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Originally Posted by Belle Noir  I bring that up, because it seems to me, in some cases, the message is killed by the messenger, in other words, it's not what was said, it was how it was said. |
One of the downsides to a written forum is that you miss the nuances of in-person conversation. I tend to type/write as I'd speak. Only, if I was actually speaking to you, you'd see when I raise my eyebrows, smirk, silly grin, roll eyes and you'd hear my tone. While the smilies at the side of the response box help somewhat, they don't completely convey what is meant by what is written. I know personally, I've responded on a thread, and I know what I meant & how I meant it at the time, but when I've come back & caught up on the thread a day or two later & re-read what I wrote, I realize it could come across different than how I intended.
As with any social interaction, the more you interact, the better you're able to "read" each other. That doesn't mean you'll like everyone or their responses, but you probably don't in real life either.