coyote

[marilynsue]

I havent stopped crying since 4 yesterday. i know I should celebrate her life for she had a very good 7 years and was treated like a queen. But i loved her so much, life without her will not be the same.

[sganow]

The 2 we lost were a little bit older. Misty was 12 and couldn't use her back legs anymore. She couldn't stand, was losing control of her bladder, and was crying and miserable. She had hip surgery at the university in Ames, IA and the vets there told us we would be lucky if she made it to 6-8 yrs old. Meadow had cancer and battled that for awhile. It finally overtook her. That was the hardest one of all. They are both sorely missed, and yes we have regrets every day thinking we could have done more for them. We still get a little misty-eyed when we think of them.

Please take care of yourself! I know the pain you are going through, but don't let it consume you. You gave Elly May the gift of love, and she gave the same to you. Hold her memories and love dear to your heart. The grief we feel when losing one of our loved ones is very powerful. You have friends here and don't feel you cannot contact people for support. When you are ready, don't be afraid to let another baby into your heart. It won't be replacing Elly May, but rather a new baby to love and to love you back. I honestly believe Elly May will help guide you to your new baby when you are ready. You have a lot of love to give. Open your heart. It will help. It did for us anyway. I wish you well and hope you take everyone's advice and take good care of yourself. That's most important right now. Please keep in touch and let us all know how you're doing.

[Princes mom]

I am so sorry for your loss. How tragic. Rest in peace sweet baby girl.

[marilynsue]

thank you so much for your kind words. they mean alot to me. i have so much love to give and now she isnt here to recieve it. i will think about another dog but right now i dont think i am ready for it.
you guys also take care of each other and enjoy every moment you have with your doggie.

Love,
Marilyn

[linda44]

I am so very sorry for your loss. I agree, time and God heals. I got my first yorkie after loosing my 18 yr old springer. My springer, Missy was with me continuously, she took care of me when my son died. About 6 months after loosing her and swearing off another dog because I hurt so badly, my son said, Mom you are just not the same without your dog, you need to start thinking of getting another. That got me to think about yorkies, (something way different than my Missy). Well my son, DIL, DH, and mom went in together and got my first yorkie Suki. Shes now 9 yrs old, and guess what? I have 6 more to boot! Missy will be in my heart and thoughts always, but God has given me a chance to love these little yorkie angels.....

Thank you for posting, even in your grief. Hopefully other folks who live in areas that have coyotes will take extra precautions. Hopefully your story will save another pups life.

[DJDB]

Marilyn, I can empathize with you completely. I had a wonderful cat named Simone for 7 years. She helped me through the toughest time in my life, and was a wonderful companion. She wasn't perfect - had a weepy eye and hip and leg problems, so she walked with a wobble. But she was the perfect friend for me. I wanted to keep her safe so she was indoor only (we live in an area where there are coyotes, hawks, racoons, etc). Sadly, last spring she managed to escape out of the house undetected. We didn't know she was missing until the next morning. We never saw her again even though we searched and searched. I'm starting to cry now just thinking about it. I still cry when I look at her picture. She deserves to be in heaven, and I'm sure that's where she is, but it was so hard to lose her so suddenly. I cried every day until we found Ozzy. We had him less than three weeks after Simone disappeared because I so missed giving love and I was so, so sad, just as you describe yourself. Since we found Oz, I smile every day and laugh out loud most days. Yes, I still miss Simone. She will always be with me. But having a pup to love and spoil has helped make life seem more "normal" and makes me feel good. I hope that time and prayer will help you. I know it's too soon right now, but when you're ready, I'm sure you'll give another puppy as wonderful a life as you gave Elly May.

[celstu1]

Oh marilynsue, I am so sorry for your loss. Whenever I let my boys outside at night, I stand over them like a mama bear. I am so terrified that something will get into my yard and snatch them away from me. I would go insane with grief also.
I do not think age plays a part in the amount of grief you feel, I am 35 now, but when I was 28 I went through the most painful thing in my life. During that time, my precious first Yorkie, who was only 5 months old died tragically. I thought I died inside. It was almost too much pain and loss for me to bear. After a month when my situation calmed down a bit, I got 2 more yorkies. Nothing healed my heart and opened me up again like these boys do! Consider another baby in due time. It's not a replacement for elly, its a baby for you to love and who will love you. (((HUGS))) RIP Elly!

[lucky999]

Originally Posted by marilynsue

I just lost my yorkie Elly May 4 hours ago. A coyuote took her. I am ripped apart inside and cant cope. she was my best friend and i loved her sso much. i am 62 years old and at my age it is devestating to me. I cant stop crying. how does one go on with this happening

Sorry to hear....it is fine to grieve...it'll take some time...but keep thinking of the great memories...

[shodanusmc]

You may want to see your family Doc to receive a med to take the edge off for a while.

We back up to a Forest Preserve and there are Coyoyes around us. We never let the Yorkeis out without one of us going with them. We really miss their big protector Carlo who we used to let out first just in casr there was anything in the yard.

You WILL get thru this.

[enchilila]

I am so sorry you lost your precious Elly May the way it happened. Below is a link that is posted in this forum under "In Memory Of". I hope you can find some useful ways to cope with your loss. My heart breaks for you.

Rest in peace Elly May.

http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/mem...-pet-loss.html

[NrfnKiva]

that link helped me considerably...

HUGS

[Doodlebug]

Marilyn, I am so sorry you lost your little baby Elly May. I know you are going through a terrible time but I hope you will take care of yourself as best as you can. I don't think there is anything we can really do to protect our babies 100% from danger even though we all try to do all we can to keep them safe. I know you are heartbroken and my heart breaks for you. I will say a prayer for you. Hugs... Jean

[Teresa Ford]

So very sorry for your loss. Prayers for you.

[marilynsue]

dear sweet people, i want to thank eacha nd every one of you for your kind words. They have helped me so much. My husband was with elly may when the coyote took her. he couldnt get elly away from him. there were two of them and the 2nd one was after our other yorkie but my husband saved her. she is his pet while elly was mine. i do tthink i will get another yorkie but with money being so tight now i will have to save since my husband just retired. again thank you everyone, its nice to have a place to come to to cry and not be made fun of cause as some people say, "Its just a pet."
She was more then that to me, she is a part of my heart that will beat forever

[kjc]

Originally Posted by marilynsue

Kathy, thank you so much for your very kind words. I see from your writing that you have also gone thru my exact pain. My chest hurts where my heart feels broken. She followed me around every where. She was so dedecated to me. Always by my side. this morning she was not there to say good morning mommy. My face burns from the many tears I have shed for her. I know she is with God now and that she is running around and having a good time. I pray that I will see her again, she needs me as well as i need her. I do have another yorkie here but she is attached to my husband and elly was mine. my other yorkie is not at all like elly, bonnie is not lovable like elly and she is old and not playful. I dont see myself getting another dog cause i could never replace my elly, no dog in the world could do that.
with in the past 3 years I have lost my mother, father, close aunt and uncle and now elly. My last child also left for college a few years back and that was horrible also. Sorry to be going on this way but all kinds of things are running thru my head right now.
Thank you to each and everyone of you for your thoughts and prayers. I and Elly truly appreciate them.


Love,
Marilyn

Originally Posted by marilynsue

i feel like i am going to go insane, it hurts so bad,

I have to say these painful feelings are not unique to you or me. Many who have suffered either a tragic loss or a loss due to illness feel the same type of pain. It is scary though as no one is prepared for the intensity of this kind of pain, and many have had problems resuming their lives after a loss of a beloved pet.

A new Yorkie or dog would never be a 'replacement' for the one who has passed. Even cloned animals develope differently. I make comparisons, but I embrace their differences, as each one is unique. I thought I would never have the bond with another Yorkie as I had with my first one. I was oh so wrong! Some are harder to bond with, but it is possible with a little effort.

I went for two years without a Yorkie after my first passed at 16 years of cancer. I was so sad, and hardly ever smiled. I finally told my husband I could no longer live without a Yorkie in my life. I was tired of being so unhappy most of the time. When I got the next one, I remember waking up and seeing that adorable face, saying, okay Mommie, I am ready to start the day! And I smiled for two weeks straight, so much my face hurt. I wasted two years. I know now that my Sophie Anne would never have wanted me to be so sad for so long over her passing, and that she would have wanted me to share my love for her with another, instead of letting it go to waste. No they are never replacements, they are additions! Now I have four! Just sharing the love!

Go to the forum section here: In Memory Of... (R.I.P.) - YorkieTalk.com Forums - Yorkshire Terrier Community

I hope this helps you. Know you are not alone. Many of us are close to your age, too, many are older on here. You are allowed to grieve for as long as you need to, and you are allowed to cry as much as you want, for as long as you want. Drink plenty of water though so you don't get dehydrated. One day you may feel like crying, but then no tears will come. It all takes time, and each one of us experiences things differently, but with many things being similar. We do understand and will be here to support you anytime you need us. If you feel like you're going insane, log on and we will bring you back to reality. We will hug you and cry with you, and try to help you anyway we can.

I have to go now, but I'll be back.
Big HUGS to you,
Kathy