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DBlain · 01-24-2012, 07:31 AM

I know this is a no no but I just do not have time to read every response, so hopefully I am not repeating to much, but I do have a suggestion. My husband has said no several times before, but this last time he was very firm. We have been married 22 years and both are very independent. I work from home so caring for the dog is something I do about 95% of the time, so that was not a concern. He has an expensive hobby that I would like him to give up, offshore boating, and spends a lot of money and time working on the boat. I would like him to give this hobby up but he will not. So one day I sat him down and very seriously said, look you know I would prefer you give up the boat, not only do you spend a lot of money on it but you also spend hours tending to your hobby, you are either cleaning it or working on it and and don't even realize how often I am left alone while you do this. Well how would you feel if I said sorry absolutely no more boats, what would you do, would you give it up an feel resentful or just ignore me and keep it. Well I am starting to feel strongly about having a dog to keep me company, and I want one. It's just like you feel about your boat and it is not fair of you to deny me this since I don't deny you yours. Like you do with your boat the majority of the responsibility with the dog will be mine so why are you objecting so much? Hopefully your husband has something he likes that you can use as an example. If you do want to have a serious conversation like this, type it all out, think of what type of objections he may have so you are prepared. Also tell him upfront you want him to listen to you completely before commenting. Nothing like having him butt in and derail the conversation before you get part way through it.

Be prepared though to do most of the work yourself. Yorkies as others have said are HARD to housebreak, and some are quite noisy and bark a lot, so be well prepared if you come home with one. I slept in the guestroom for almost a week with the new puppy till I was assured that she would sleep through the night without making noise. I also make sure not to ask him to do much for the dog and if I ever complain he will say well you wanted the dog, it's your dog deal with it, so I have learned to keep any annoyances to myself. LOL he is totally smitten with Lola and seems to be very happy we have her, but he still does not want to be burdened with the work. good luck

01-24-2012, 07:31 AM	#86
DBlain Donating YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Oakland County MI Posts: 6,190	I know this is a no no but I just do not have time to read every response, so hopefully I am not repeating to much, but I do have a suggestion. My husband has said no several times before, but this last time he was very firm. We have been married 22 years and both are very independent. I work from home so caring for the dog is something I do about 95% of the time, so that was not a concern. He has an expensive hobby that I would like him to give up, offshore boating, and spends a lot of money and time working on the boat. I would like him to give this hobby up but he will not. So one day I sat him down and very seriously said, look you know I would prefer you give up the boat, not only do you spend a lot of money on it but you also spend hours tending to your hobby, you are either cleaning it or working on it and and don't even realize how often I am left alone while you do this. Well how would you feel if I said sorry absolutely no more boats, what would you do, would you give it up an feel resentful or just ignore me and keep it. Well I am starting to feel strongly about having a dog to keep me company, and I want one. It's just like you feel about your boat and it is not fair of you to deny me this since I don't deny you yours. Like you do with your boat the majority of the responsibility with the dog will be mine so why are you objecting so much? Hopefully your husband has something he likes that you can use as an example. If you do want to have a serious conversation like this, type it all out, think of what type of objections he may have so you are prepared. Also tell him upfront you want him to listen to you completely before commenting. Nothing like having him butt in and derail the conversation before you get part way through it. Be prepared though to do most of the work yourself. Yorkies as others have said are HARD to housebreak, and some are quite noisy and bark a lot, so be well prepared if you come home with one. I slept in the guestroom for almost a week with the new puppy till I was assured that she would sleep through the night without making noise. I also make sure not to ask him to do much for the dog and if I ever complain he will say well you wanted the dog, it's your dog deal with it, so I have learned to keep any annoyances to myself. LOL he is totally smitten with Lola and seems to be very happy we have her, but he still does not want to be burdened with the work. good luck Last edited by DBlain; 01-24-2012 at 07:35 AM.