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tegamom1 · 11-21-2011, 08:36 AM

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Originally Posted by KazzyK810

I would rehome the husband before I'd rehome my dog.

Roccosmommy · 11-21-2011, 08:51 AM

I would say that if your husband can demand you get "rid of" a dog after 2 months, that speaks volumes of his feelings (rather, lack therof) towards animals. How can anyone so easily give up an animal after it has been in the family for 2 months, let alone one that was already rehomed??? What happens if/when you get one of these darling little pups with his blessing, and then there are potty training accidents and vet bills (which WILL happen)? Will he then demand you "get rid of" another puppy? As much as it sounds like you really want a pup, I don't think it would be the best environment if everyone isn't completely on board.

These babies are not returnable or disposable, they are a part of the family and deserve to be regarded as such.

beecee · 11-21-2011, 08:54 AM

And this is why I don't plan on getting married. I want what I want and that's that

lvtyorkie · 11-21-2011, 09:01 AM

Please don't get another puppy until you and your husband agree. I fear you are teaching your children that puppies are disposable and can be replaced easily. I understand your desire to have a dog, but maybe you should look into another breed that is able to be outside more. It is a commitment that should never be taken lightly. Wishing you the best!

chattiesmom · 11-21-2011, 09:16 AM

I may be speaking (or rather typing) out of turn here, but it sounds more like a relationship problem -- lack of mutual respect and insecurity and not a dog problem. The only ones to suffer are the innocents - the kids and the dog.

Rhetts_mama · 11-21-2011, 09:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Roccosmommy

I would say that if your husband can demand you get "rid of" a dog after 2 months, that speaks volumes of his feelings (rather, lack therof) towards animals.

Conversely, couldn't you also say it speaks volumes about her lack of respect about his feelings? He didn't want a dog, she knew that but snuck one in any way. Not everyone is a dog/cat/kid person and they shouldn't be forced to accept something just because their partner wants it and is sneaky.

MOM2CHLOE · 11-21-2011, 09:41 AM

You people are very judgemental!!!!! You know very little about me and my family(just about the situation I have told you) and yet I have been called a bad mother,wife and dog owner numerous times in the past 18 hours. I did not ask your opinion as to what kind of person you thought I was for making a mistake in the past(that I have learnt from),and I am sorry that I am not as perfect as some of you think you are. I simply asked if anyone had had a similar problem and how they handled it.
If I want to bring 10 dogs home it is not any of your business and if I have to feel like I am defending myself all the time here then it isn't a place I want to hang out.
I have read lots of posts on here and over and over people keep getting smacked around by the members here. I deal with enough negativity on a day to day basis with my job working with the public,I don't need anymore in my life. If this is how it is going to be,I will go elsewhere for questions and support in things I need help with.
I have plainly said that I would not get another dog if he wasn't on board completely and supports the decision.
I am not a mean person and I am not trying to start any drama but I am a 40 year old women and I don't appreciate being talked to like I'm a stupid person with no life experiences,yes,I made a mistake,no,I am not perfect,but you don't have to tell me how horrible I am for it!!!!!!!!

DJDB · 11-21-2011, 09:44 AM

Do not get a dog.

I experienced this type of thing with a cat. Had a cat. Boyfriend came next. Boyfriend did not want cat. Boyfriend was mean to cat. Was safter for cat to have a new home, even though it broke my heart to let her go. Later, got rid of boyfriend, too, after realizing he was simply a d*ck. New boyfriend, new puppy. All good.

Rhetts_mama · 11-21-2011, 12:42 PM

Ahhh, the "J" word, I knew it would be thrown around sooner or later as soon as the OP didn't hear what she wanted.

Let's see, a dog is snuck in to a house, left outside, dumped on someone else after 2 months and then the OP starts another thread proclaiming her husband the "problem" and wanting advice on how to convince him to do something he has been very clear that he does not want.

Yep, I can totally see how judgmental posters are the problem

(Goes to sit on the curb and wait for the inevitable 3 page blah, blah, blah from the polite police.)

concretegurl · 11-21-2011, 12:57 PM

Was Chloe real?

If so:

You said you had depression issues and Chloe

aided you with it, are you also in therapy?

It may help you to discuss this with your therapist and not on a public forum where you are now attacking people.

Please take this thread to your therapist so they can help you work all this out.

Best of luck hope it all works out for you.

I am still very concerned you failed to respond to where CHLOE Even went...yet you chose the screen name MOM2CHLOE...that's very weird IMHO.

Yes please take this to your therapist (or a one you find) and I think they can better assist you in working this issue out-you know marriage counseling is incredible.

Marriage counseling might be a great idea for you too! It's not always a sign of issues, it can also be just for fine tuning and hey maybe the therapist would be a dog lover and convince him of what you are in serious need of.

But I digress, what do I know I'm from CA we think everyone needs a Guru, healer, therapist and about 10 other consults and assistants in their lives. We did invent life coaches out here...

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Originally Posted by MOM2CHLOE

You people are very judgemental!!!!! You know very little about me and my family(just about the situation I have told you) and yet I have been called a bad mother,wife and dog owner numerous times in the past 18 hours. I did not ask your opinion as to what kind of person you thought I was for making a mistake in the past(that I have learnt from),and I am sorry that I am not as perfect as some of you think you are. I simply asked if anyone had had a similar problem and how they handled it.
If I want to bring 10 dogs home it is not any of your business and if I have to feel like I am defending myself all the time here then it isn't a place I want to hang out.
I have read lots of posts on here and over and over people keep getting smacked around by the members here. I deal with enough negativity on a day to day basis with my job working with the public,I don't need anymore in my life. If this is how it is going to be,I will go elsewhere for questions and support in things I need help with.
I have plainly said that I would not get another dog if he wasn't on board completely and supports the decision.
I am not a mean person and I am not trying to start any drama but I am a 40 year old women and I don't appreciate being talked to like I'm a stupid person with no life experiences,yes,I made a mistake,no,I am not perfect,but you don't have to tell me how horrible I am for it!!!!!!!!

concretegurl · 11-21-2011, 01:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Rhetts_mama

(Goes to sit on the curb and wait for the inevitable 3 page blah, blah, blah from the polite police.)

Don't do it Rhett_mama!

Even wonder why police do that I'm just sayin' well I would say, "um no thank you, the curb is dirty, just plain nasty-would you sit on it?"

Infringing on my right to cleanliness!

Then again in order to be able to say that I'll have to do something naughty to get the police to tell me to go sit down on the curb...sorry OT ranting just thought I'd share how I feel about that.

TeddyGrahams · 11-21-2011, 01:07 PM

Now I totally understand that thread about taking advice...*sighs*

Everyone on here LOVES yorkies, probably more than they love people you gotta understand that it's the love for the DOGS that brought us here and in general any advice is going to be toward the best interest of the DOG. Your relationship is not my concern, and I wasn't trying to judge you on the whole sneaking the dog in, but it was a bad decision for the dog and you want to bring another one in? Of course i'm not going to agree with you and tell you to get another dog. From what you said, your husband is very clear on not wanting another. You can keep poking and prodding until he lets you but ultimately if he's not on board fully because he WANTS to, then you can't just force him to be. It's not a "problem husband" as it is an individual really wanting to get their way without trying to work out the root of the issue.

This is just based off of what you said, and my advice to you is to work out your issues before bringing another dog into the mix, it's absolutely unfair to the next animal.

manolos mom · 11-21-2011, 01:18 PM

I suggest you take a good look in the mirror. We were only stating our

opinons. This is an open forum and you asked for our opionion. So take the

good and the bad from this thread and learn from it!! Please do not get

another dog. And by the way you still have not answered the question,

WHERE IS CHLOE?

myteddybear · 11-21-2011, 01:24 PM

She answered that in post #26

Teegy · 11-21-2011, 01:58 PM

Maybe because her husband won't side with her she came on her looking for someone to agree with her and because we love our babies to bits doesn't mean we disrespect or ignore the choices of our partners and have tried to give her some advise.
A rescue wouldn't give her a dog if she went and told them that.
Any good dog owner would tell her it's not up for consideration your entire family has to be a part of the dogs life and the dog theirs.
If my husband or partner "hated" animals it would be the last thing I'd be doing. Mind you I wouldn't be with someone who hated animals

11-21-2011, 08:51 AM	#32
Roccosmommy Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 1,293	I would say that if your husband can demand you get "rid of" a dog after 2 months, that speaks volumes of his feelings (rather, lack therof) towards animals. How can anyone so easily give up an animal after it has been in the family for 2 months, let alone one that was already rehomed??? What happens if/when you get one of these darling little pups with his blessing, and then there are potty training accidents and vet bills (which WILL happen)? Will he then demand you "get rid of" another puppy? As much as it sounds like you really want a pup, I don't think it would be the best environment if everyone isn't completely on board. These babies are not returnable or disposable, they are a part of the family and deserve to be regarded as such. __________________ "The little furry buggers are just deep, deep wells you throw all your emotions into." ~ Bruce Schimmel Last edited by Roccosmommy; 11-21-2011 at 08:53 AM.

11-21-2011, 08:54 AM	#33
beecee Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Phoenix Posts: 626	And this is why I don't plan on getting married. I want what I want and that's that __________________ Nikita - - ChiChi - Jimmy - - My Yelp Profile Those who are free of resentful thoughts surely find peace. -Buddha

11-21-2011, 09:16 AM	#35
chattiesmom Donating YT 10K Club Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Alabama Posts: 17,674	I may be speaking (or rather typing) out of turn here, but it sounds more like a relationship problem -- lack of mutual respect and insecurity and not a dog problem. The only ones to suffer are the innocents - the kids and the dog. __________________ Silk Step-In Harnesses www.foxypups.etsy.com Last edited by chattiesmom; 11-21-2011 at 09:18 AM.

11-21-2011, 09:44 AM	#38
DJDB YT Addict Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Abbotsford, BC, Canada Posts: 466	Do not get a dog. I experienced this type of thing with a cat. Had a cat. Boyfriend came next. Boyfriend did not want cat. Boyfriend was mean to cat. Was safter for cat to have a new home, even though it broke my heart to let her go. Later, got rid of boyfriend, too, after realizing he was simply a dck. New boyfriend, new puppy. All good. __________________ David & Denise* ... proud parents of Ozzy Last edited by DJDB; 11-21-2011 at 09:47 AM.

11-21-2011, 12:42 PM	#39
Rhetts_mama Donating YT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Georgia Posts: 5,959 Blog Entries: 1	Ahhh, the "J" word, I knew it would be thrown around sooner or later as soon as the OP didn't hear what she wanted. Let's see, a dog is snuck in to a house, left outside, dumped on someone else after 2 months and then the OP starts another thread proclaiming her husband the "problem" and wanting advice on how to convince him to do something he has been very clear that he does not want. Yep, I can totally see how judgmental posters are the problem (Goes to sit on the curb and wait for the inevitable 3 page blah, blah, blah from the polite police.) __________________ Don't get your knickers in a knot. Nothing is solved and it just makes you walk funny.

11-21-2011, 09:01 AM	#34
lvtyorkie Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Post Falls, Idaho Posts: 80	Please don't get another puppy until you and your husband agree. I fear you are teaching your children that puppies are disposable and can be replaced easily. I understand your desire to have a dog, but maybe you should look into another breed that is able to be outside more. It is a commitment that should never be taken lightly. Wishing you the best!

11-21-2011, 09:41 AM	#37
MOM2CHLOE No Longer a Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: in a happier place than this Posts: 8	You people are very judgemental!!!!! You know very little about me and my family(just about the situation I have told you) and yet I have been called a bad mother,wife and dog owner numerous times in the past 18 hours. I did not ask your opinion as to what kind of person you thought I was for making a mistake in the past(that I have learnt from),and I am sorry that I am not as perfect as some of you think you are. I simply asked if anyone had had a similar problem and how they handled it. If I want to bring 10 dogs home it is not any of your business and if I have to feel like I am defending myself all the time here then it isn't a place I want to hang out. I have read lots of posts on here and over and over people keep getting smacked around by the members here. I deal with enough negativity on a day to day basis with my job working with the public,I don't need anymore in my life. If this is how it is going to be,I will go elsewhere for questions and support in things I need help with. I have plainly said that I would not get another dog if he wasn't on board completely and supports the decision. I am not a mean person and I am not trying to start any drama but I am a 40 year old women and I don't appreciate being talked to like I'm a stupid person with no life experiences,yes,I made a mistake,no,I am not perfect,but you don't have to tell me how horrible I am for it!!!!!!!!

11-21-2011, 01:07 PM	#42
TeddyGrahams Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Texas Posts: 175	Now I totally understand that thread about taking advice...sighs Everyone on here LOVES yorkies, probably more than they love people you gotta understand that it's the love for the DOGS that brought us here and in general any advice is going to be toward the best interest of the DOG. Your relationship is not my concern, and I wasn't trying to judge you on the whole sneaking the dog in, but it was a bad decision for the dog and you want to bring another one in? Of course i'm not going to agree with you and tell you to get another dog. From what you said, your husband is very clear on not wanting another. You can keep poking and prodding until he lets you but ultimately if he's not on board fully because he WANTS to, then you can't just force him to be. It's not a "problem husband" as it is an individual really wanting to get their way without trying to work out the root of the issue. This is just based off of what you said, and my advice to you is to work out your issues before bringing another dog into the mix, it's absolutely unfair to the next animal. __________________ Dee and Teddy Grahams

11-21-2011, 01:18 PM	#43
manolos mom Donating YT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Texas Posts: 7,982	I suggest you take a good look in the mirror. We were only stating our opinons. This is an open forum and you asked for our opionion. So take the good and the bad from this thread and learn from it!! Please do not get another dog. And by the way you still have not answered the question, WHERE IS CHLOE? __________________ Ethical Breeders follow and support http://www.ytca.org/

11-21-2011, 01:24 PM	#44
myteddybear Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Cambridgeshire, England Posts: 1,208	She answered that in post #26 __________________ Please help save Lennox! http://www.savelennox.co.uk/ Let your voice be heard so Lennox can go home

11-21-2011, 01:58 PM	#45
Teegy Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Toronto, Canada Posts: 2,631	Maybe because her husband won't side with her she came on her looking for someone to agree with her and because we love our babies to bits doesn't mean we disrespect or ignore the choices of our partners and have tried to give her some advise. A rescue wouldn't give her a dog if she went and told them that. Any good dog owner would tell her it's not up for consideration your entire family has to be a part of the dogs life and the dog theirs. If my husband or partner "hated" animals it would be the last thing I'd be doing. Mind you I wouldn't be with someone who hated animals