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12-18-2012, 03:57 AM | #16 |
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| [QUOTE=yorkietalkjilly;4080442]A lot of people cannot tell the difference between honesty and rudeness in the typed word so I find that couching the wording in softer tones really helps the reader accept it in the spirit it was offered. If I just say what I mean to say in a few blunt words, a lot of it would probably come across in cold print as perhaps a little rude. And if an emotional reader, at wits end or scared about their little dog is on this site and reads anything too plainly or bluntly stated, their defenses often rush to the fore and they don't often even really consider the opinion or advice offered. You can tell that by reading good advice bluntly offered about what should be done or should have been done and then a reply from OP complaining of rudeness right after. Usually they don't even mention the good advice given, just address the advice- or opinion-giver for their rudeness. So, together with honesty, consider how it will sound to the reader. That is not to say we should coddle an owner/guardian of a sick, injured, abused or neglected dog by cooing sweet nothings to them but considering whether or not one really wants to communicate with that person or "make a statement" that might make us feel good to say and hit submit reply is usually good to do before posting. If you really want a person to hear your words, being honest in a firm but kind way seems to work out better in the long run for the good of the animals we're all so concerned about as we have to go through their stewards in order to help them.[/Q YES! So well said... |
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12-18-2012, 04:58 AM | #17 | |
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12-18-2012, 08:01 AM | #18 | |||
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We have people delivering messages on this forum that cover the spectrum of all styles. But yeah, in an ideal world - we would all deliver our messages honestly and respectfully. Quote:
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I totally agree that we all have such different styles and beliefs about training; I have a very tough time with the way some trainers go about their business. I'm not familiar with the OP's training style, but will have to read further. Considering I think dogs are WAY more respectable creatures than us lowly and often morally-annoying humans, I have to say that I don't think I'm superior to my dogs just bc I'm human. Um, that is a belief created by humans, for humans. It's not a universal like, say, gravity.
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12-20-2012, 04:28 AM | #19 | |
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12-20-2012, 06:54 AM | #20 |
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12-20-2012, 08:12 AM | #21 |
Donating YT Addict | Rudeness is not acceptable. Bluntness if done with tact, feeling, and respect is ok. Its just how some come off. We are all here for same reason. We love our pups. Let's get along, be respectful of others and have some fun. Were all on the same journey with our fur babies. They are awesome! |
12-20-2012, 09:10 AM | #22 |
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12-20-2012, 11:32 AM | #23 |
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| I just did my English 102 final essay. It was on PETA, actually. One of the articles I used as a reference did a play on the saying killing the messenger. What they said was as the messenger, PETA often kills the message. I bring that up, because it seems to me, in some cases, the message is killed by the messenger, in other words, it's not what was said, it was how it was said. I have seen people leave who could have been valuable contributing members of the community, had they just been handled a little differently. The worse thing is these people that are run off the forum, and make no bones, they are indeed run off the forum.. They're not going to stop having yorkies. BUT now they are not going to utilize their BEST source of information and education because some people decided they did not like the choices they made for their dogs and instead of having a conversation with these people about what they believe is the right way, backed by proof, not just so and so said so, these people have been berated for doing the wrong thing. Now.. again, they're not leaving the yorkie as a breed. And a chance to educate someone has been lost, because some people in their zeal forgot how to deliver the message and so the message was killed. And these people will go on and breed their yorkies, not knowing and not caring, because they're going to show those stuck up snobby yorkie people a thing or two. Who suffers in the end? All because someone could not soften the delivery of a message. It doesn't kill anyone to speak a little softer, just to get the message delivered.
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12-20-2012, 01:45 PM | #24 | |
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They could choose to stay and utalize the ignore function-its sad we're supposed to handle eachother as opposed to being unique individuals-sometimes less a cohesive way but far more authentic. Then again I speak bluntly, so... My let peeve was the ability of people asking for opinions or posting here openly then crying about this or that so & so said this rudely and I'm entitled to make people talk to me the way I dictate they do-or I'll call them names and threaten to leave...or put up an exiting post and why. That to me is remnisant of ab adolescent temper tantrum. Sometimes I forget to put my big girl panties on...so I choose how to deal with it, and live with my choices not put it on others. BTW I don't advocate for unrelentless rudeness etc , but I don't sugar coat.
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12-20-2012, 06:33 PM | #25 | |
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12-20-2012, 07:01 PM | #26 | |
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As with any social interaction, the more you interact, the better you're able to "read" each other. That doesn't mean you'll like everyone or their responses, but you probably don't in real life either.
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12-20-2012, 07:19 PM | #27 |
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| We interrupt this thread for a very important message....ITS CHRISTMAS! YAY! FELIZ NAVIDAD, MERRY CHRISTMAS....HOHOHOHO!!!!! Sorry, I couldn't resist.....back on topic...bye
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12-20-2012, 07:37 PM | #28 | |
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| I try to stay out of threads that have a tendency to get debates going. I come here for fun and camaraderie with fellow yorkie lovers...not to get stressed out (I get enough of that at work). But the post below made feel compelled to post a few words... Quote:
Also, I read that Respect thread and there was a post (from a mod I think) that said type what you want to reply and then delete it and start typing again. I actually just did that so great advice LOL Anyway, the quote above is dead-on. People say "don't shoot the messenger" but what happens when the messenger shoots his own message? ETA: Merry Christmas, Lynzy! LOL!
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12-20-2012, 08:03 PM | #30 | |
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