[MandiesMom]

I try to stay out of threads that have a tendency to get debates going. I come here for fun and camaraderie with fellow yorkie lovers...not to get stressed out (I get enough of that at work). But the post below made feel compelled to post a few words...

Originally Posted by Belle Noir

... the message is killed by the messenger, in other words, it's not what was said, it was how it was said. I have seen people leave who could have been valuable contributing members of the community, had they just been handled a little differently.

The worse thing is these people that are run off the forum, and make no bones, they are indeed run off the forum.. They're not going to stop having yorkies. BUT now they are not going to utilize their BEST source of information and education because some people decided they did not like the choices they made for their dogs and instead of having a conversation with these people about what they believe is the right way, backed by proof, not just so and so said so, these people have been berated for doing the wrong thing.

Now.. again, they're not leaving the yorkie as a breed. And a chance to educate someone has been lost, because some people in their zeal forgot how to deliver the message and so the message was killed. And these people will go on and breed their yorkies, not knowing and not caring, because they're going to show those stuck up snobby yorkie people a thing or two.

Who suffers in the end? All because someone could not soften the delivery of a message. It doesn't kill anyone to speak a little softer, just to get the message delivered.

This is absolutely and perfectly stated.

Also, I read that Respect thread and there was a post (from a mod I think) that said type what you want to reply and then delete it and start typing again. I actually just did that so great advice LOL

Anyway, the quote above is dead-on. People say "don't shoot the messenger" but what happens when the messenger shoots his own message?

ETA: Merry Christmas, Lynzy! LOL!