Oh my goodness Steve, I read your story and it made my heart hurt....I am so, so sorry for all you're going through
'Over here' we have several charities that help people in similar positions to your self - one of which is
The Cinnamon Trust - The National Charity for the elderly, the terminally ill and their pets and I was wondering if you might have similar set-ups in the USA?
Just a thought - and I truly wish you both all the very best. Sally + Harry
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