul, but I struggle if this is the right thing longterm, if I cannot give him every fiber of my being, which is what I promised to him and to myself. Being alone is so hard.

Only blessings to every single member of this community. Love and evermore thanks from a broken heart and spirit in Queens, NY.

kjc · 02-15-2014, 11:35 PM

I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

I also agree that having someone foster your pup while you devote time and energy to your own care is a great idea. I live in Baltimore (3.5 hours away)... let me know if I can help.

And for you, check this out: LIVESTRONG.org

Wylie's Mom · 02-16-2014, 04:33 AM

Steve, I'm just heartbroken for you, I truly am. Is there just any way you can keep this little fella? I feel like you would heal so much better if he were with you, loving you along the way and vice versa. Maybe there are some rescues or folks in your area who could help w/ babysitting if needed...?

Harrysmum · 02-16-2014, 04:56 AM

Oh my goodness Steve, I read your story and it made my heart hurt....I am so, so sorry for all you're going through

'Over here' we have several charities that help people in similar positions to your self - one of which is The Cinnamon Trust - The National Charity for the elderly, the terminally ill and their pets and I was wondering if you might have similar set-ups in the USA?

Just a thought - and I truly wish you both all the very best. Sally + Harry

x

kjc · 02-16-2014, 05:32 AM

Steve, you did nothing wrong. All posts from new members are moderated until after 15-20 posts are made. This protects YT members from scammers and silly folks. Keep posting and get that post count up! If you need help with this site, just ask ....

FYI: Yorkies are very flexible and forgiving. Their favorite thing is to be with their Moms and/or Dads, no matter what they're doing!

I was going to suggest a dogwalker or sitter for times when you're not feeling up to the task...

SophieKatesMom · 02-16-2014, 05:52 AM

Steve, my thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. I agree with everyone who has suggested you contact your breeder ASAP. Breeders of any quality are there to help us the tough decsions like this.

I would also like to offer to take care of your little guy for you while you are gettng your medical treatment (for however long is necessary). I know you would be trusting me blindly with your little love but the offer is on the table and we could make arrangements to get him here. I have fostered many rescues and could provide as many references as you would feel needed (and would even go through any questions from your breeder).

Continued prayers, make your health and your little boy your priority.

margaritaville · 02-16-2014, 06:52 AM

Steve, I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through this. You must be going crazy with fear and worry.
I agree you must notify your breeder if you are going to be unable to care for him any longer. Is there anyone in your family who would be willing to step in and care for him while you are in treatment? Many on here are willing to foster. I was going to reply last night but wanted to talk with my husband first and We also would be willing to foster him here in nj.
Please keep us on YT posted on what is happening because as you can see we are a very caring group. I wish you and Riley the best.

crystalsmom · 02-16-2014, 07:15 AM

Steve I didn't mean to end my post without saying, I am praying for You and Riley.

You came to the right place for help, we have so many wonderful people here but do get to the breeder so you follow the contract you signed before any other moves would be my advise. You don't want to have to deal with problems on that end of it.

God Bless you and do keep strong, there have been many strides in the field of Cancer and it is not the death sentence it used to be, so like I said 'lots of prayers' coming that you can fight the fight what will get you well again and back with Riley.

crystalsmom · 02-16-2014, 07:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Harrysmum

Oh my goodness Steve, I read your story and it made my heart hurt....I am so, so sorry for all you're going through

'Over here' we have several charities that help people in similar positions to your self - one of which is The Cinnamon Trust - The National Charity for the elderly, the terminally ill and their pets and I was wondering if you might have similar set-ups in the USA?

Just a thought - and I truly wish you both all the very best. Sally + Harry

x

What a wonderful charity, I don't know if we do but I am going to check. We do have groups that offer senior dogs for senior people but can't say I have seen what you posted that is so dearly needed. Thanks.

Elkd3 · 02-16-2014, 11:12 AM

SophieKatiesMom, What a caring, generous person & doggie mommy you are. I think fostering is a much better option than having to completely give up your baby. Being a fairly new member to this site, all I can say is that you people are amazing!!!

enchilila · 02-16-2014, 01:26 PM

I'm saying prayers for you, Steve. I'm so sorry for what you are going through.

horsnaround · 02-16-2014, 02:36 PM

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Originally Posted by SophieKatesMom

Steve, my thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. I agree with everyone who has suggested you contact your breeder ASAP. Breeders of any quality are there to help us the tough decsions like this.

I would also like to offer to take care of your little guy for you while you are gettng your medical treatment (for however long is necessary). I know you would be trusting me blindly with your little love but the offer is on the table and we could make arrangements to get him here. I have fostered many rescues and could provide as many references as you would feel needed (and would even go through any questions from your breeder).

Continued prayers, make your health and your little boy your priority.

What a great offer Steve sending prayers this all is behind you very soon. Stay strong

Woogie Man · 02-16-2014, 03:21 PM

Steve, it seems from your posts that you have not yet started treatment. Why not just see how things go for now? I know chemo can be more debilitating for some than others.

Perhaps you could board Riley locally until you see how this all affects you. You would have the option to have him at home if you feel up to it or could board him if you needed. It may not be a long term solution, but it may be best until you can see a little further down the road.

yorkiemom76 · 02-16-2014, 04:01 PM

I'm so sorry, I don't really have any answers for you. Someone else suggested maybe hiring a dog walker. Do you have a neighbor that would be willing to do this or maybe a responsible teenager that lives nearby. I wish I had better suggestions for you but I just wanted to say that I'm so sorry you're going through this. I can't imagine how you must be feeling but I hope you can find a way to keep your little boy. I think having him around would go a long way in keeping your spirits up. My thoughts and prayers are with you both.

02-15-2014, 09:53 PM	#17
PuppyQuestions Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Feb 2014 Location: Whitestone, NY, USA Posts: 7	Overwhelmed by y'all's kindness I had typed a long thank you note to you all, expressing how blessed I feel having you taken the time of your busy schedules to think of me and my sweet boy, and our situation. I received a message saying the post must be reviewed, and of course, I didn't save it, so I am hoping it appears somehow. I couldn't not write it before I went to sleep; I am moved to tears by your collective prayers, thoughts, suggestions, personal stories, etc. I am trying my best to navigate communicating on here while being in such a dark place emotionally, and feeling such excruciating pain. YorkieTalk is clearly such a warm environment, and having just checked up on Riley, and having shed so many tears, as I am touched beyond measure, reading your notes to me (I didn't expect any replies to my post). I truly cannot express my gratitude enough, and hope in the morning, I can adequately do so, and hope my post to you all, resurfaces. I would never ask for help unless I felt it absolutely necessary, and wouldn't know how to go about doing so here other than posting (I must read about this tomorrow in the Rules and Regulations of the site, as I do not want to come off as a pity case, but rather, someone in need of guidance through a scenario in which I feel like the WORST Dad to Riley. I pray I have the energy to figure out what I did wrong in my banned(?) post, after an exhausting week of daily treatment). Anything that would allow me to keep my angel, would warm my soul, but I struggle if this is the right thing longterm, if I cannot give him every fiber of my being, which is what I promised to him and to myself. Being alone is so hard. Only blessings to every single member of this community. Love and evermore thanks from a broken heart and spirit in Queens, NY.

02-15-2014, 11:35 PM	#18
kjc I♥PeekTinkySaph&Finny Donating Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Baltimore, Maryland Posts: 18,872	I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I also agree that having someone foster your pup while you devote time and energy to your own care is a great idea. I live in Baltimore (3.5 hours away)... let me know if I can help. And for you, check this out: LIVESTRONG.org __________________ Kat Chloe Lizzy PeekABooTinkerbell SapphireInfinity

02-16-2014, 04:33 AM	#19
Wylie's Mom Furbutts = LOVE Donating Member Moderator Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Phoenix, AZ Posts: 35,889 Blog Entries: 2	Steve, I'm just heartbroken for you, I truly am. Is there just any way you can keep this little fella? I feel like you would heal so much better if he were with you, loving you along the way and vice versa. Maybe there are some rescues or folks in your area who could help w/ babysitting if needed...? __________________ ~ A friend told me I was delusional. I nearly fell off my unicorn. ~ °¨¨¨°ºOº°¨¨¨° Ann \| Pfeiffer \| Marcel Verdel Purcell \| Wylie \| Artie °¨¨¨°ºOº°¨¨¨°

02-16-2014, 05:32 AM	#21
kjc I♥PeekTinkySaph&Finny Donating Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Baltimore, Maryland Posts: 18,872	Steve, you did nothing wrong. All posts from new members are moderated until after 15-20 posts are made. This protects YT members from scammers and silly folks. Keep posting and get that post count up! If you need help with this site, just ask .... FYI: Yorkies are very flexible and forgiving. Their favorite thing is to be with their Moms and/or Dads, no matter what they're doing! I was going to suggest a dogwalker or sitter for times when you're not feeling up to the task... __________________ Kat Chloe Lizzy PeekABooTinkerbell SapphireInfinity Last edited by kjc; 02-16-2014 at 05:35 AM.

02-16-2014, 05:52 AM	#22
SophieKatesMom Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Canton, GA Posts: 3,242	Steve, my thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. I agree with everyone who has suggested you contact your breeder ASAP. Breeders of any quality are there to help us the tough decsions like this. I would also like to offer to take care of your little guy for you while you are gettng your medical treatment (for however long is necessary). I know you would be trusting me blindly with your little love but the offer is on the table and we could make arrangements to get him here. I have fostered many rescues and could provide as many references as you would feel needed (and would even go through any questions from your breeder). Continued prayers, make your health and your little boy your priority. __________________ Cheryl,Mom to SophieKate Last edited by SophieKatesMom; 02-16-2014 at 05:53 AM.

02-16-2014, 04:56 AM	#20
Harrysmum Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Chessington, Surrey, UK Posts: 5,062	Oh my goodness Steve, I read your story and it made my heart hurt....I am so, so sorry for all you're going through 'Over here' we have several charities that help people in similar positions to your self - one of which is The Cinnamon Trust - The National Charity for the elderly, the terminally ill and their pets and I was wondering if you might have similar set-ups in the USA? Just a thought - and I truly wish you both all the very best. Sally + Harry x

02-16-2014, 06:52 AM	#23
margaritaville Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: west long branch, n.j. Posts: 4,457	Steve, I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through this. You must be going crazy with fear and worry. I agree you must notify your breeder if you are going to be unable to care for him any longer. Is there anyone in your family who would be willing to step in and care for him while you are in treatment? Many on here are willing to foster. I was going to reply last night but wanted to talk with my husband first and We also would be willing to foster him here in nj. Please keep us on YT posted on what is happening because as you can see we are a very caring group. I wish you and Riley the best. __________________ Joan, Bubba and Sissy-BEWARE OF PUPPY MILLS breathe in, breathe out, move on -jb

02-16-2014, 07:15 AM	#24
crystalsmom Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Ohio Posts: 7,946	Steve I didn't mean to end my post without saying, I am praying for You and Riley. You came to the right place for help, we have so many wonderful people here but do get to the breeder so you follow the contract you signed before any other moves would be my advise. You don't want to have to deal with problems on that end of it. God Bless you and do keep strong, there have been many strides in the field of Cancer and it is not the death sentence it used to be, so like I said 'lots of prayers' coming that you can fight the fight what will get you well again and back with Riley. __________________

02-16-2014, 11:12 AM	#26
Elkd3 Yorkie Yakker Join Date: May 2013 Location: Salisbury, MD, USA Posts: 30	SophieKatiesMom, What a caring, generous person & doggie mommy you are. I think fostering is a much better option than having to completely give up your baby. Being a fairly new member to this site, all I can say is that you people are amazing!!!

02-16-2014, 01:26 PM	#27
enchilila Donating YT 5000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Central Texas Posts: 9,689	I'm saying prayers for you, Steve. I'm so sorry for what you are going through. __________________ "Betty Boop" The light of my life & the joy of my living!

02-16-2014, 03:21 PM	#29
Woogie Man Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Mississippi Posts: 2,564	Steve, it seems from your posts that you have not yet started treatment. Why not just see how things go for now? I know chemo can be more debilitating for some than others. Perhaps you could board Riley locally until you see how this all affects you. You would have the option to have him at home if you feel up to it or could board him if you needed. It may not be a long term solution, but it may be best until you can see a little further down the road. __________________ ORANGUTANS ARE DYING FOR THE SAKE OF CHEAP PALM OIL....AND YOU USE IT!!! http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/ani...m-oil-you.html

02-16-2014, 04:01 PM	#30
yorkiemom76 YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2014 Location: Ohio Posts: 364	I'm so sorry, I don't really have any answers for you. Someone else suggested maybe hiring a dog walker. Do you have a neighbor that would be willing to do this or maybe a responsible teenager that lives nearby. I wish I had better suggestions for you but I just wanted to say that I'm so sorry you're going through this. I can't imagine how you must be feeling but I hope you can find a way to keep your little boy. I think having him around would go a long way in keeping your spirits up. My thoughts and prayers are with you both.