Help!! Trying to convince husband

[LunasMomma]

Originally Posted by TwoforFun

Advise women to women. Take a nice shower, put on some nice make-up, shoulders up and hold your head up high. Walk to your man and tell him your getting a puppy. That you would love for him to help you search for one.
I think this is something you really want and he needs to support you on that. Find a vet that have low cost vaccines and research all you can on potty training and grooming. Show him you have done your homework and it will not be a burden to him.

Heck, take a shot of tequila if you need a little push to talk to him

Like my friend say's your a "household engineer", you have your rights.

I like the way you think I think this could work. Works on mine

[navillusc]

Originally Posted by TwoforFun

Advise women to women. Take a nice shower, put on some nice make-up, shoulders up and hold your head up high. Walk to your man and tell him your getting a puppy. That you would love for him to help you search for one.
I think this is something you really want and he needs to support you on that. Find a vet that have low cost vaccines and research all you can on potty training and grooming. Show him you have done your homework and it will not be a burden to him.

Heck, take a shot of tequila if you need a little push to talk to him

Like my friend say's your a "household engineer", you have your rights.

Told DH this. He said, "How come you didn't do that?"

What happened was I said "someone at work's looking for a new home for a Yorkie" and he said "where is he, and how'd he like riding home with you on your motorcycle?"

Didn't think of adding womanly wiles but wasn't looking for agreement, or planning to take Brody that first day...felt 'the connection' when I first saw the flyer...even w/o a picture of Brody. I just 'knew' he was mine but hesitated to tell the lady I wanted him because we'd lost our Shep/Lab only a couple months earlier.

He was not a small dog person before we got Brody, and was never around Yorkies. He has now said many times, "I didn't think I'd like having little dogs, but these little guys are just so great."

[TwoforFun]

Originally Posted by navillusc

Told DH this. He said, "How come you didn't do that?"

Now ladies, you know with a little bit of mascara and a few winks your man will do anything for you all

Please let us know how your conquest goes. I have a few other tricks up my sleeve if you need more recommendations

[navillusc]

Originally Posted by TwoforFun

Now ladies, you know with a little bit of mascara and a few winks your man will do anything for you all

Please let us know how your conquest goes. I have a few other tricks up my sleeve if you need more recommendations

I kinda think stuff like this works on all XY's. I just never learned how to properly use the technique !

(XY = 'broken 'X' chromosome syndrome' sufferers)

[Potter]

My husband never wanted a dog. Reason being, he never had one thought it'd dirty the house to have an indoor dog and doesn't know how to take care of one nor what to do with one. I grew up with dogs so I just kept on talking and talking about dogs and wanting one.He gave in one day although he wasn't happy about it. I was lonely being alone most of the time, I think that was part of the reason he agreed. His friend had a Yorkie and he thought that little guy was cool. His friend's Yorkie is strong-willed and playful and hubby liked it. He was even all grumpy when we went to get our puppy. Fast forward 6-8 months later, he give kisses and hugs and walks our Yorkie. Now 6 years later, hubby is totally smitten with our dog. The 6-8 months transition wasn't easy though but I stood up for the puppy when husband is wrong.

Though I can say I know what it feels like when people laugh at you when you are talking. I have snapped for the same reason and have gained some respect out of it but it was a journey itself.

[Monieh30]

@ Potter, I would love for my situation to turn out like yours.
I'm gonna keep trying.

Monieh30

[Monieh30]

@ Navillusc, I agree with you . My technique is not the best. But with everyone's help I will just fine. I hope.

[Jacksmom052709]

Good luck Monieh!

[heartmyyorkie]

Originally Posted by gemy

I went back and looked at the question asked by the OP - need help in convincing my husband.....

She explained a bit of her home situation; that which she though was pertinent to the inquiry. She included the age of her son 15yrs old, which enables responders to understand that she is a mature woman; the length of her marriage 18 yrs, and finally somewhat about why she wants a pup.

How each responder answered the question was under the backdrop of this information.
Some responded and shared their experience in getting a pup: ie; I did the get pup and asked forgiveness; and all worked out.
Some pointed out in their belief systems; that better have your hubby on board prior to committing to a pup; and elaborated "why".
Some shared how they broached the subject with their husband, and why they did it that way; ie overcoming some stated hurdle in the decision making process.
Some commented on her situation as described and expressed concern over what appears to be an overarching problem in their relationship that "the puppy question is perhaps an example of".

Each and every comment can provide this mature woman another point of view, provide if you will a landscape of richness she hadn't seen yet. An opportunity to think about the problem in a different way. That is the pro's of an on line forum.

the reality of this situation and any other situation of "persuading someone" to do this or that, or agree to this or that; is that there are no Magic questions; no universal kindof "gotcha now question".

What we can share is our own individual experiences with a husband that is "initially reluctant or even opposed", and how we got from there to our new "puppy".

For myself I prefer to assume this lady is of matured intelligence, capable of separating responses with her critical thinking skills. After all she did find this forum, and in a subsequent post seems to want to stay here and learn.

To the OP, if you've not been on a forum before, some threads can delightfully digress, meander, and argue back n forth, about this or that.

I for one, hope you stay and ask what-ever question is on your mind and heart.

Great advice!!!!

It's all about taking in the opinions of others and applying them to your unique situation, because only she knows what will work and what won't in her household.

[heartmyyorkie]

We have only had a big dog(Lab) since we got married, thus supporting the big dog equals manliness & small dog equals sissy boy, skewed perception my husband had?!?!? I still laugh at this! Well, I finally convinced him that I need a 'girly dog'. He finally relented 9 months ago and I got my darling Pita. The hubs still tries to act tough and call Pita a mommy's girl but he's come a long way and plays with her, let's her give him kisses, he snorts at her to get her to play with him, he always wants her to go outside with him, it's sooo flippin cute! Some guys just need to experience having one around and then they get hooked. Good luck, praying that everything works out for you!

[DBlain]

I know this is a no no but I just do not have time to read every response, so hopefully I am not repeating to much, but I do have a suggestion. My husband has said no several times before, but this last time he was very firm. We have been married 22 years and both are very independent. I work from home so caring for the dog is something I do about 95% of the time, so that was not a concern. He has an expensive hobby that I would like him to give up, offshore boating, and spends a lot of money and time working on the boat. I would like him to give this hobby up but he will not. So one day I sat him down and very seriously said, look you know I would prefer you give up the boat, not only do you spend a lot of money on it but you also spend hours tending to your hobby, you are either cleaning it or working on it and and don't even realize how often I am left alone while you do this. Well how would you feel if I said sorry absolutely no more boats, what would you do, would you give it up an feel resentful or just ignore me and keep it. Well I am starting to feel strongly about having a dog to keep me company, and I want one. It's just like you feel about your boat and it is not fair of you to deny me this since I don't deny you yours. Like you do with your boat the majority of the responsibility with the dog will be mine so why are you objecting so much? Hopefully your husband has something he likes that you can use as an example. If you do want to have a serious conversation like this, type it all out, think of what type of objections he may have so you are prepared. Also tell him upfront you want him to listen to you completely before commenting. Nothing like having him butt in and derail the conversation before you get part way through it.

Be prepared though to do most of the work yourself. Yorkies as others have said are HARD to housebreak, and some are quite noisy and bark a lot, so be well prepared if you come home with one. I slept in the guestroom for almost a week with the new puppy till I was assured that she would sleep through the night without making noise. I also make sure not to ask him to do much for the dog and if I ever complain he will say well you wanted the dog, it's your dog deal with it, so I have learned to keep any annoyances to myself. LOL he is totally smitten with Lola and seems to be very happy we have her, but he still does not want to be burdened with the work. good luck

[DBlain]

In order to really give you the best advise I think if we knew a few more things would be helpful to know so I hope you don't mind me asking

Does your husband give you actual reasons to why no dog?
Did he have dogs or other pets as a kid, is so what type
Does he seem to like dogs when you visit at friends or relatives houses that have them
Do you work full time outside of the house
Do you have your own money

Sorry if you think this is to nosey, but it might help us understand your situation better

[lovespandp]

Dh had big dogs before I came around, I always had cats growing up. Ever since my Gma had a silky I wanted one, then I found out about yorkies and I was hooked. I told myself I was going to get on when I move out!

I met my DH and moved out I told him I wanted one he said they were too expensive He would always go do things I couldn't do, like he has a street bike, he will go ride it on a weekend with his friends, I can go but I dont bc it hurts my back and its unsafe for us- I told him if I had a dog I wouldnt complain when he leaves me to go ride... He just kinda blew me off

Well one day I brought home Peanut! He was drinking with some of his friends at the house so it was a perfect time He thought I was dog watching LoL I said nope hes ours!! I really dont think he believed me till the next day!

I told him if I keep him I wouldn't care about him leaving to do guy things I would be content with my Peanut! He kinda like that idea- After that the idea of having a little dog just blew over. DH came from having Mastiffs so he didnt really like small dogs. Dh really didnt interact with Pnut, until maybe 2 months into having him. I would come home and look for Pnut and couldnt find him, I would call DH and he would say oh ya I have him, we will be home later

That's how that turned out LoL. Now DH loves Pnut to death!! I even tricked him the other day and said "what if I wanted to get rid of Pnut, what would you do" He said " I wouldn't get rid of him if you didnt want him you would just have to deal with it" That made me feel better bc the first month of having Pnut DH kept asking for his papers so he could sell him LoL

I hope you are able to talk your hubby into it. I think a Yorkie would be great for you! Peanut has brought me tons of love and happiness!!

[Monieh30]

@lovespanddp. That's a great story. Our weekend was great I didn't mention anything about a puppy because I plan on gradually back up. On Tuesday my son turned the TV to a dog rescue show. The Human Society and police were rescuing abandon and dog fitting pit bulls. Hubby stated, I thought the dogs would be viscous towards all humans after they were taught to fight. I explained to him noooo. Dogs can sense many things.... He's never had a dog as a pet. They would just feed the stray dogs if and when one came to their house. That was a very sad show .sad..sad..sad. I'm just taking it show. Baby step.

Monieh30

[navillusc]

Originally Posted by Monieh30

@lovespanddp. ...On Tuesday my son turned the TV to a dog rescue show. The Human Society and police were rescuing abandon and dog fitting pit bulls. Hubby stated, I thought the dogs would be viscous towards all humans after they were taught to fight. I explained to him noooo. Dogs can sense many things.......I'm just taking it show. Baby step.

Monieh30

I have seen those shows...it is heartbreaking to see what the animals go through, and uplifting to see how they respond to love despite their tragic pasts.

But, just look at how other things not under your control are helping 'steer' toward your goal. To me, that makes your goal appear to the 'right' direction. You go, girl !!!