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Originally Posted by marilynsue  Kathy, thank you so much for your very kind words. I see from your writing that you have also gone thru my exact pain. My chest hurts where my heart feels broken. She followed me around every where. She was so dedecated to me. Always by my side. this morning she was not there to say good morning mommy. My face burns from the many tears I have shed for her. I know she is with God now and that she is running around and having a good time. I pray that I will see her again, she needs me as well as i need her. I do have another yorkie here but she is attached to my husband and elly was mine. my other yorkie is not at all like elly, bonnie is not lovable like elly and she is old and not playful. I dont see myself getting another dog cause i could never replace my elly, no dog in the world could do that.
with in the past 3 years I have lost my mother, father, close aunt and uncle and now elly. My last child also left for college a few years back and that was horrible also. Sorry to be going on this way but all kinds of things are running thru my head right now.
Thank you to each and everyone of you for your thoughts and prayers. I and Elly truly appreciate them.
Love,
Marilyn |
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Originally Posted by marilynsue i feel like i am going to go insane, it hurts so bad, |
I have to say these painful feelings are not unique to you or me. Many who have suffered either a tragic loss or a loss due to illness feel the same type of pain. It is scary though as no one is prepared for the intensity of this kind of pain, and many have had problems resuming their lives after a loss of a beloved pet.
A new Yorkie or dog would never be a 'replacement' for the one who has passed. Even cloned animals develope differently. I make comparisons, but I embrace their differences, as each one is unique. I thought I would never have the bond with another Yorkie as I had with my first one. I was oh so wrong! Some are harder to bond with, but it is possible with a little effort.
I went for two years without a Yorkie after my first passed at 16 years of cancer. I was so sad, and hardly ever smiled. I finally told my husband I could no longer live without a Yorkie in my life. I was tired of being so unhappy most of the time. When I got the next one, I remember waking up and seeing that adorable face, saying, okay Mommie, I am ready to start the day! And I smiled for two weeks straight, so much my face hurt. I wasted two years. I know now that my Sophie Anne would never have wanted me to be so sad for so long over her passing, and that she would have wanted me to share my love for her with another, instead of letting it go to waste. No they are never replacements, they are additions! Now I have four! Just sharing the love!
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I hope this helps you. Know you are not alone. Many of us are close to your age, too, many are older on here. You are allowed to grieve for as long as you need to, and you are allowed to cry as much as you want, for as long as you want. Drink plenty of water though so you don't get dehydrated. One day you may feel like crying, but then no tears will come. It all takes time, and each one of us experiences things differently, but with many things being similar. We do understand and will be here to support you anytime you need us. If you feel like you're going insane, log on and we will bring you back to reality. We will hug you and cry with you, and try to help you anyway we can.
I have to go now, but I'll be back.
Big HUGS to you,
Kathy