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Originally Posted by Belle Noir  I just did my English 102 final essay. It was on PETA, actually. One of the articles I used as a reference did a play on the saying killing the messenger. What they said was as the messenger, PETA often kills the message.
I bring that up, because it seems to me, in some cases, the message is killed by the messenger, in other words, it's not what was said, it was how it was said. I have seen people leave who could have been valuable contributing members of the community, had they just been handled a little differently.
The worse thing is these people that are run off the forum, and make no bones, they are indeed run off the forum.. They're not going to stop having yorkies. BUT now they are not going to utilize their BEST source of information and education because some people decided they did not like the choices they made for their dogs and instead of having a conversation with these people about what they believe is the right way, backed by proof, not just so and so said so, these people have been berated for doing the wrong thing.
Now.. again, they're not leaving the yorkie as a breed. And a chance to educate someone has been lost, because some people in their zeal forgot how to deliver the message and so the message was killed. And these people will go on and breed their yorkies, not knowing and not caring, because they're going to show those stuck up snobby yorkie people a thing or two.
Who suffers in the end? All because someone could not soften the delivery of a message. It doesn't kill anyone to speak a little softer, just to get the message delivered. |
Ya know to me, that sounds like a personal problem they have based on a personal choice to leave-I don't believe anyone gets run off, period.
They could choose to stay and utalize the ignore function-its sad we're supposed to handle eachother as opposed to being unique individuals-sometimes less a cohesive way but far more authentic.
Then again I speak bluntly, so...
My let peeve was the ability of people asking for opinions or posting here openly then crying about this or that so & so said this rudely and I'm entitled to make people talk to me the way I dictate they do-or I'll call them names and threaten to leave...or put up an exiting post and why. That to me is remnisant of ab adolescent temper tantrum.
Sometimes I forget to put my big girl panties on...so I choose how to deal with it, and live with my choices not put it on others.
BTW I don't advocate for unrelentless rudeness etc , but I don't sugar coat.